What Makes A Good Manners?

My grandmother taught me that “there is no excuse for bad manners,” and I have taken this little piece of wisdom with me throughout life. People in today's world seem to have thrown away manners and have forgotten that common decency, basic kindness, concern, respect and courtesy can not only open doors of opportunity, it literally defines their

My family are all big on the whole “manners” topic ! If you come to our house, you must take your shoes off, and once you do if we have food on hand or if we’re eating food on the store or if we’re eating food we will shove food down your throat even if you’re not hungry. Also, when an elderly is being quite rude to one of us, we must always respect our elders ! When my parents are lecturing us, we must stay quiet or else we won’t live to see tomorrow ! I believe that most of your manners show how you were culturally raised !

My grandmother taught me that “there is no excuse for bad manners,” and I have taken this little piece of wisdom with me throughout life. People in today's world seem to have thrown away manners and have forgotten that common decency, basic kindness, concern, respect and courtesy can not only open doors of opportunity, it literally defines their character. Ethics and morality is not just about big things – it's about the small things: the details of life. Morris calls this the “conditions under which people can be their best and do their best” (Morris p. 122). Treating people with

I have only talked to this person about two times since being here at college. It was a Tuesday morning, around 7:45 a.m. We were in the elevator, going from the fourth floor to the first. I was nervous getting on the elevator, knowing I was about to do it. I stood right by this person, since there were five others, all around the age of nineteen, with us. As I started to ask how their morning was, I leaned in to talk to them. This person actually pulled their head back away from mine as they started to talk. I noticed their eyes got wider and they were hesitant to answer me back. During our conversation, I felt embarrassed because I could tell I made them uncomfortable. After we got to the first floor, I walked fast to leave this person. I was that self-conscious, I wanted to leave immediately. Breaking a social norm with an acquaintance is an awkward situation for both people.

Let’s take an example of a co-worker many years ago. She was a cashier; this day was very busy. A man came through her line that looked rather disheveled. His hair was mussed, was sweaty and dirty, wearing a threadbare t-shirt full of holes, the shorts were similarly ragged. At checkout, the cashier told him the Food Stamp machine was not working (her comment was based on assumption that he was receiving this due to his haphazard appearance). The man took offense to her comment. After paying quietly in

Civility is manners. Doing simple behaviors like not chewing with one’s mouth open while eating or holding doors open for others can be considered as simple acts of civility. In the two essays “What is Civility?” by P.M. Forni and “Play with Your Food, Just Don’t Text” by Sara Rimer, they discuss civility. In Forni’s essay, he discusses civility from a teacher’s stand point, and Rimer focuses on technology and how it leads to a lack of civility in a lot of homes worldwide. Although they have two different stand points, they both focus on the similar aspect of civility being significant. Civility is important because it allows Americans to get along with each other by showing simple actions of courtesy, having manners, and being polite.

I had my share of moments where the cashier puts my money on the counter instead of in my hand when I clearly have my hand out ready to receive my change. I use to feed into that negativity and push the money to the cashier and rudely inform them that I wanted my return the same way I gave it to them. Now I just pick up my money, look at their name tag and the line number that they are working, ask for the manager and inform them of the disrespect that I just received. I am not in the business of getting anyone fired, but that behavior makes me feel as if I am not good enough or clean enough for them to kindly place my change in my hand. I understand some people may not see that as a form of rudeness, but I received that behavior as a low intensity of social norm and the intent to do harm is

It is actually a great deal of fun to behave outside of the socially excepted norm when you are with people that are unwilling to follow suit. I was able to get away with my behavior because no one was willing to say anything for fear of “causing a scene.” There is great power in having no shame. I eventually explained the reason for my behavior and all is well with my new friend.  During my second trial, I made the same approach with a female subject. I treated her gesture with more contempt than in my first trial. I did not feel as embarrassed or out of place as I did with the young man. I credit this comfort level to the fact that I had practiced this behavior once before and with practice comes confidence. This particular young lady was clearly an extroverted personality type and did not take my offense as gracefully as had the young man. This may have been because my offense was bolder than the first trial. She showed her offense by looking me up and down and with one hand on her hip, stated, “Anyways…” She proceeded to ignore my presence and continued her conversation with our mutual friend. This experiment obviously had a specific angle and expected result. The typical result will be discomfort and even mild hostility. I really enjoyed watching people struggle in between responding how they “ought” to instead of how the instinctively wanted to. For me, the most valuable lesson learned is the advantage

Judge Paul Heath Till’s essay “Morals, Manners, Customs, and Public Perception” has a very unique structure that helps the effectiveness of the authors argument. He starts off by giving reasons why people are lacking manners in everyday life. He also gives definitions of the words manner, manners, moral, and customs and then goes further to discuss the true meaning of these words. He also relates his life experiences and his personal beliefs to the topic at hand.

Growing up in the south I was taught that in order to be a real lady, or gentleman, you must have good manners or etiquette. I’m sure this surprises some people, especially those who believed in what the media was portraying. Showing some southern hospitality proves that you were raised right and that the people here are friendly and welcoming. I can not tell you how many times, so we do not seem rude, my mother has made me take food or another type of gift to someone to say thank you or to make them feel welcomed. Never, I mean never, forget the art of small talk is not dead in the south, without fail someone will find you and want to catch up. Also, if an adult ask you a question do

Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation is a detailed summary of the proper etiquette of the time. The book covers everything from actions to avoid in public to mannerism expected

Focus wasn’t just on my manners anymore, it was on subtly diluting my personality. The sad thing is that it worked, and I spent years placing such heavy restrictions on my speech that words barely left my mouth. Determined to fit in, I kept silent when my friends walked all over me and jailed the part of me that could fire back retorts or make a joke.

People will bump you without saying excuse me. You can hold the door for someone and they will look at you without saying thank you. I know there are some people that do not say thank you just because people are not saying thank you to them. That is not a reason to be rude to others just because someone was rude to you. 2 wrongs don’t make a right.

The big three “rules to live by” that all people should follow are ¨Being kind can give make opportunities spark but being rude can lead you to being unhappy and just not feeling the way you should feel when you happy.

As children we are taught to always show respect to those around us. We are taught to never say no to an adult, to listen and to use manners to everyone around us. But as we grow older we develop a sense of rebelliousness, and an urge to question every single moral and value we have learned.