The five people who have had the most significant effect on my language use are: my mother, my father, my maternal grandfather and grandmother, and lastly was probably my first friend Karen.
My mother is an immigrant. She came to the U.S. when she was only 5 years old. It was very important to her that she learn how to speak English properly, and she cringed when I misused or mispronounced words. She also has done crossword puzzles every morning, and I, in turn, followed her lead. One thing I look forward to is the Washington Post Sunday crossword. We also played a lot of Scrabble. My father was very intelligent, and taught me the art of conversation. We used to have dinner together as a family, and had conversations and discussions at the
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She was pretty mean, and kind of a bully. I really didn’t like her too much, and neither did the other neighborhood kids. One day, we were outside playing, and she and I were left alone. We started talking, and she said she was lonely because all the other kids were mean to her. I found, after talking to her, that she was lashing out because she didn’t feel as though anyone paid attention to her. It made me see her in a different light. I felt sorry for her, and we became friends after that day. I suppose we don’t really know what someone might be going through, whether it is a chance meeting with a stranger, or someone you may meet in your personal or professional life. We all have bad days now and again, and although someone might be sour or abrupt, it doesn’t always mean they’re unkind, or unfriendly. Now that I’m older, I do try to treat everyone with respect, and try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes it’s not easy, but definitely something I’ve learned with age and …show more content…
It’s a shame that listening skills aren’t taught better in elementary schools, because it is a learned behavior. The two habits that prevent me from being a better listener are: not being a patient listener, and try not to multi-task while listening. When in an interesting conversation, I tend to “jump the gun” and interrupt. This has been a problem all my life. My brain is going a mile and minute, and if feel if I don’t jump in and ask a question or make a statement, I might forget! I find when I am more patient, and wait for the other speaker to finish; I just might get the answer I was looking for without having to interrupt. The other big thing I can do is try to turn off the distractions. Because life is so busy, it is sometimes difficult to stay focused. It is so important to really listen to someone and give them your attention. In fact, I know how aggravating it is today to spend time with someone, only to find they are on their smartphones. It used to be considered rude, now it seems the
My grandparents raised me when I was young because my parents were busy toiling away at work to support my siblings and I. Through my grandparents, I learned strength. My grandfather, a former political activist and soldier in Vietnam, suffered a gigantic loss: Losing the Vietnam war. Still, he refused to kneel under the hand of oppression. He restarted his life in a brand new, foreign country with seven children,
My international background has shaped who I am today because of the influence of my Chinese immigrant parents. My parents never had an easy life. My parents, who lived in poverty in China, immigrated to the United States hoping for a better life and to pursue the American Dream. They immigrated to the Unites States with no money and no knowledge of the English language. The language barrier alone created a mass obstacle for their early life in America. My dad had once told me that at the age of 13 he was already cooking for his entire family while working to provide financial support for his parents and siblings.
First, mindful listening is important in communication just hearing what someone says is not enough we need to listen to who were are communicating with and give them our full attention. “To listen well, we rely on our ears, minds, and hearts” (Wood, 2016, p. 163). I have a problem with selective listening and I have worked on this to become a better listener throughout class with my family.
My family and I came to America in the year 2003, and those few years afterward made me realized the tremendous amount of love my parents had for us. Although I was only three, I saw how my father worked long hours trying to keep a young family of five comfortable and safe. He taught me the importance of hard work and endurance. My mother taught me the importance of education. We came to America because due to her receiving a student visa to complete her Masters in Christian Theology and Social Work. She would come back to from long classes and pick us up from daycare. Although she was tired, she made sure that her family was fed and well. As soon as everyone was well, she would finish her homework. Her desk and computer were located in my
I always kept in my mind how my father worked day and night for little pay to provide for my family. Seeing both of my parents struggling as two young immigrants trying to provide a home for two kids was the fuel that kept me pushing forward. I am the oldest, so naturally responsibility was placed on my shoulders. I had to take care of my younger brother, while my parents worked. I also served as a translator for my mother who spoke very little English. My parents barely received education in high school, so I helped my mom and dad with most of the paperwork. I remember writing letters for immigration, employers, lawyers, and to the court for several family members.
