Western Parenting Vs Western Parenting

Being a responsible parent wanting your child with the best living environment and attending a great school for their education. Parents want to the foremost in their child’s best interest. Children do not know what necessary good is or bad for them. That is why it is as parent job to teach them as they growing up. Mold them right as a child therefore in their adult life most likely they will head down the right positive path. Even before the parent leaves the world they want to see their child being independent taking care of their self and doing well. This all will show the parent they did a splendid job as their father or mother. It is not an easy job being a parent and it does not come with an instruction book how to be one but, you can just do the best you can avoiding negative things around your child as much as possible.

Several years ago, Amy Chua’s book: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother has triggered a lively debate about the strict parenting style. In the book, it is mentioned that Chua sets rules and restrictions, such as no sleepovers, practising music instruments every day, etc. As a result, her daughters achieve excellent grades in schools (Goodin ¶2-3). Chua’s parenting style is categorized as authoritarian. In Hong Kong, Chua’s style is popular. Parents put a lot of pressure on their children. Starting from primary level, children are asked to attend extra tutorials. From the parents’ eyes, “Practice makes perfect”. Hence, children will become more competitive. However, westerners oppose her methods. Some believe that giving no freedom to children is not conducive to one’s academic performance.

I can see the positive and negative in both methods. The fundamental problem with all parents is selfishness. When Western parents don't do enough to help their kids reach their potential, they are selfish, and probably too busy doing what we feel like doing. And when Chinese parents force kids to do what will bring the parents praise, they are selfish too. I think that the correct approach is a balance between Chinese and Western parenting, with the focus being on commitment to your children. If parent can find the balance between these two types then both sides will have succefull children. I really believe Western parental method and Chinese parental method can both be used. You can't be too soft and too hard. You have to balance it out.

Yale law professor Amy Chua wrote a book named “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” and it talks about parenting styles between the Chinese verses the Western styles. She said that parents who set high standards tend to have kids who are more successful at school. It’s also clear that Chinese parents tend to spend more time pushing their kids to study, practice, and achieve. Her book created a huge controversial piece for the Wall Street Journal on “Why Chinese mothers are Superior “. This article is about the response of Amy Chua to all the book readers that she believed took her parenting methods too serious. It explains how many

Neither one has been proven to be more successful than the other. Chinese mothers are much more harsh on their children than Western mothers. Chinese parents focus more on academics and Western parents focus more on extracurricular activities like sports. The author tells us information about both Western and Chinese parents. Most of her statements were valid, just a couple were unreliable. The way the Chinese mothers raise their children is not agreeable. The way Western mothers raise their children seems more

Questions have been raised on whether Chinese parenting raises more flourishing children than Western parenting. Despite what people think, in Amy Chua's essay “The Roar of the Tiger Mom”, she portrays the differences between the beliefs of Chinese parenting and Western parenting. Chua introduces the views of a Chinese parent compared to the views of a Western parent. The methods used by Chinese mothers in raising their children are drastically different from Western mothers. Each defends their methods and believes the other group is doing their job poorly. In the end, both types of parents just want one thing-- successful children.

Parenting: from dressing, teaching, disciplining, to simply supporting a child, there are technically no right or wrong ways to provide care. Although there may not be a correct way, most, if not all, parents have been or will be criticized at some point because of their decisions in parenting. So what exactly makes someone good at parenting? A mother, father, or caregiver who exercises good parenting fosters a healthy relationship with the child, demonstrates and reciprocates respect, and reinforces responsibility.

