What is self-confidence, “self-confidence is belief in oneself and in one 's powers and abilities.” (Merriam-Webster) Most people will tell you that no one can change the way they view themselves, and that their self-confidence is high. Most of those people have not experienced someone close to them or significant speaking or treating them negatively and making them feel less than or unsure of themselves. Usually the person that can make you feel the most self-conscious are those that are close to you, but others are more than capable to doing so as well. Those people will say and do little subtle things that will make you second guess your abilities or how you look or carry yourself. Sometimes it is just one comment or a series of comments that lead up to the feelings up uncertainty and extreme self-consciousness of the things that would once go unnoticed. The comments start off small, and you try to ignore them, or people may act a certain way towards you to make you feel uncomfortable. The worst experience I have ever had is when I was met with the negative opinions of someone I was madly in love with. Just because they say that they love you does not mean that they will not say or do things that will hurt you or make you feel self-conscious. At times this can be due to jealousy or wanting to keep you feeling bad to make themselves feel better about themselves.
At the age of eighteen I was just beginning my life, at the time I decided to put off college and go straight
Self confidence is the foundation of success, achievement, and happiness. Unfortunately, the foundation of self confidence can become shaky and unstable if someone that you look up to as a role model hurts your self esteem and courage. One of the biggest role models in my life used to be my first club soccer coach. He seemed brilliant, passionate, and willing to work with my team. This man soon became the complete opposite of what I hoped he would be. I soon realized that he was a two faced liar and one of the most awful people I have ever met. Little did my ten year old self know he would be the downfall of my self confidence and he would slowly destroy any passion I had for the sport I loved all with only a few words.
I was always insecure about something my whole life. I was scared to talk to “cool kids” because I would stumble on my words or say something dumb. I would avoid going to social events because I wasn’t good at talking with people and was afraid that I would set a bad impression when meeting new people because I never knew what to say. Sometimes I was even insecure about my appearance. Was I wearing something ugly? Is there something in my teeth? Is my hair a mess? By being afraid of what others thought of me and not being fully confident in myself, I was showing insecurity. Being insecure can be a bad thing but it could also be a good thing as it teaches you to be happy with what you look like and who you
Not having a strong sense of confidence can cause problems such as being easily influenced, having trouble making the right decisions, and getting involved in unhealthy relationships. Developing a strong sense of identity and self esteem is important because we must first learn how to understand and love ourselves before we can allow anyone else to. I am confident because I know who I am and what I want in live. I am driven and goal oriented and I will stop at literally nothing to get what I want. Being confident in myself has allowed me to express myself in a variety of ways without worrying whether or not people are going to judge me. I’m a big believer in “look good, feel good, do good” so I always try to look my best even if I’m feeling not-so-confident on that particular
feelings and thoughts fueled my low confidence. People say if you fake it enough, it eventually becomes like second skin. I decided to fake confidence. I continued my bubbly facade. I looked in the mirror and repeated to myself that I’m allowed to love myself.
Self-Reflection is when someone looks at their reflection in the mirror and describe how they see themselves daily. For the past year, my self-observation has become a significant part of my image of myself, and I considered it necessary. It is important for me to be able to look at myself each morning to critique the flaws I have and wish away what I look like as a person. Self-confidence is something lacked in my world, and this experiment was extremely challenging at first. On average, I think about my appearance sixty to seventy percent of the day and wonder if how I look is acceptable for the public eye. It is not that I strive to look the best, it is that I am afraid someone may look at me and not see someone
But what is wrong with being confident. Confidence is the belief of one's abilities or powers to do something. These things can vary from getting up and giving a speech to climbing to the highest mountain top. One of the biggest advantages of being confident is just being confident. The only person you have to prove anything to is you. You can be yourself around everyone, and you don't care what people think as long as you’re happy.The only person you have to be better than is the person that you were yesterday. In the words of Joss Whedon, “ Be yourself, unless you suck.” Now some people might think, “ Wow! That was really derogatory and degrading.” What Joss meant was the arrogant, hypocritical, and the ignorant people shouldn’t be themselves, those are the people that suck. Those are the people that need to change. The positive, confident and ambitious people are the people that should never change. Those are the people that should be themselves.Being confident has many other positive effects on people, such as you will think like a winner basically turning yourself into the little engine that could.I think I can.(3x) Any mountain you can climb and any ocean you can swim. Your attitude will also be a lot better and you will attract the right people because who doesn't love a positive outgoing person that doesn't let anything stand in the way of him or her. You won't look for excuses not to do something you should look for excuses or reasons to do something. Next time you talk yourself out of doing something like going to a party or doing something challenging that will take all of your effort, say “What the Hell!” and go do it anyway, because remember being confident is just about making yourself happy. If you don’t finish the challenge you got yourself into as long as you gave it your all you can be happy with
Self-confidence is your belief that you and complete any task put in front of year. People with self-confidence are cool, calm and collective in any situation. When I think of self-confidence, I think of Kobe Bryant. That guy can miss forty nine out of forty nine shots in an NBA game and would not hesitate to take shot number fifty if the game was on the line. In the movie, Will Ferrell completely tears down every kid on the team.