As I have blossomed into the individual I am today I have developed a significantly different outlook from most of my peers. My mother migrated from Colombia to the United States because she wanted to create a better life for my older brother and me. Her journey inspires me and it a journey which many individuals with Latino backgrounds have to undergo to have the polity to give their children education possibilities. The sacrifice that my mother and those like her have bared have revealed to me the importance of what it means to work hard. As a family of immigrants I have developed an appreciation for those close to me. Living in the United States I see my grandparents and all of my siblings every two years, I understand what it is too mean
Listen empathically – focus on the person and the emotions that underlie his or her
Some days neither warren nor Jeff would be in the office so if the same situation happens we take a brief message in order to call them back. Since my first language is not English I had a hard time catching their last names or even understanding what their call is about to me that was quiet frustrating because if I am not able to understand the caller then I have to transfer them to one of the secretaries which later makes me feel that I’m not doing my Job right. Through time I improved a little bit but that was a great weakness I discovered while working in the office. In the future I would like to become a great listener with out having the person repeat what they said more than
My listening skills could be improved. I am sometimes too keen to ask questions when a person has not finished speaking and my need to plan and “put things into neat boxes” can feel imposing on people with different learning styles and very creative personalities. I also have a tendency to write extensive notes in meetings and 1-2-1’s in order not to miss anything and to record peoples responses correctly – this can, however, come across as my being disengaged from the conversation and “not taking on board what is said”.
A broader awareness of the importance of effective listening is another weapon in your arsenal as a public speaker. At the same time, building up your own effective listening skills can enhance your academic, professional, and personal success. Being heard is one thing, but speakers need listeners to complete the communication loop. Reap the rewards: Instead of saying “I hear you,” try out “I’m listening.”
The ability to listen well is an important tool for understanding others. Sadly, very few people know how to listen well. In fact, most people can think of only one or two good listeners in their lives. Listening is not simply agreeing - it is much more. Good listeners are able to better understand and respond to others, complete assignments accurately, settle disagreements before they escalate, and establish rapport with difficult people.
There are several methods to achieving effective listening. Concentrate on what others are saying. Make yourself shut out other challenges facing you and simply listen. Don't allow yourself to do other things as you listen, such as answering the phone, doing paperwork, or checking your e-mail. Effective listening is difficult and requires all of your attention and effort. The listener needs to focus on what is being said so they will not misinterpret what the speaker is trying to say. Paraphrase or rephrase what the speaker was saying in your own words to ensure that you heard the information accurately. It is important to
I come from a big Mexican cultural family, family oriented too I must add. The bond I have with my parents, sisters and cousins my age is strong and unbreakable. I didn’t need much friends because the friendship I have with them is more than enough. I was raised in a home with two hardworking, loving and amazing parents. And because of them I am the person who I am today. Also thanks to them I have always had everything I need, I was never missing anything. Always had a roof over my head, food on my plate, clothes on my back and a bed to rest on. Seeing how hard they had to work for the things I needed made me realize that nothing in life is free and you have to work for the things you need, and work even harder for the things you want. Living in the home I was raised in taught me values. Values of honesty, love, responsibility, kindness and respect. Even though my parents are strict and tough with me at times I know it’s for the benefit of my own good and they’re just making sure I do what’s best for me, and I wouldn’t have wanted it any other
Anybody can become a good listener if they are committed to learn how and are willing to work hard. The first mistake that people tend to make when listening is to not make any type of comments while listening. They tend to just stand there and listen while the speaker talks. This can become very frustrating for the speaker and the listener. While the speaker may feel like he isn't being
In this class, I’m learning quite a bit about listening. I’m learning how to listen and communicate better with people, especially when the things I’m listening to and talking about are more on the sensitive side of topics. I’ve always been a very closed off person, even from friends and family. I️ would have a hard time expressing my thoughts and emotions verbally and would get upset with people when they would try to pry. Friends and family would get angry with me when I️ wouldn’t talk or wouldn’t listen to them when all they were really doing was trying to help me. Very frequently when out in public it’s easy to observe this same kind of people or behavior. There are many more people out in the world with poor listening and communicating skills than you may think. For instance, those who get flustered when discussing certain topics whether it’s at the store or a coffee shop. If you like people watching, then you know what I’m talking about.