What I know now that I wish I knew then

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What I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then

What I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then The books Love and War by John and Stasi Eldridge and The Mystery of Marriage by Mike Mason were hard books to read, not because of the writing style itself (although the writing style of the latter was harder to read than the writing style of the former), but because they really made me stop and think about my failed marriage and brought to light some hard truths about myself. In the following paragraphs, I will expound on some of the thoughts I had, and insights I gained, while reading these two books.
I could not even get through the first chapter of Love and War without getting hit with a hard
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I have to say that my favorite chapter in The Mystery of Marriage is the chapter on death. I am the daughter of a mortician, and have always thought that I have a very realistic outlook on life and death. I have seen and experienced my fair share of death, but the way Mason talks about mourning one’s spouse while they are still alive is a new concept for me, and a beautiful concept at that. My outlook on death has always been that we live, we die, our family and friends mourn, and then they get over it (usually). I think it is a great concept to “eulogize” your spouse while he or she is still here. If you think about it, when a eulogy is given at a funeral it (usually) talks about how great and loving the person was and how much they were loved and will be missed; would it not be great for people to know that before they die? This chapter made me think about how much closer a husband and wife could be if they both knew how great their spouse thinks they are and how much their spouse loves them and cherishes them while they are alive. I think this is something I will try and do if I ever get married again.
Another way these books made me reflect on my marriage and my life, were the chapters on becoming one. In Love and War John and Stasi talk about how their son Sam was asking people questions about if they thought there was one person in the world for them to marry or if they thought that a

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