Violate Social Norm

Have you ever wondered why we hold the doors for those behind us? How about the reason we use utensils when we eat? What about why we always stand facing the doors in the elevator? These are all examples of what are known as social norms. According to Dr. Ward social norms are “basic rules of society that help people know what is and is not appropriate to do in any situation.” These basic rules of society are usually unwritten and unspoken and many of us pick up on them over time. Although, some social norms are very common throughout many cultures, there is a lot of them that vary depending on which culture you are apart of. For example, here in America, a major social norm that we have is when eating, the polite thing to do is to use spoons and forks, instead of digging in with your hands. For instance, we would not eat spaghetti with our hands but we would use a fork. In some Thiland cultures it is considered rude to put most foods in your mouth with a fork. Then there is also some cultures such as Chile in which it is impolite to use your hands for anything, even foods such as french fries, they use forks while eating.

For this project, Breaking a Social Norm, I decided to violate people’s personal space. At the beginning, when I heard about this and how I felt in preparation for the experiment is that I am seriously skeptical, dreading, terrified, anxious, and this is going to be the toughest challenge in my life that I have ever encountered. I started the experiment on Black Friday at the Great Mall where there were going to be a lot of crowds and it is in the public. First, I sat next to this random stranger, a mid-thirties woman, who near the food court and I am thinking to myself just get it over with and pray that nothing bad will happen during the experiment. So, I sat to this stranger very close until there is no space. In addition, she was texting

The title of this odd social experiment is Parental Permission. The title will make more sense once you become more familiar with the project. The aim of this project was to break an everyday social norm; a social norm is a set of rules or behaviors that are considered acceptable in society or among a group. As citizens of a society we all adhere to many social norms, a very common social norm is tipping a waiter or simply wearing clothes.

For my breaching social norm experiment I was determined to do something I would never do even if it was a dare, especially since my ability to interact with strangers is not the best. So, I decided to make people feel uncomfortable by holding their hand. What I would do is walk up to the person from behind and slowly make my way to their hand to make them feel even more uncomfortable. People normally hold hands with their significant other, or with someone they know like a friend or family member, so to be holding hands with a stranger is out of the ordinary and awkward.

When I entered the men’s restroom, I acted as if I were using the bathroom in one of the stalls. Pretty soon I overheard two young men enter. After they shut their stalls, I “flushed” my toilet and started to rinse my hands. The men finished and came out of their stalls at the same time. They both froze and looked directly at me. They looked like UNC Charlotte students. One of them stated, “what the f*ck?” The other guy laughed, and asked me if I knew I was in the wrong restroom. I stated that I did know. His response was, “why would you come in here?” I told him, “I needed to use the restroom, is it wrong for a lady to use the men’s restroom?” They both laughed and the other guy asked if it was a prank. Right when that question was asked, an older man entered the restroom. When the man saw all of us in there, he looked confused and decided to walk right back out. At that point I told the two guys speaking to me that I did it for a school assignment. We all laughed again and then the young man I was speaking with mostly, asked for my number. I politely declined and left the restaurant afterwards.

For my breaching social norm experiment, I was determined to do something I would never do even if it was a dare, especially since my ability to interact with strangers is not what I consider advanced. So, I decided to make people feel uncomfortable by holding their hand. What I would do is walk up to the person from behind and slowly make my way to their hand to make them feel even more uncomfortable. People normally hold hands with their significant other, or with someone they know, like a friend or family member, so to be holding hands with a stranger is infrequent and abnormal.

To break the social norm, I went trick or treating in the mall, wearing a Halloween costume. I broke the social norm by not trick or treating on Halloween. The social norm is to trick or treat on Halloween. To break this norm, I went to the mall and went trick or treating in three stores. I said “trick or treat” to any customer and worker who was in the store as well as wore a Wonder Women costume. At the mall, people walk around, look in stores, and buy clothes or any kind of merchandise. The typical norms at the mall are that when you see a person or an employee in a store, you say “Hello”, “Good Morning”, “Good Afternoon”, or “Good Evening”. Trick or treating and wearing a costume not on Halloween and at the mall is considered to be deviant.

