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What important qualities and knowledge are required in Christians helping the bereaved? How might growth of these qualities and this knowledge be encouraged among members of the church?

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Essay Title: What important qualities and knowledge are required in Christians helping the bereaved? How might growth of these qualities and this knowledge be encouraged among members of the church?

Introduction

‘In this world nothing can be said to be certain except death and taxes. While many may try hard to minimise the latter, none of us can avoid the former. Death is one human experience that we can all anticipate with absolute certainty’ (Legood/Markham 1:2003).

Death and dying are inescapable aspects of the human experience, and at some point in everyone’s life it is inevitable that they will have to face the death of a loved one, but how each person deals with that situation is different. For some it may be a relief …show more content…

Pastoral carers have to learn to forget about themselves and their own feelings, and to create the space where God can work. Their faith and insight into life must form the core of their pastoral work’ (NCBI:1990).

There are many aspects to the ministry of pastoral care to the bereaved, which require qualities of character, alongside a particular set of knowledge skills to be of use to those involved.

Presence: After Lazarus’ death even if Jesus had not brought him back to life it would appear his mere presence there would have been of considerable comfort to Mary and Martha. Likewise our presence can console the grieving, words are not always necessary, as was the case for a couple, who lost their six-year-old son, in an accident. They recall, ‘We needed family and friends for support. They came in the middle of the night, straight to the hospital.’ What did these friends say? ‘At that moment, we did not need words. Their presence said everything, they cared’ (wol.jw.org). Often the bereaved feel isolated and alone in their grief, struggling with many of the intense emotions and feelings a death brings, but just having someone to lean on can help them through the grieving process. Norman Autton writes, ‘By our mere physical presence with a sorrowing family we shall offer strength and support’ (59:1967). Support can be offered by just being a caring presence, neither answers nor advice need to be provided at that moment in time.

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