What Drives Jealousy? By Sarah Hill And David Buss

Jealousy is just another part of everyday life. As shown in Bobbie Ann Mason's "Being Country", it's not always easy to look at the bright side. For example, when Mason's family was eating dinner, she called it "fuel for work". Instead of looking to the negative side, she could've been grateful that she had food. Rather than looking at the positive side, we as humans like to generate an invalidating conclusion from unfortunate events in our lives to people that seem more fortunate. Envy and desire were two feelings that I experienced while growing up. Accepting these feelings weren't hard, turning them into ambitions were.

An individual who is cognizant are capable of determining one’s psychological states exuded during any particular circumstance. Adults who augment such necessary cordial competencies will discern, elucidate, and justify such psychological states occurring internally and in others. Comprehension is pivotal for the regulation of one’s psychological states. The primary objective of writing this essay is to written with the prime intent on how the decisions of other counterfactual thinking influences the experience of envy. Envy is self-pernicious due to the inability to cherish one’s exceptional bestowed treasures. An example of envy includes the following: you have been working for a company as a business administrator for fifteen years with no capability to advance in an eminent status in the job setting while a recent hire who only has been working for the company for only one year manages to become the corporate executive officer. It is a frustrating experience that can lead to both a desire that the other loses the advantage and a motivation to improve oneself (Parrott & Smith, 1993; Smith & Kim, 2007; Van de Ven, Zeelenberg, & Pieters, 2009). Mental images occurring in the cognitive process for any alterations for the previous circumstances influence ones psychological

Jealousy is something that has always and will continue to plague mankind. In the myth of Hainuwele, she is referred to as a nubile maiden. Nubile means sexually attractive. Hainuwele was not only beautiful, but she was desired and lusted after by men. Any woman in any culture that is beautiful or desired will be disliked or even hated by someone whether it is known or unknown. Envy along with greed, gluttony, lust, pride, anger, and sloth are deemed as the Cardinal sins. When a woman is jealous, it is normally because the other woman has

Envy is suggested to be a waste of mental energy by author Joseph Epstein. The well accredited movement leader Buddha would likely agree with this idea as he states, “Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others.(Cite) He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind” which suggests that by wasting energy to envy others the ability to reach a peace of mind is impractical. In the book Envy, Joseph Epstein writes a series of chapters to define what he claims to be invidious envy. The claim Epstein makes is that invidious envy is poor mental hygiene. He believes that this type of true envy can block clarity which can affect ones judgment and produce a humble opinion of ones self. In addition, envy can cloud the ability to be generous

The article titled, "Sex differences in jealousy: evolution, physiology, and psychology" written by Buss, Larsen, Western and Semmelroth (1992, as cited in Funder & Ozer, 1997, p. 211), discuss that evolution is rooted in reproductive success of the various species. Therefore, the core content of studying evolutionary psychology includes researching sexual differences (Buss et al, 1992, as cited in Funder & Ozer, 1997, 211). There are benefits and costs or the adaptive problems to investing in offspring for both the males and females (Buss et al, 1992, as cited in Funder & Ozer, 1997, 211). The benefit is of course the

Jealousy will cause others to be upset with you when they should be celebrating with you. It will cause you to compare your success with others in order to compare your abilities and worth. The more Laban did to Jacob the more God blessed him because Jacob did not seek revenge, but he went to God. The battle does not belong to you, but the battle belongs to God. With God all things are possible and He will

On the other hand, our prideful and selfish jealousy can develop into an uncontrolled monster. Throughout the Bible, jealousy leads to horrific actions, such as Cain killing Abel and Joseph’s brothers selling him into slavery. Then there was King Saul, so jealous of David it overtook his life trying to track down David and kill him. Worst of all the Pharisees were jealous of Jesus, which lead to the execution of their Messiah! It is a sin with grave consequences, so be jealous at your own risk.

Jealousy is one of the most dangerous traits that a person can carry. It often leads to hurting others or yourself. It comes unexpectedly and will attack you in the most harsh ways possible, it eats you away driving many insane. It is something that someone must learn and understand so that they can vere away from it and prosper in life. This is a lesson that I learned from the book othello. This book has had the greatest impact on me throughout all the readings in my four years at GLTS. The book showed me that by hating others for their achievements you only can drag yourself down into a place that is not easy to step out of. To prosper you can not let others utopias created hatred in yourself.

In daily life, humans experience envy all over the world. This “deadly sin” may look different for each person, but it still prevalent for everyone. Many students in high school face envy by someone getting a spot in a play, athletic team, or cheerleading squad over them. The podcast “Feeding the Green-Eyed Monster: What Happens When Envy Turns Ugly”, teaches the positivity and negativity of the emotion of envy. By learning this difference, someone may learn to use this ugly natural response to be uplifting to their life

For example doing better than the person next to you is a strong personality type that represents a hard worker trying to move up in his/her company. In my case trying to have the best paper in my class. In addition to stand out amongst your peers an adaptive attitude is necessary to succeed and gain the same resources in a given domain that is the assumed nature of the evolutionary development. Feeling envious is only normal because I just want to achieve the same or better, wanting pass the class and move on. However, envy can also be a maladaptive emotion. Just by how it appears, personal agony, frustration at work, family fighting envy is a negative response to everything. In addition, it is also taboo for social networking that means resources necessary to survive and reproduces “similarly, male sexual jealousy is another evolved psychological mechanism that hasn’t quite caught up to modern times (Kanazawa, 2007).” Finally people take note when someone is acting envious and do not operate

When a person first thinks of murder, envy probably is not their second thought, but it should be their third. Statistically speaking, jealousy ranks number three in the most common motives for manslaughter. So although it may seem like a simple enough emotion, many feelings coincide. To most, it is a stressful and unwanted inner conflict that can cause or further aggravate thoughts of insecurity and inadequacy. Also, apparently, violence-inducing rage.

Envy can often be felt by those less fortunate and insecure about themselves. Envy is wanting something that they do not have, while jealousy is the fear of losing something you value because of someone else. Envy itself is very reserved and quiet, longing for the advantages that others have. Envy strives for approval, attention, and success. Idolizing successful people is what envy is very good at.

Envy can also derive from a sense of low self-esteem that results from an upward social comparison

Jealousy is like an eloquent wart, that has . Jealousy occurs when someone doesn’t feel content with themselves and is debilitated by someone else’s capacities. The underlying cause of why someone may feel threatened by others success is due to insecurity. This can influence individuals who lack self-confidence to have self-hatred. Jealousy can eat away the core happiness of person’s well-being that can lead to a mentally destructive path. Jealousy can end the possibility of relationships; however, jealousy seems to be a human trait or human instinct that can be learned over time. Above all jealousy should be examined, debated, discussed in regard to how it affects an individual that has this trait.

Envy is a feeling that has been around the society for a long time; therefore, it has been discussed by religions and psychologist throughout the history. “For where envying and strife [is], there [is]