What Is Kimya's Breakdown In The Forty Rules Of Love

“Love and Other Catastrophes: A Mix Tape” is a work by Amanda Brown that makes everyone recall a relationship at one point in their lives. The music we listen to tells a lot about what we are going through, and in this story, the author is going through a breakup. Despite all of these songs on this list, there is a song that is not. “You Always Hurt the One You Love” is a song by the Mills Brothers that was released in 1957. Without a doubt, this song should been included in this work.

Love through relationships can be represented in many ways, for example romantic love and platonic love. In “A Bolt of White Cloth” by Leon Rooke, the couple has many types of love relationships. The wife loves her husband in a passionate way, the wife also has a deep connection and love for their cat that passed away. A relationship with a child is also mention by the man, however we soon discover they are unable to conceive. The evil apparent in the relationship with the cat is death, death by the actions of mankind. When the man inquires about their love and what they have loved, the woman replies, “Last year this time I had me a fourth, but it got run over. Upon the road there, by the time tall trees, by a man who didn’t even stop” (Rooke 3). Even after the passing of the cat the women's love was unconditional, it states, “She’d dug a grave under the grapevine and said sweet words over it. She sorely missed the cats” (Rooke 3). Death is inevitable, someday the passing of our loved ones will come. Death of the cat symbolizes the evil present in their love relationships.

"But at this moment in his life Heinrich is facing a void. I remember a similar void, when a long and intimate relationship ended. What I felt then was fear. And at times panic" (Griffin 358). The void that Griffin is talking about is the same void Himmler had and that is feelings that are raging within finally brought out. The difference is that Griffin exposes her feelings, but Himmler cannot.

Psychoanalysis can be inscribed in many poems subliminally. Authors tend to use psychoanalysis to solve the concern of a psychological issue or dysfunction problem that they have encountered. It is the conscious awareness of not knowing what the problem is that gives it so much control of our destructive behavior. As human beings, we often repress our deepest fears, emotions and experiences that tend to unfurl in the future beyond our control. Until we can acknowledge and openly admit to ourselves the cause of this, we will continue to disguise the problems unconsciously. It benefits our mental state for a certain length of time, but we ultimately suffer from it in the end. In her poem, Surprise, Jane Kenyon utilizes fear of betrayal, the double and being forced into a regressive state that creates her fear to be intimate.

This eventually led to her committing suicide in an attempt to give her daughter the strength that she lacked. Secondly, these women, especially the latter wives and the concubines, lose a lack of identity. For example, when these women marry, they are referred to as which wife they are. Even the wives refer to each other as first wife, second wife, etc.

There are many people in this world that can prove that our past experiences contribute to the shaping of our present day selves and lives. Whether our past contains hidden skeletons in our closets or not, we cannot keep it a secret nor can we run from it. But if we decide to do so the past will only come to haunt us. In the novel In The Lake of the Woods, we see that there is a fine line between love and insanity. And John Wade –the antihero of the story- is drifting on the border line. One day, John awakens to find Kathy Wade, the love of his life and wife, gone without a trace along with the boat. Although author Tim O'Brien presents us with many theories for her

Love is unique in its striking ability to be a driving force in dictating interpersonal relationships. It patterns behavior and orients individuals towards their distinct, unique attractions. According to Velleman, love penetrates deeper than one’s qualities; it extends to one’s rational will, or the essence of a person. To him, though love appears to have particularity, it is also a moral emotion. Kolodny subscribes to the relationship theory, asserting that an ongoing, interpersonal, and historical relationship with a relative is a part of the reason for love. In Kolodny’s view, the existence of the true self is irrelevant, as is the morality of love. Both Velleman and Kolodny disprove the quality theory; however, their perceptions of love and its morality differ. I believe that Kolodny is correct in his view that morality is irrelevant to love and that there must be factual reasons for love. Although it is enticing to believe that one is attracted to the essence of another, the essence is not motivation enough for love. The relationship theory takes into account the motivation needed to love a particular person from a historical, interpersonal, and ongoing perspective.

