Finally this article opens our eyes about being a bystander and what that looks like. while the bystanders appears innocent and may even believe they are innocent they can be contributing to the bullying or even encouraging the bully to continue. It shows why a bystander might not speak up or stop the bully. The article give great advice on how bystanders can change a situation and that circles of caring can be created to encourage support and prevent
The bully is normally very well known; someone who is just as, if not more, guilty is nearly undetectable. This person is a bystander, and according to Tales of Bullying, being a bystander is just as bad as bullying. Bystanders just join in on the laughing. They don’t even help; they just watch bullying like it’s some sort of comedy show. Bystanders can also be people who are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. They can just as easily turn into a person who stands up to bullies, but they don’t. In the end bystanders are just as, if not more, guilty than the
Chapter three - How people can prevent bullying from happening. What can you do if you are the Bystander?
People may not realize it, but bystanders play a huge role in bullying. By not stepping in or telling someone about it, they are making the problem worse. A bystander intervening could stop someone from getting hurt, and even prevent bullying from happening in the future. If a bystander does not say or do anything about it, they are contributing to the issue. There are more bystanders than there are bullies, so it is their choice to help or hurt the situation.
It is also known that bystanders play an important role in encouraging or discouraging the bully. Bystanders can be "active" by laughing and cheering on
If a bully is being mean or doing harsh things to people don’t just be a bystander go and help that person and stand up to the bully. We are on this Earth for reason and I’m pretty sure it’s not to be mean to other people. There is kids who get bullied but no one does anything about it because they’re scared, and sometimes them kids think no one cares. So guess what? They commit suicide because they think no one cares or cared because they keep getting bullied and no one did anything about it. So the bully wins and goes to pick on a different kid because well hey the kid who he used to bully killed herself/himself and did just what he wanted him/her to do. Just think that bully might become a better person, but he still has to live with that for the rest of his
Bystander is worse. Well a bully is bad but when you’re not helping somebody that is getting bullied you’re a lot worse. When somebody gets bullied if you try to help them you are a good person. But if you don’t tell the bully to stop or tell a teacher you are the one who is acting like a bully. When you see somebody getting bullied you should go tell a teacher or a responsible adult or even trying to stop the bully yourself. But that is you last option.
Most of the incident in regards with bullying are either online or on campus. When it occurs in campus most of the students surrounding the occasion of when bullying occurs become the bystanders and prefer not to take action upon it to try to avoid being in it when since the beginning the teens were already part of the problem. The teens believe that being part of the problem is when their is a verbal accusation and believe that just watching the bullying occur will avoid the teen from being involved in the situation. In the survey the students were asked if one of their friends have been bullied and if they were a bystander. Surprisingly 628 students said that seeing bullying and stopping the problems was not a part of the teens experience in high school. In the other hand only 247 students said that they were bystanders. Usually when a teen becomes the bystanders it's to entertain the crowd of kids around causing the bully to feel more in power of the
"Children who bully are often rewarded for their behavior materially through money, other possessions taken from peers, or psychologically, through achieving high social status and prestige (Kowalski, Limber, and Agatston 2008). Research also suggests children who bully have dominant personalities and like to assert themselves with force; they have tempers, are easily frustrated and have positive attitudes toward violence compared to other children" (Carter 27). If a student recognizes that they possess some of the same traits as a bully, they should know that there are alternative, healthier ways to satisfy their needs for violence than getting into fights with others. If a physically weaker victim is consistently in fights with their bully, they should know that there are different options to confront their bully with. They can ask help from their friends, they can tell an adult about their predicament and see if they can halt the quarrel, or they can face their bully head on and keep fighting them until they beat the instigator. Unfortunately, bullies and victims are always on two opposite sides of the social ladder in school and hold different amounts of power, where one is always stronger than the other (Smith 281). If a bystander ever witnesses a fight between two of their classmates and it is clear that one is taking advantage of the other based
If you happen to be the bystander, your success comes from knowing not to get involved or not to get too involved, lest you yourself become an actual bully or a victim. You may even be blessed with the cherished gift of self-denial, and in such case, you are able to dismiss any vague notions that your inaction makes you complicit in the bully's trespass. Still you are human: you have an opinion, you have feelings about the matter. Maybe you sympathize with one of the sides. Maybe you wish you had the guts to be that way. Maybe you're just afraid you'll get hurt. Maybe you have something to lose; maybe that something is so valuable you're not willing to gamble it. Maybe you simply feel guilty for not getting involved. Or, maybe all you feel is relief -- relief that it's not you. Makes no difference, the bystander just stands there. Hence the name. Oh, you may be emotionally conflicted, but being a bystander is really the safest place to be. Consequently, bystanders often opt to remain bystanders.
To begin with, bystanders choose not to help the victim. According to Source 4, they just stand by and watch. They usually do this because they are afraid to get in trouble or become bullied too. This tells the victim that they don't matter and that this is okay. Making the victim feel upset may cause them to harm their self or even become a bully. If someone does decide to help the bully out, the bystander will exclude them from their group of friends. That is how bystander choose not to help the bully.
In the image above, a scene of bullying is shown. Notice everyone surrounding the fight, nobody making an effort to stop it. Sometimes bystanders can be as responsible as the bully in certain situations, as they observe, encourage and enable him or her. They fear that if they stand up to the bully, that they would be bullied too. In the book “Flowers for Algernon”, many people had the opportunity to stand up for Charlie, but instead they either kept quiet or joined the
In the book "Bystander", written by James Preller, it talks about not just the bully and victims but the other roles, such as Bystanders and allies. In chapter 20, a gathered group of boys discuss their responses to Griffin's unreasonable and illogical behavior. Their reasons for doing nothing include "The unreliability of authority figures to respond", "The threat of retaliation", "The victim, at least on some level, deserves it" , "It is human nature, the law of the jungle, and it will always persist", "It's better to stay out of it", "No one should rat out another student". These are ridiculous and absurd reason to be a bystander to such a unspeakable act. The main idea I would like to another reader to consider is advise others to not
They have the power to either help or make the situation worse. Where victims and bullies are directly involved, bystanders think that avoiding the conflict altogether is either the right move or the best thing for them personally. A bystander is someone who either knows about a bullying situation or sees the situation. The role of a bystander can have two directions; it can either be positive by creating a supportive environment or negative (Mediasmarts.ca, 2016). A bystander can be negative by ignoring the cyberbullying or thinking "at least it’s not me". Being a bystander can be negative as more often than not, bystanders merely watch instead of doing something (Mediasmarts.ca, 2016). This is dangerous as by just being a part of a social media or other online space, you may give a cyberbully an incentive to embarrass or threaten a victim because the bully will have an audience.This is most likely to happen due to being afraid of being cyberbullied themselves. If a bystander chooses not to help, they are consequently not creating a supportive environment as they are not taking action on the situation and therefore the cyberbullying continues. However, being a bystander can be a really positive aspect as they can take action and support the victim or encourage other people to take a stand against anyone who bullies and support the victim (Us.reachout.com,
People live for one thing and that is happiness, but how can someone go through day-by-day with being bullied that’s the biggest issue we are facing in the school systems these days. The studies and evidence is proved with videos, post on social media or even being a part of it is another thing. Overall, bullying is sometimes viewed as a perspective of how kids act when they feel the need that they are neglected, jealous and are emotionally distressed in a certain situation. This problem can also arise with the top person wanting to act as the overall top dominator to show that they are better and everyone should follow their lead, but we see these days as another problem that a lot of bystanders. People are feared to tell what they have seen