What Does Perfectionism Mean To Me

Student athletes in college are held to a higher standard than normal students since they are juggling a lot more in their lives. Student athletes have to set aside a lot of time for practice while still maintaining good grades and a social life. Some people believe that because of this demanding schedule that student athletes should be paid. Where on the other hand many believe that they shouldn’t since they choose to be on a sports team, this is a topic that is debated upon by many. One solution could be to lower the tuition for student athletes since they are offering their talents to the school. As long as the students stay on the team they will get some money off their college tuition every year.

In the book, The Quick-Reference Guide to Biblical Counseling: Personal and Emotional Issues, by Clinton and Hawkins in 2009, it states that perfectionism is “a disposition to feel that anything less than perfect is unacceptable. Perfectionism is rooted in the need for control and affirmation.” From youth to adulthood we can see that numerous people in our society struggle with being a perfectionist. There are two different types of perfectionists, which include Type A people and Type B people (Clinton, 2009). A person who is type A is usually strict and rigid with their time and tasks. Type A people are usually the ones who were given conditional love in the past and only received acceptance and love after meeting a certain standard, hence the pressure of performing (Clinton, 2009). A person who is Type B is usually more carefree when it comes to time and tasks and usually cope better with daily stresses than the Type A person (Clinton, 2009). This paper will examine the history of perfectionism, biblical insights regarding perfectionism, potential interventions, and resources and referrals. Overall, we will come to an understanding of how perfectionism looks in our society today and understand the pros and cons of being a perfectionist.

Imagine a girl who can not be or act like herself. She also had many male interest like wrestling and hanging out with her dad. The ibo tribe has strict rules on many things including religion, gender roles, and culture. She tries to avoid the rules so she can be who she wants to be. Ezinma is trapped in a tribe where gender roles control the tribe and family according to their culture.

My client came to seek help on their perfectionism at the workplace. My client’s department chair was instructed by the principal to make copies and have the copies filled out by their co-workers within their department. My client waited for the copies but realized they were not done towards the end of the day. The copies were not made until after working hours and were given to the teachers the following day. My client did not like the way their department chair organized the paperwork. My client thought he/she could do better and more efficient with the stack of

My second reason is you can tell what kind of person a character is when you read

Do you push yourself to be the best? Do you get mad at yourself for not doing the best? Do you delay assignments till the last possible limit because of fear of rejection? Do you feel horrible when work isn’t done to your best ability of when minor failures seem like catastrophic ones? These are all signs of what is known as perfectionism (Pacht 1984). If you seem to agree with most of these things then you might be a perfectionist. According to Webster’s dictionary, it states that perfectionism is "a disposition which regards anything less than perfect, unacceptable." Many people in the world suffer from perfectionism. So is that case of Mike Bellah. His perfectionism lead him to a lifestyle where he lost

Being diagnosed, and living with OCD each, and everyday myself, I have heard people repeatedly say they have OCD, when all they do is like to make sure their laundry is washed, folded correctly, and they don’t like when other people touch their laundry, and don’t wash, or fold it “their way”. Let’s get one-thing straight: This’s Perfectionism; not OCD!

Carl Sagan once said “What an astonishing thing a book is. It's a flat object made from a tree with flexible parts on which are imprinted lots of funny dark squiggles. But one glance at it and you're inside the mind of another person… Writing is perhaps the greatest of human inventions, binding together people who never knew each other, citizens of distant epochs. Books break the shackles of time." Carl Sagan brings up an interesting point, that reading a book is a journey through a person’s mind and that every book carries a message, one that reflects what was inside the author’s head. It is by study of this theme that we can see the struggles that the author,

“Perfectionism is a dream killer. Because it’s just fear disguised as trying to do your best. It just is,” said Mastin Kipp. Perfectionism has developed to be a major problem for me during my eighth grade year. I wanted everything to be perfect, but did not realize that this had my dreams slip further and further away from me. I learned that being perfect does not lead to you success, and I learned it in the hard way.

During my freshman year, what I viewed as the worst possible event happened, (PAUSE) I got a B on my report card. I know that sounds dramatic but freshman me thought my world was ending. I now know that a B is a perfectly acceptable grade and that it's not the end of the world. But this raises the question, why did I think that a B was such a bad thing? Last year I worked on figuring out why I viewed B's as a bad thing. The end result of my thinking was that I am a perfectionist. Merriam Webster Dictionary defines perfectionism as “refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.” The reach for perfection can be painful because it is often driven by both a desire to do well and a fear of the consequences of not doing well. The problem is

I was never an avid reader. Under normal circumstances, I would’ve relied on people around me for information rather than find it myself. Under normal circumstances, I would simply work for a living. Work until I would make something of myself. These were not normal circumstances. Now I wished that I picked up a book and thought for myself before my life would come to this.

“Procrastination is a common form of self-regulatory failure with substantive connections” where the tendency is to put off tasks. (Steel, Farrari, 2013)

The idea that perfectionism is a trait and also known as a characteristic of an individual, implicates that it derives from both biological and environmental. Undergraduate students tend to deal with many life stresses in university, which includes home life and student life. Most undergraduates have made a transition from college to university as well as leaving home, which can cause some insecurity but also some enthusiasm. For example, students who are more reliant on their parents are more likely to find home life stressful as well as combining it with university studies, because of the drastic transition of next stages and responsibility. This informs us that undergraduate students are more likely to have excess stressful events and also may find it hard to cope with university, Research also suggest that an individual’s personality is what would influence students coping strategies at university, ‘Adaptive perfectionistic traits are beneficial when coping with stressors’ (Schwenke 2012).

Multiple researchers indicate the existing connection between perfectionism and psychological disorders including depression and anxiety (Ashby, Rice, & Martin, 2006; Noble, Ashby & Gnilka, 2014). Perfectionism represents the expectation of meeting high-performance standards followed by self or others’ criticism. College years represent challenging years of academia and include common problems such as depression and anxiety. Research Consortium of Counseling and Psychological Services to Higher Education, mentions that 37% of students reported that perfectionism made their academic years quite stressful (as cited in Noble et al., 2014). Moreover, studies show a positive relationship between depression and multidimensional perfectionism, which includes adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism.

To me, a perfectionist is someone who pays close attention to detail and makes sure whatever they do is to their best capabilities. Ever since I was young, I tried to do everything to the best of my efforts, whether it was a small art project or my math homework. It’s a bit of a challenge