"Dey gointuh make ‘miration ‘cause mah love didn’t work lak they love, if dey ever had any. Then you must tell ‘em dat love ain’t somethin’ lak uh grindstone dat’s de same thing everywhere and do de same thing tuh everything it touch. Love is lak de sea. It’s uh movin’ thing, but still and all, it takes its shape from de shore it meets, and it’s different with every shore." Love is different for everyone; sometimes you have to work for the one you love, and sometimes it just comes naturally. Love is not a fixed thing. It is as the ocean waters tide changing, and the way the shores have shape. Society has a certain outlook on what love is, but in actuality there is no one set way to love. “It was not death she feared. It was misunderstanding. If they made a verdict that she didn’t want Tea Cake and wanted him dead, then that was a real sin and a shame. It was worse than murder.” Janie’s falsehood is her worse sin, not the actual murder. Murder, death, are things that relate to the morality theme that is throughout this essay, and the book.

Regardless, her poor emotional state is proven through many lines in this lai, especially when she tells the knight “I grant you my love and my body” (115). She has finally come up with a method to “get away” from her husband in this decision. Throughout the rest of the story it is not once said that the wife came to love her new husband or her family, on the contrary, she does not seem happy in the following scenes. However, being afraid of her husband and his emotional violence, it is rational that she would try to find safety with someone else, even if that means giving away her “love,”—likely the appearance of such rather than actual love—and her

In a social setting where the presence of God is absent, love simply cannot exist. It is a common-truth that human beings require love; in a society where love cannot and does not exist, the void where that “love” would have existed becomes filled with deluded misconceptions of what love truly is. In Marie-Claire Blais’ Mad Shadows, Blais clearly illustrates what happens genuine love cannot exist and is replaced by misinterpretations, with the use of well developed character relationships. In many of the relationships (romantic and otherwise) displayed

In Name of the Wind, Patrick Rothfuss gives life to The Four Corners of Civilization through his storytelling. Storytelling gives the author an opportunity to show their experiences and reflect their beliefs within the world they are creating. During the time this book was being written, there was the Iraq and Afghanistan War taking place which had been sending many soldiers back home with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Rothfuss parallels this disorder within his book through the main character, Kvothe, when he experiences trauma and he shows how Kvothe copes with the persisting trauma through grief theory, “four doors of the mind” (135) . His four doors of the mind is similar to the Kubler-Ross Model, which is widely accepted by practitioners, but challenges it by believing the mind copes with pain through the central idea of numbing. However, this mindset of categorizing emotions experienced within grief can be destructive behavior towards any griever rather than helping them cope; stages of post-loss grief do not exist.

The discussion of the Wife’s five husbands describes her evolving role as a woman and how she overcame the most ridiculous obstacles to maintain this idea or illusion of marriage. The Wife’s depiction of her marriages was that three were good and two were bad. The initial marriages were to older rich men where she kept up this idea of marriage in order to receive money, but was not faithful by

Though the woman may believe love lies in this precarious mode of living, she never finds true love and ends up feeling lost and empty.

In the poem “The Wife’s Lament” there is a transfer to a female point of view which was rare during times of a patriarchal society. A theme seen is this poem is exile. The wife who faces exile from her lord later reaches a state of bitter unhappiness. The wife expresses her longing for her husband through use of ubi sunt:

Jhumpa Lahiri’s short story, “A Temporary Matter,” presents the failing marriage of an Indian couple, Shoba and Shukumar. Lahiri illustrates how the grief of losing someone can lead to a broken relationship. Shukumar and Shoba have been ignoring each other since Shoba had a miscarriage. The tragedy changes the way they treat each other. Their grief makes both of them become two different people. A temporary matter has forced them to communicate with each other and since then, Shukumar and Shoba are comfortable talking to each other and even making love with each other. This temporary matter has somehow temporarily reconnected them together. Jhumpa Lahiri intentionally uses the symbols of darkness, light, house, the baby and neighbors to represent a broken relationship of a married couple.