Vulnerability Is What Makes You Vulnerable

Everyday humans are presented with new opportunities and situations. These events can change the way they think and make decisions. But it's the way it can change ones relationships that can really hurt one's ability to care. There is a total of 7.442 billion people alive today. Yet only a small portion of that are people one truly cares about. For many people, a specific setting, situation or emotion can alter the way people can think rationally.

Life can bring so many adversities that can results in battles with depression, low self-esteem, and anxiety over life's uncertainties.

Vulnerability is the willingness to openly admit when we have failed, what our weakness are, and how to be resilient. As a leader, in order to Dare Greatly, I need to be able to ask for feedback, and give feedback by modeling the ability to be vulnerable, and build up my resilience. As a leader we need to realize that by shaming others it only leads to negative and destructive behavior and has no positive effect. So, when I am leading others, I keep in mind that people want to grow, and as I good leader I can help them to grow by giving feedback in positive way.

Brene Brown, a researcher in social interactions, takes an unexpected perspective in her ted talk called “The Power of Vulnerability”. She starts out her speech by telling a joke and explaining her education and experience in social work. A quote her professor put on the board led her to research the connection among people. However, this led to many other things such as shame, fear, and the most prominent factor, vulnerability. She realized that for connection to occur we must be seen completely for who we are. This led to 6 years of research, including hundreds of stories and thousands of pieces of data. Brown wrote a book about her findings but she felt that something was still missing. It turned out the missing component was worthiness. To delve deeper into worthiness, she did a study on people who think they are worthy and people who don’t. People who thought they were worthy had these four things in common, courage, compassion, connection, and vulnerability. Brown realized at this point that she needed to understand vulnerability thoroughly by facing it herself. A therapist helped brown face vulnerability head on for a year straight, and in the end, she potentially won her life back. Brown stated “…vulnerability is the core of shame, of fear and of worthiness, but it is also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love…” After facing her fear, she knew that vulnerability was the core of not only fear, but also happiness. Brown goes on to say that we

‘’Vulnerability is the quality of being easily hurt or attacked.’’ (Vocab.com) Vulnerable groups in society are the disabled, migrant children or adults, individuals with illnesses, individuals who are abused, and anyone who is subjected to racism.

It's hard to imagine yourself ever being vulnerable, but everyone will face it at some point in their life some sooner than others. Benji Wilson was the number one basketball player in the country around the Michael Jordan era. Everyone in the community knew Benji they looked at him as he was the Messiah, or the ticket out of the hood. Benji faced is vulnerable moment way too young, when he was just 17 his life was cut short after being shot while walking home with his girlfriend one afternoon. After watching Benji his vulnerability and added pressers were exposed after becoming a young father, being labeled the messiah and hearing Billy Moore's side of the story.

Having courage makes people ten times happier. It makes people happier because they can be honest with other people, and get things off their chest. When people are telling others the way they’ve been feeling, good or bad, it takes a lot of courage to do so. An example of this in the book is when Mr. Freeman asks Melina, ““You’ve been through

Vulnerability enables us to show who we truly are and how we react in situations where the power and control over our lives is inconsistent within the beings that make us who we are. In “Young Goodman Brown”, “Where are You Going, Where Have You Been?” and “A Good Man is Hard to Find” Goodman Brown, Connie, and the Grandmother all have a belief in a faith greater than themselves a feeling of being with the right rather than the wrong. Good is what they associate with while evil is a continuous existence unable to affect them. However, these, victims of evil find themselves in a vulnerable state metaphorically or physically facing death as all belief in good precipitates and all they are left with is an evil so overpowering it controls even

Vulnerability is often one-dimensionally viewed as the degree to which mishaps, pain and shame are allowed to enter into one’s life. However it is also the birthplace of creativity and basis for a feeling of self-worthiness. Thereby vulnerability creates authenticity. There are various different definitions of vulnerability according to the field in which the term is used. The most commonly found dictionary definition states that “Vulnerability refers to the susceptibility of a person, group, society or system to physical or emotional injury or attack. The term can also refer to a person who let

Individuals fail in life due to their inability to be true to their emotions. According

According to Evelyn Pelczar in an article at Elite Daily, 'Fear is both an enabler and a teacher to its own forces.' Fear has been used for centuries to control people and their behaviors. But the fear of limiting your true human potential is a fear that many of us are disinclined to connect with, as it requires us to own our emotions and dig deep for the underlying reasons that hold us back from our success.

The new goodness that is coming to you, in the form of people, situations, and things that can only come to you when you are vulnerable, i.e. open” (Jane). Being vulnerable is a big part of human behavior. People fear the unknown and the possibility of rejection. However, vulnerability has the ability to make us feel emotions that a human would not be capable of unless authenticity is shown, and it forces us to become more certain. Individuals must be

Not having one's emotional development blighted by fear and anxiety,”4 as Nussbaum details her emotions capability. For example, the “all my ex girlfriends are crazy” trope is one that many men use as an excuse for why their previous relationships failed. The criteria for what labels her crazy are often those seemingly simple parts of the emotions capability. When a woman longs for her partner and voices that longing, she is needy; when a woman is legitimately angry about her partner doing something she asked them not to do, or conversely not doing what she did ask them to do, she is overreacting; when she sees a commercial that reminds her of her dead pet and sheds a few tears, she is hormonal or overly sensitive. Women are labeled “crazy”

Ariana, you are cheerful and motivated. You are not afraid to be vulnerable. You were the first one to present PPP and you were not afraid to question your team. You were not afraid to tell your team that you felt like an outsider. I think having this conversation helped you to be a part of that team and continue the good work. Your goal was to engage in conversations and experiences that make you feel vulnerable. I think you have made yourself feel vulnerable. You hold your teammates accountable to their work. I like that you share your progresses with the class. I have noticed that even when other groups are presenting, you ask them questions and give them good feedback.

I have been doing a great deal of thinking about the relationship of vulnerability and love. Believe it or not, you are the most vulnerable when you are experiencing love. Years and years ago, I used to believe love was simply an elusive feeling, more of an ideal than a reality. Love was simply a fascination that you felt at the beginning of a relationship but never achieved in a way that was portrayed in the movies or in romance novels. In hindsight, I believe the “love” that I felt was merely a combination of physical attraction, a fondness for the girl’s personality and the security of being in a relationship. What I have since learned is that true love requires an additional ingredient more powerful than any other factor: vulnerability!