The greatest principle is to maintain harmonious relationships with all. Therefore, the Asian culture, especially the Chinese society, stresses the cultural notion of training. Chinese parenting is often misunderstood because it is frequently viewed as restrictive, controlling and authoritarian. Chinese children are expected to have unquestionable obedience to parents. Chinese American parents maintain the concept of chiao shun, which means, “training”. The process of child rearing is to train a child through education and teachings. The reason why parents have an obligation to train their child is further explained in the scholarly journal, Beyond Parental Control and Authoritarian Parenting Style: Understanding Chinese Parenting through the Cultural Notion of Training, it is “To adhere to socially desirable and culturally approved behavior.”(Chao, 1994, pg. 1112) Child rearing/Training is done by exposing children to proper behavior and regulating exposure to unacceptable behavior. Training is not restricting, it is actually supportive, involves physical availability of parents, and fulfils a child's basic everyday needs. Mothers are usually the ones who create a close relationship with their child though. The other concept, guan is “to govern” but it also means “to care for/to love”. As a Chinese parent it is a social requirement to be able to govern one's child. The reason that a parent/teacher must have control over their kid is to teach them respect and allegiance. The standard of Chiao shun and guan are set in place and carried out by the Asian society and by Asian American parents. The main purpose of the misinterpreted Asian styles of parenting is not for utter dominance but instead for the integrity of the family and to sustain social

Which parenting style will lead to a child becoming successful and stable in life? Many argue about the answer to this question. There are four main types of parenting styles. There’s authoritarian parenting which follows a set of strict rules and doesn’t necessarily nurture the child; apathetic towards their emotions, demanding a sort of blind obedience from the child. Authoritative parenting which takes a more moderate approach; setting high standards, nurtures, and responds to the child’s emotions. Permissive parenting which is reluctant to impose rules and standards, preferring to allow kids to regulate themselves. Finally, there’s the hands-off parenting in which the parent doesn’t involve themselves

Parents always fight to make sure their children are getting the best of life by always assuring they have what they need to have a set future, as well as never having to deal with the downs of life, but you can’t always prevent life to happen. In multiple articles, various parents express their individually unique parenting styles, which distinctly explain why their method works for them and how it can work for multiple parents by enforcing their beliefs and techniques, but the question still remains. What makes a good parent? Is it the morals they inflict on the child, is it the religious beliefs, or is it just a nature vs nurture instinct that allows you to make those decisions. In general it remains a set structure,

The Western parent allows the child to show interest in a subject or activity, then allows them to explore this interest, whereas the Chinese style parent chooses school subjects and activities. Allowing the children to first show interest in an activity helps to set the child up for success. If the child likes an activity, they are more likely to practice or develop skills because they enjoy it, and are not being forced into it. This may help their self-esteem as well, because they will be doing something they like, instead of being forced to do something that they may not have a natural aptitude for and run the risk of failing. In addition to the close development choices of the Western parent, they try to enhance the social development as well. They do this by sending the children to sleep-away camps, or a friend’s house for a sleepover. The Chinese parent doesn’t allow the children to attend sleepovers, school dances, sports events, etc. I think some children of the Western parents love the way they were raised and allowed to explore and make their own decisions growing up. I also believe there may be some children of Western parents that wish their parents had been stricter, or pushed them more when they were younger.

Parenting is a job all adults will go through every single day. Parenting is a job that causes a lot of stress, hard work, and organization and needs a lot of patience. All parents educate their children differently. Sometimes there are the parents who are very disciplined, protective, give a lot of freedom, and very open-minded. Despite all that, all parents have the same goal and that is to make their children become independent, a good person, polite, helpful, and can become a successful person.

There is many questions on how to parent a child in order to help them be successful in life. Although parenting style various greatly, most all parents put into practice what regulations in which they think will help their child succeed in life. Some parents, known as Chinese parents are extremely strict, and on the other end of the spectrum there is western parents, who do not expect as much from their child. In Amy Chua’s “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom,” Chua explains what it is like to have Chinese parenting techniques. She attempts to justify the struggles, beliefs, and methods of Chinese parents, as compared to western parents, and how they both have the end goal - to prepare their child to succeed in life.

Is it true that Chinese parenting methods create more successful children? In Chua’s article she discusses how she believes a child’s success is dependent upon the parental success. She reminisces

For the views of Chinese-style parents when it comes to the mental and emotional care of their child, it can be best summarized by this quote from the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua (306). “I’ve noticed that Western parents are extremely anxious about their children’s self-esteem. They worry about how their children will feel if they fail at something, and they constantly try to reassure their children about how good they are notwithstanding a mediocre performance on a test or at a recital. In