What We Talk About When We Talk About Love

823 WordsSep 11, 20054 Pages
After analyzing Raymond Carver's "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love," it is easy to see that there are several different ideas concerning true love that the characters in the story are in dispute over. Terri's idea of real love is the most valid out of the group at the table. All of the members of the group are rather confused as to what real love is. Terri is included as one of the confused. However, I believe that she is the closest to understanding what love is. A key piece of evidence demonstrating her understanding of love is her remark to Laura and Nick. She scolds the couple for basing their relationship on physical aspects, rather than emotion or passion. Terri, like the rest of the party, is on her second marriage.…show more content…
All four people at the table have been living their lives under different creeds concerning love. And all four have been living in a motionless fashion. For example, Nick and Laura both believe in physical love. Terri points out that their physical attraction will die with time. Also, Mel puts up a wall around his emotions toward people and seals himself off. He only believes in spiritual love. Poor Terri is married to Mel. She is just going down with the ship. Additionally, all four have been married once before. Obviously their ideas of love have already failed them at least once. At the end of the story, they all realize that they have been living either motionless, or simply just moving backwards. I think that Raymond Carver wants these fictitious characters to be an example for people to compare themselves to. Hopefully Carver's story can help people move their lives in the right
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