Vicky's 'Walking In The Abused Shoes'

On Wednesday, June 10, 2015, at 4pm I visited a Jersey Battered Women ‘s Services (JBWS) located in Morris plains New Jersey that deals with violence issues. I interviewed Miss Lid, one of the agency personnel. She told me that her name is “Miss Lid for the purpose of the interview and to assure privacy “. Immediately she gave me an overview of the agency and insisted on how proud she is in helping this population because domestic violence represents a major problem in the United States as well as many other parts of the word. She described to me that the mission of JBWS is to prevent domestic violence, protects the victims, counsel them about the dynamics of domestic violence and provide information on potential

Charles Blow in the article, “Surviving Child Sexual Abuse”,argues that child sexual abuse should be taken serious, so other could speak out to their lives. Blow supports his argument by explaining that children will be afraid if they don’t see the help they need because an adult has already harmed them, so they see the rest as a threat. The author purpose is to persuade to help children that are being abused in order to help them understand that not everyone is evil in this world. The author writes in informal tone for the victims of this

The first guest speaker to present was Doreen Lesane, an Advocate against Domestic Violence. She gave a general power point presentation on what domestic violence is and how to properly assist a client in that predicament. She goes on to explain that domestic abuse and domestic violence are consider two different forms under the law. The law does not recognize domestic abuse as a criminal act and is categorize as nonphysical form of abuse. As a social worker our goals is not to get the client to flea an abuse relationship but to provided serveries to better Accommodate client by helping them create safety nets. Prof. Elaine Reid makes a startling claim, woman are more likely to be murder when they are trying to leave an abuse spouse, and this is also refer as separation violence. Nevertheless it is important not to judge these individual and to handle the case in a professional matter. As social workers it is essential that we safety guide our client with their approval, out of domestic situation by providing resource, support, understanding and professional services.

In the article, Abuser & Victim…Alike, the author argues that both the abuser and the victim share responsibility for their situations. This is only true if we choose to believe that such people voluntarily stay and allow the abuse to continue. In this sense, some truth might exist, however, we must remember the lack of control felt by each victim, as well as the emotional torment they experience that serves to trap them in their current situations. Alternatively, it would be difficult for the author to validate such a claim of shared responsibility if the abused were a child, disabled or mentally handicapped person. To a certain degree, the author himself contradicts his previous statement when he comments that “abusers have all the power”.

Laura Jackson spoke as a guest speaker at Texas A&M University-Commerce (where I am proud to be a student) on September 22nd to discuss the importance of healing from sexual, physical, mental, and psychological abuse. Her life story was horrific, but somehow she survived to tell about it. She addressed different topics such as raising awareness about domestic violence and the importance of a personal relationship with God. I was honored to hear her speak and acquired knowledge from her that I can apply to my life and my surroundings.

This paper will go in detail about a conducted in-person interview on a victim advocate named Christine Heer. Christine has a Master’s degree in Social work (MSW), including a Juris Doctor degree (JD). In addition, she is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and a Domestic Violence Specialist (DVS). Christine earned her education at Rutgers University and has been practicing social work for as long as 27 years and is still going strong. She is also part of the NASW Ethics committee. Christine’s work mainly involves with victim assistance services that specializes in family law, collaborative law, mediation, mental health, education and therapy. As of now, she is teaching at Rutgers Continuing Education and the Victim Assistance Academy.

Social workers have explained the situation an abused victim of family violence is in as high cost and low reward (Griffin, 2015). This is because despite feeling anguish the individual is trapped in the plight because the fear of being alone in the world is a worse alternative (Griffin, 2015). Individuals in such situations do not depart until an outside alternative promises them a better life (Griffin, 2015).

On Wednesday, June 10, 2015, at 4pm I visited a Jersey Battered Women ‘s Services (JBWS) located in Morris plains New Jersey that deals with violence issues. I interviewed Miss Lid, one of the agency personnel. She told me that her name is “Miss Lid for the purpose of the interview and to assure privacy “. Immediately she gave me an overview of the agency and insisted on how proud she is in helping this population because domestic violence represents a major problem in the United States as well as many other parts of the word. She described to me that the mission of JBWS is to prevent domestic violence, protects the victims, counsel them about the dynamics of domestic violence and provide information on potential

Domestic violence is a very important social problem that we must educate ourselves on because it has such a profound and negative effect on the individual(s) being abused. They are affected mentally, emotionally, physically, and I know from experience that the scars can run very deep. Being in an abusive relationship for three years was devastating to my self-image as a teenager, and because of these feelings of inadequacy, my decreasing esteem allowed me to stay in such a dangerous scenario. Healing from the negative effects of that relationship has been a difficult journey for me, and I can only imagine how much more difficult it must be for women abused for years on end. To this day, I struggle greatly with the ability to let go of my own "control"

Every choice that an abused woman considers to do with regards in seeking help or ending the relationship involves a variety of risks. Time and time again, the common question arises, “why doesn’t she just leave?” Most often abused women, at great and potentially fatal risk, do leave their abusive relationships. However, there is a multitude of barriers, including increasing abuse and the potential for re-victimization by the system that does not respond accordingly, and most often force many women to return to their abusers. A woman may become vulnerable as she goes through the stages of leaving her abuser. There are many reasons why a woman becomes vulnerable; guilt, denial, and fear may be among a few reasons, though no matter what the

The guilt laid upon a woman by male leadership often leaves women in scary, sickening marriages/relationships. One of the greatest acts of courage for an abuse victim to take is that of following Jesus and not the voices surrounding her. More often than not, the voices in this world are the only voices an abuse victim can hear. She has spent years being verbally beaten making it almost impossible to hear that still small voice of Jesus calling to her heart. The voices of the world are loud, demanding and make it difficult to identify the love of Jesus surrounding her.

It is important to understand why a victim will engage with abusers in order to understand how to stop the cycle of abuse. The victim sees themselves as the problem, not the partners making it easier to blame themselves as the cause of their suffering (Nicholas, 2013). When a person leaves an abusive situation that does not always mean that it is the end of the relationship; this is particularly true if there are children or shared assets because there is a sense of obligation to remain (Baholo et al., 2015). There is little understanding into why women remain with an abusive partner, which makes it harder to track why a woman would have subsequent relationships with partners that exhibit similar abusive tendencies (Bell, Goodman, & Dulton, 2009). There is a lack of understanding of the “bigger picture” which needs to be identified and explored (Bell, Goodman, & Dulton, 2009).

Women who are being abused and controlled by their partners are generally not allowed to engage in the kind of open dialogue that counseling promotes. In fact, a woman who does speak openly to a social worker in the presence of an abusive partner may, in reality, be in serious danger when she returns home. (Golden, 1994) The fear that is created through the abuse makes it difficult for the victim to admit they are being mistreated.

In the article, author, Dr Sallee McLaren attempted to convince readers that domestic abuse victims bear fifty percent of the responsibility for their perpetrator’s

The abuse is usually frequent enough that the victim internalizes it. This leaves the victim feeling fearful, insignificant, untrusting, emotionally needy, and unlovable. Survivors of this form of abuse have a hard time understanding why they feel so bad (Munro, K. 2001.).