What Make Up Marilyn's Grief History?

Grief is a natural response to a major loss, though often deeply painful and can have a negative impact on your life. Any loss can cause varied levels of grief often when someone least expects it however, loss is widely varied and is often only perceived as death. Tugendhat (2005) argued that losses such as infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, adoption and divorce can cause grief in everyday life. Throughout our lives we all face loss in one way or another, whether it is being diagnosed with a terminal illness, loss of independence due to a serious accident or illness, gaining a criminal record (identity loss), losing our job, home or ending a relationship; we all experience loss

When Marilyn figures out that there is no way she can escape her death, she is still persistent about wanting to get in contact with her brother. She says, "I wish Gerry would get back before it's too late. Do you really think he will, and you didn't just say so to make me feel better?”(Godwin, 14). Even moments before her death, she is worried about her brother, which displays the love she has for him and how much she means to him. In fact, she didn’t call her mom or dad, she called her brother, and that really reveals how much of a loving sister she is to him in the

Life involves many losses. There are small losses: losing a football game, failing a test, or forgetting an assignment. At some point, though, all of us will experience a major loss: the death of a close family member, a major illness, or a divorce in the family. Loss is inevitable for all of us. If you have ever experienced grief and loss, or if you are currently experiencing it, then you might be trying to recover the wrong way. You might believe that you have gotten over it, but it could come back even years later. When it comes to grief and loss, there are a lot of components that people do not understand, but today there are many methods to coop that will lead you down the path of healing.

Loss is a phenomenon that is experienced by all. Death is experienced by family members as a unique and elevated form of loss which is modulated by potent stages of grief. Inevitably, everyone will lose someone with whom they had a personal relationship and emotional connection and thus experience an aftermath that can generally be described as grief. Although bereavement, which is defined as a state of sorrow over the death or departure of a loved one, is a universal experience it varies widely across gender, age, and circumstance (definitions.net, 2015). Indeed the formalities and phases associated with bereavement have been recounted and theorized in literature for years. These philosophies are quite diverse but

John could have obtained council from someone less personally involved in her case, but the only help he sought was for the condition of the house and the baby. He obtained a nanny to watch over the children while he was away at work each day: "It is fortunate Mary is so good with the baby." He also had his sister Jennie take care of the house. "She is a perfect and enthusiastic housekeeper." There is one instance, however, when he does talk of taking her to an expert for assistance, "John says if I don 't pick up faster he shall send me to Weir Mitchell in the fall." Nevertheless she took that as a threat since Dr. Mitchell was even more domineering than her husband and his brother. Perhaps, if she had been allowed to come and go and do as she pleased her depression might have lifted, "I think sometimes that if I were only well enough to write a little it would relieve the press of ideas and rest me." It seems to her that just being able to tell someone how she really feels would have eased her depression, but her husband would not hear of it because of the embarrassing consequences it could bring to the family name. Thus, John has made her a prisoner in their marriage where her opinions are pushed aside, and her self-worthiness questioned.

In this reading, the narrator talks about the reaction of Mrs. Millard who had heart problems, when she notices of her husband´s death. Louise Mallard is at home with her sister Josephine, when they hear of a rain accident; then Josephine tells Louise that her husband has been killed it in the accident.

The first theory I will be discussing is the Continuing Bond Theory we covered in lecture. Continuing Bond Theory is about continuing a relationship with a loved one was has died, which helps enhance an individual’s life by continuing this bond (Class notes, 2017). When reading the group lossography I found many classmates who currently practice this theory. For example, a classmate describes the death of their grandmother who played a big role in their life. In their lossogrpahy, the classmate talks about the strong bond and close relationship with their grandmother. After the death of their grandmother, their family has created rituals by having created shirts in their grandmother’s memory, pillows made out of her shirts, and the family gathering together every year for the anniversary of her death (pg. 105). These rituals help keep and play a key role in the classmate’s relationship with their deceased grandmother. The grief theory applies to this example because this classmate engages in rituals every year to keep her grandmother in her memory and to help preserve the close bond they once had.