When our waiter came to take our orders when I ordered I was practically yelling at him and making minimal eye contact with him. The when our food was served I ordered spaghetti for a reason I did not use my silverware I used my hands and slurped some of it as well. My friend Andrea asked me what I was doing I told her I was eating what is she doing she also asked me why I wasn’t using my fork I responded with I didn’t really feel like using it. And instead of using my napkin I would wipe my dirty hands on my shirt and pants. My friend Leticia that was in on the violation told me people where giving me negative sanctions and that the waiter as well as others wouldn’t stop staring and pointing at me. My norm violation was that I used my hands to eat instead of my fork, because we are not barbarians especially at a nice

The norm I decided to break was number two: proximity norms. I decided that school was the perfect place to test our this project. I think it's safe to say that in our culture, it's not exactly normal to stand too close to complete stranger, or even in this case, friends. If it was normal, we wouldn't have to popular term, "personal space" and/or our "personal bubbles."

The norms of a culture are the rules that govern behavior. Norms define what behavior is required, accepted, or prohibited in particular circumstances and provide cues regarding how we should act—what people “ought to do” in their daily routine. Because there are cultural norms in society ideas about how we should behave, dress, think, etc. We generally have to meet the expectations of others that we will conform to these norms. Break a norm in public and judge the reactions of others.

The social norm I violated was leaning or being near the sides or corners of an elevator. I volunteered in a hospital during my spring break so I decided to violate the elevators social norm, because I have to constantly take the elevator. In my nature, I am very timid, so violating a social norm required guts and perseverance. When I entered the elevator, I stood in the middle of the elevator while everyone else were leaning on the sides or corners. After a quick few seconds of standing in the middle of the elevator, the nurses were not taking their eyes off of me and were murmuring. The doctor literally asked me if I was feeling okay and politely asked me to go to the volunteer office right away so I can be sent for a checkup with one of the doctors. The patient stared at me for a few moments and looked away because he looked really ill. While walking out of the elevator, the two nurses continued to murmur and constantly looked at me until I was gone from their vicinity.

In society, we are accustomed to the normative social influence of rules for us to follow, from how we act in public to what we wear. Whether it was visible to us at the time or not the general public does follow this social norm that governs us for one simplistic reason, we don’t want to be embarrassed for being out of the social norm. The need for social acceptance is presented in our everyday behaviors, actions, and reactions to social normalities. Even with the acceptation of the many people who pretend not to notice a change in a person social norm, when a social norm is broken, the majority will notice it. However I did learn something during the time I was the social norms breaker, “individuals will tend to either fully conform to the

Brenda Rocha Dr. Nathaniel Clark Introduction to Sociology September 16, 2014 Social Norm Violation Essay Everyone is taught at an early age what to do and how to act. When someone violates a social norm, it can cause people to feel uncomfortable, confused, and maybe even humorous. A social norm is an unspoken “law” on how individuals should perform in unusual situations.

I was feeling a little more confident so I immediately stood about two-and-a-half feet away from him. He glanced at me at first, but did not say anything. Another customer and asked, “Do you mind if I just reach across you to grab that?” It was clear that the customer assumed we were together. When the other customer walked away, the subject stepped about a foot away from me. I casually stepped closer to him, as if I were following him. He then asked me, “Did you need to get over here?” I replied, “No, I’m OK” and continued to browse the section. He seemed very intimidated by my presence, though he had a very strong outward appearance, and spoke with firm, assertive tone. He finally grabbed his item, and then gave me a quick head nod and grimace goodbye. I followed him to the checkout line. When we approached the line, I was standing less than two feet behind him. He looked back and said, “It’s OK, you can go ahead of me.” As soon as I stepped in front, he moved approximately 4 feet away from me.

At a very early age, children learn about social norms to help them become proper citizens in society. Examples of some social norms that students learn are: “do not yell in the library,” “do not speak unless spoken to,” “do not talk to strangers,” and “close the door when you use the restroom.” As you grow older, these rules become unspoken because everyone knows how to act like a proper individual in society. The textbook definition of a social norm is something that is a rule of behavior that society accepts. (Bicchieri) Since everyone knows these unsaid rules of society, what would happen when someone decides not to follow these rules? What would people think and react? In this paper, I discuss my violation of the social norm “don’t talk to strangers” and discuss what I learned from this experiment.