To me, a perfectionist is someone who pays close attention to detail and makes sure whatever they do is to their best capabilities. Ever since I was young, I tried to do everything to the best of my efforts, whether it was a small art project or my math homework. It’s a bit of a challenge
Do you push yourself to be the best? Do you get mad at yourself for not doing the best? Do you delay assignments till the last possible limit because of fear of rejection? Do you feel horrible when work isn’t done to your best ability of when minor failures seem like catastrophic ones? These are all signs of what is known as perfectionism (Pacht 1984). If you seem to agree with most of these things then you might be a perfectionist. According to Webster’s dictionary, it states that perfectionism is "a disposition which regards anything less than perfect, unacceptable." Many people in the world suffer from perfectionism. So is that case of Mike Bellah. His perfectionism lead him to a lifestyle where he lost
In the book, The Quick-Reference Guide to Biblical Counseling: Personal and Emotional Issues, by Clinton and Hawkins in 2009, it states that perfectionism is “a disposition to feel that anything less than perfect is unacceptable. Perfectionism is rooted in the need for control and affirmation.” From youth to adulthood we can see that numerous people in our society struggle with being a perfectionist. There are two different types of perfectionists, which include Type A people and Type B people (Clinton, 2009). A person who is type A is usually strict and rigid with their time and tasks. Type A people are usually the ones who were given conditional love in the past and only received acceptance and love after meeting a certain standard, hence the pressure of performing (Clinton, 2009). A person who is Type B is usually more carefree when it comes to time and tasks and usually cope better with daily stresses than the Type A person (Clinton, 2009). This paper will examine the history of perfectionism, biblical insights regarding perfectionism, potential interventions, and resources and referrals. Overall, we will come to an understanding of how perfectionism looks in our society today and understand the pros and cons of being a perfectionist.
My second reason is you can tell what kind of person a character is when you read
Being diagnosed, and living with OCD each, and everyday myself, I have heard people repeatedly say they have OCD, when all they do is like to make sure their laundry is washed, folded correctly, and they don’t like when other people touch their laundry, and don’t wash, or fold it “their way”. Let’s get one-thing straight: This’s Perfectionism; not OCD!
My client came to seek help on their perfectionism at the workplace. My client’s department chair was instructed by the principal to make copies and have the copies filled out by their co-workers within their department. My client waited for the copies but realized they were not done towards the end of the day. The copies were not made until after working hours and were given to the teachers the following day. My client did not like the way their department chair organized the paperwork. My client thought he/she could do better and more efficient with the stack of
American culture, afraid of hard work suppresses perfectionism, a trait closely tied to a strong work ethic. So many articles and papers explain the detrimental effects of striving for perfectionism; the website, Psychology Today says, “Perfectionism may be the ultimate self-defeating behavior. It turns people into slaves of success—but keeps them focused on failure, dooming them to a lifetime of doubt and depression.”
Carl Sagan once said “What an astonishing thing a book is. It's a flat object made from a tree with flexible parts on which are imprinted lots of funny dark squiggles. But one glance at it and you're inside the mind of another person… Writing is perhaps the greatest of human inventions, binding together people who never knew each other, citizens of distant epochs. Books break the shackles of time." Carl Sagan brings up an interesting point, that reading a book is a journey through a person’s mind and that every book carries a message, one that reflects what was inside the author’s head. It is by study of this theme that we can see the struggles that the author,
I was never an avid reader. Under normal circumstances, I would’ve relied on people around me for information rather than find it myself. Under normal circumstances, I would simply work for a living. Work until I would make something of myself. These were not normal circumstances. Now I wished that I picked up a book and thought for myself before my life would come to this.
Reading have always been one of my favourite things to do in my free time. After I learnt to read in kindergarden, I fell inlove with books. They’re something more than just a hobby. With them I discovered a whole new world – world full of magic, love, friendships and betrails. And everytime I open a new book there are new characters and new beautiful stories.
“Perfectionism is a dream killer. Because it’s just fear disguised as trying to do your best. It just is,” said Mastin Kipp. Perfectionism has developed to be a major problem for me during my eighth grade year. I wanted everything to be perfect, but did not realize that this had my dreams slip further and further away from me. I learned that being perfect does not lead to you success, and I learned it in the hard way.
Table 9 also presents the R Square, which is .013. This means that only 1% of variance in EFL teachers’ depersonalization is explained by conscientious perfectionism scores, which could be considered as a very small effect size according to Cohen’s guidelines for effect size.
Multiple researchers indicate the existing connection between perfectionism and psychological disorders including depression and anxiety (Ashby, Rice, & Martin, 2006; Noble, Ashby & Gnilka, 2014). Perfectionism represents the expectation of meeting high-performance standards followed by self or others’ criticism. College years represent challenging years of academia and include common problems such as depression and anxiety. Research Consortium of Counseling and Psychological Services to Higher Education, mentions that 37% of students reported that perfectionism made their academic years quite stressful (as cited in Noble et al., 2014). Moreover, studies show a positive relationship between depression and multidimensional perfectionism, which includes adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism.
The idea that perfectionism is a trait and also known as a characteristic of an individual, implicates that it derives from both biological and environmental. Undergraduate students tend to deal with many life stresses in university, which includes home life and student life. Most undergraduates have made a transition from college to university as well as leaving home, which can cause some insecurity but also some enthusiasm. For example, students who are more reliant on their parents are more likely to find home life stressful as well as combining it with university studies, because of the drastic transition of next stages and responsibility. This informs us that undergraduate students are more likely to have excess stressful events and also may find it hard to cope with university, Research also suggest that an individual’s personality is what would influence students coping strategies at university, ‘Adaptive perfectionistic traits are beneficial when coping with stressors’ (Schwenke 2012).