Soon enough Lucy wants more from John of being in there own house and living better. As John is away Lucy gets sick and eventually dies. John seems to think he need to find someone else to be with. He do not take any time of feeling sad about Lucy death. Even though the whole town is mad at him for being too quick about finding another wife he still does it. Show that John cannot be alone, he needs someone there with him as a guide. His new wife Hattie is just someone one he brought into his life, even though he knows she could never take Lucy place. John does whatever he wants, no matter what Hattie wants him to do or does not want him to do. John still has not matured because a responsible man and matured man do what they're supposed to do the right way. John seem to always want to be an a relationship but not really with someone he truly love. Hattie says “ Well if you do not want me you made lak yuh did.”(143). Showing he give signs that he need someone to be around him. Eventually John no longer want Hattie anymore and also hits her. He tries to be on his own for awhile to get his mind straight after all the drama and court dates with Hattie. John after a while goes right back to

Grief and loss are one of the most universal human experiences, though painful, and understandably causes distress. However, approximately 15 % experience a more problematic grieving process with elevated symptoms of depression and/or posttraumatic stress symptoms (Bonanno and Kaltman, 1999).There is no well-established model of the timeline for resolution of grief and the variance of its expression is wide. Many persons cope with the emotional pain of bereavement without any formal intervention. However, individuals who have experienced traumatic bereavement, such as deaths that are sudden, violent, or due to human actions (Green 2000), may face particular challenges. Researchers have tried to define a model for the treatment of traumatic bereavement that fully supports not only the client, but also those working with the clients around their trauma

Though Doka originally designated four elements, in depicting disenfranchised grief in nurses, Mortell (2015) labeled five features. Individuals are prone to experiencing this type of grief when a relationship is not acknowledged, the loss is unrecognized, there is exclusion from grieving rituals, the particular circumstances under which death occurs, and how the individual expresses his or her grief (Mortell, 2015). One must realize that society is governed by norms across all levels and these standards extend to delineating acceptable, meaningful relationships, thus when one endures a loss of a relationship outside of those deemed

seems that John is very controlling and doesn't pay true attention to his wife. The illnesses of both the

She continuously shows her opposition to the things that he says, however she in unable to speak up, because she has learned that her voice is silent, and she truly believes that John is doing what is best for her, and that she just must not have the mental capabilities to keep up with his rational. John’s continuation of power makes his wife appear weaker and weaker (Crossman). When John speaks of sending her away to get help, she is so upset by it and fears it, but she tries to keep strong and be respectful towards John. John’s continuance to relay directions such as this, that make her upset build onto her mental imbalances. At this point, the narrator admits to crying even more easily, and just being upset.

Grief is the act following the loss of a loved one. While grief and bereavement are normal occurrences, the grief process is a social construct of how someone should behave. The acceptable ways that people grieve change because of this construct. For a time it was not acceptable to grieve; today, however, it is seen as a necessary way to move on from death (Scheid, 2011).The grief process has been described as a multistage event, with each stage lasting for a suggested amount of time to be considered “normal” and reach resolution. The beginning stage of grief is the immediate shock, disbelief, and denial lasting from hours to weeks (Wambach, 1985). The middle stage is the acute mourning phase that can include somatic and emotional turmoil. This stage includes acknowledging the event and processing it on various levels, both mentally and physically. The final stage is a period of

He was a physician and declared that she was dealing with a simple and temporary matter. John even convinced himself that his wife was not really ill and that all she needed was some rest. He seems to love her, but still do not really understand what is happening to her. “He is very careful and loving, and hardly lets me stir without special direction” (line 30). The author characterized John as a naïve man who did not understand his wife’s desires.

This essay explores several models and theories that discuss the complexities of loss and grief. A discussion of the tasks, reactions and understanding of grief through the different stages from infants to the elderly, will also be attempted.