You and only you are responsible for your fate. Life is no fun if you spend it hating yourself; this stifles any progress you hope to make. Once your confidence is up, you will stop making the terrible mistake of comparing yourself to others. You will already be comfortable and happy with who you are.
it was then that I decided to go to college. Although I was feeling scared because of my age, I
Ever look into the mirror and notice your imperfections right away? Look up anyway to cover or hide them? Insecurities can tear down our self esteems and make us feel separated from everything else. Big forehead, 5 head, 6 head. Always on my mind, those words replying over and over. I used to be confident in myself until I reached middle school, were boys and girls in my classes would always call me names and put me down for my forehead or my body. After that it was something that always have had stuck to me, made me always worry about it and feel as if all eyes were on my forehead. I've always tried to cover it weather it was makeup, hats, my hairstyles. ‘Insecure’ lack of confidence from oneself and appearance. Who would have thought 1 word could control so much and cause so many problems within teens. Too fat, forehead big, flat chested, too tall, too short. All these and much more are stuck in all of our heads making us feel outsiders from everyone else and not as good as anyone else. All over the
I used to be internally fragile. Self conscious about what I looked like internally and externally. I was always worried whether or not I was liked by my peers, or if I was even socially accepted by them. My confidence relied on the comments of others. If I got a compliment, my confidence rose, but later would drop. If I got hate, my confidence would drop, and I would try and figure out how to change myself for social acceptance. Then, I dragged myself through the path of self confidence. With persistence and love, I was able to rebuild my confidence and dote myself.
First is when communicating with people. Second is the way you walk. I was low in both of those my self esteem was to the floor. Let me tell you about the confidence I used to have when talking to other individuals. I was the kid that if a girl dared to talk to me I would just awkwardly walk away. I did this not because I was not interested in whoever was talking to me but because I was just this little awkward scrawny boy who had no idea how to communicate with human beings, I was simply a weirdo. Now that I gave you a hint of my communication skills let me tell you about how I used to walk. Everyone knows that when walking you should have your back as straight as possible and try to keep a straight posture. This showed people that you are an alpha and it gives off an intimidating look. Well I was the complete opposite of that, I walked with my head in the ground and had an arched back. This meant I was vulnerable and an easy target to bullies, which I
The quote I like the most is; “You have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. I have no responsibility to be like they expect me to be. It's their mistake, not my failing.”, said by Richard Feynman. I like it because I feel like it is something we need to be reminded at times. Teenagers especially, as we have to decide just about everything we are going to do in the future. In the middle of the process of choosing schools, it’s easy to think about the expectations from our parents. It’s nice to be reminded that we do not have to live up to what they think, or what they want us to do. It’s a very bold statement, and for someone to say something like this, they would have to be very confident.
If one has poor self-concept and sees oneself as unworthy then they will present themselves this way, which will result in a negative response from people. If one feels good about oneself, they will present themselves as worthy, which will result in a more positive response from people. The perceptions, beliefs and attitudes that steam from self-concept, will affect one's social surroundings. One will either come out of a situation with a positive or negative concept of these surroundings. Poor communication can cause one to have a poor perception of oneself. One's emotional state, dislikes, likes values and body image are affected by the opinions of others and can render one to have an inferior and insecure self-concept.
Some people have so much confidence that they are not afraid to do anything. Others are the complete opposite, and are scared of being judged or ridiculed by others. Self-confidence cannot be taught, but is reached by the individual when they decide to believe in themselves. In order to attain self-confidence, one needs to believe that they can do the task at hand. It cannot be accomplished overnight, but slowly gets stronger and stronger over a period of time. One of the major ways to obtain confidence is acting like one is confident, even when not. Acting will transfer into truly being self-confident and having high self-esteem. Another way to gain confidence is by talking to others.