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Using R And R Statements Essay

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Adults in both videos did not use “R and R statements” because they did not describe and help children to understand what children were doing. First, a mother was complaining to her child crying and pulling her, carrying her to outside. The mother lost her temper and kept sending you- Messages instead of I -Messages. She blamed on her child for everything. She didn’t think what the real problem was. She asked to her child, “ Why you do that?”, but this “why questions” were not “open-ended questions.” These questions were more coming from the adult frustration that she could not control over her child. She also called her daughter bad names and treated her child without dignity. The mother was just reacting the situation and made her more miserable. She is a really bad role model for her child. Both mother and caregivers are not effective and active communicators.
Second, at naptime a boy named Joshua seemed like to be given hard time sleeping. The caregiver told Joshua what she wanted him to do. She said,” You don’t have to go to sleep, but you need to lay down and rest. “ I think if she stopped at this sentence, he might not scream. However, she added that playing was not the choice. That adding sentence made him really upset. When caregiver asked Joshua, “why questions” to him, she should let him calm down first. The caregiver placed Joshua’s napping mat isolated from children as if he was timeout. She said,” I am not coming back if you do...”, and she basically told

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