What Ground-Rules Might You Put In Place That Might Allow Them To Each Other?

How can two people holding diametrically opposed political, social, and cultural views peacefully coexist in the same household?

You need to be able to actively listen and come to a compromise from this, and above all try to avoid accusations.

In situation number one I witnessed my parents fighting over who is supposed to pay certain bills. My parents are married but live in different houses so they share bills for both houses, although my father pays a majority of them. During their fight I noticed my father being distant, not listening and barley responding at all. My mother on the other hand made sure to put in every single one of her thoughts, even if they weren’t kind words. For most of the fight my dad would look the opposite direction of my mom indicating he was not listening, he would also text on his phone and get up and leave the room all together. In my opinion this was my father trying to be mindful, taking a step back to exclude himself from the situation, take a moment to breath and reevaluate the situation at hand so it would not escalate. Unfortunately my mother only saw this as him being rude and not caring. Since she thought he was trying to run from the argument my mom would only get more upset. This caused her to yell louder and use more profound words. At this point she had completely shut down any possibility that she could be wrong in the situation, making her unwilling to listen to my father anymore. You could probably already guess that this fight went absolutely nowhere. Both of my parents eventually gave up, went to separate rooms, and ignored each other for the rest of the evening.

Dumlao, Rebecca. Botta, Renee.”Family communication patterns and the conflict styles young adults use with their fathers.” Communication Quarterly. Vol. 48 no. 2 Spring 2000: 174-189.

As everything was progressing forward, my parents relationship was taking a turn for the worse. It seemed like they were complaining about each other a lot more. I didn’t understand it. They never really complained about each other before. All of a sudden they just started yelling about how much they couldn’t stand each other. I would usually defend the other parent and say that they shouldn't talk about each other in front of me. I became very irritating. It reminded me of a part in The Glass Castle. There is a part where Jeanette’s parents fight for a long time. They fight all through the night and into the next morning. It was like that except in an indirect sort of way. I became more irritated. Why did my parents resent each other so much? They had been married for many years and had three

When a counselor has a validation issue they should seek there supervisor advice. When intimate questions are discussed with inexperience persons it drives your interest. When a man give a woman compliment at each gathering she feels special and want to hear more and do more. So as a counselor to client getting involve with intimate sexual conversation must be a limit to discussing. The discussion should be in a written form when the counselor feels their hormone is becoming elevated. The client may feel the same; the counselor is in control of the session leave the room as they write. Once the counselor return to the session and regrouped, redirect the client with healthy talk not sexual talk. The counselor once boundaries and limits are set encourages the client to write a personal dairy of their personal intimacy thoughts to share with their love one in the future.

A good example of this could be discipline, one parent may not fully agree with spanking, while the other might, and with the child in the custody of the parent, who believes in spanking, may spank the child. Then when the parent who does not believe in spankings receives the child finds out that the child was disciplined in that manner could result in confrontation with

I asked them to pick one of the issues and they picked a recent conflict regarding setting limits for their children. I asked them to discuss the issue and I immediately understood why they could not resolve their issues.

As Will recently mentioned in a previous blogpost, 'uncondtional positive regard and genuine warmth are the best relationship building tools we have.' As research strongly suggests, relationship factors (alliance) between therapist and client make up to 30% of the key elements for positive outcomes. Studies also suggest that a huge number of people report

These conflicts start with one member of the family; in this episode it is the man. In the beginning of the episode, the Dunphy Family had trouble with the smoke detectors. Phil Dunphy, who is the man of the family, struggles to tackle which detector is making the low battery sound. With little success, he feels like he isn’t capable of even a simple task that’s generally completed by men. He feels like he is losing his masculinity every time the smoke detectors ‘chirp,’ which is literally driving him nuts. Later, the gay couple, Mitchell and Cameron lightly argue whether to take their adopted daughter to act in a commercial. Mitchell, which happens to make the income to provide for the family, denies Cameron’s request. Cameron complains that he makes all the decisions because he makes the income, and gets more say for the family. To prove that he is not going to let that stop him, he takes their daughter to act, despite what Mitchell had against it. Lastly the

The first goal would be to establish the intrapersonal and interpersonal differentiation to balance our feelings, thoughts and reactions to life situations (Gehart, 2016). In the case with Allison and her family. As the therapist, I would want Allison and especially her mother to acknowledge her worries and feelings from how she interactions with Allison. Gehart (2016) states, “Differentiated people are able to reflect on the pain: clearly separate out what is their part and what is their partner’s part and identify a respectful way to move for-ward” (pg. 204). I believe this can be a powerful

1. What are some other life changes that can cause conflicts in families? (3 marks)

families, and the different conflicts each household goes through like; how parents aren 't really apart of

As a potential counselor, I would recognize their strengths as an individuals and as a married couple. Within their strengths, I would focus on exploring their values and their expression of communication (love). Understanding that each person has a different love language or expression of communication, it would be helpful to explore this area and identify their communication (love) language. Not only is identifying their method of communication important, but learning how to express each other’s communication language is the key success. As we reach this point, hopefully we could engage in some role-playing to help execute what has been learned and to recognizing what to avoid that can be misinterpreted to what is actually being communicated.

their children to discuss household rules and their importance to the family dynamics. These styles of