Essay Title: What important qualities and knowledge are required in Christians helping the bereaved? How might growth of these qualities and this knowledge be encouraged among members of the church?
Introduction
‘In this world nothing can be said to be certain except death and taxes. While many may try hard to minimise the latter, none of us can avoid the former. Death is one human experience that we can all anticipate with absolute certainty’ (Legood/Markham 1:2003).
Death and dying are inescapable aspects of the human experience, and at some point in everyone’s life it is inevitable that they will have to face the death of a loved one, but how each person deals with that situation is different. For some it may be a relief
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Pastoral carers have to learn to forget about themselves and their own feelings, and to create the space where God can work. Their faith and insight into life must form the core of their pastoral work’ (NCBI:1990).
There are many aspects to the ministry of pastoral care to the bereaved, which require qualities of character, alongside a particular set of knowledge skills to be of use to those involved.
Presence: After Lazarus’ death even if Jesus had not brought him back to life it would appear his mere presence there would have been of considerable comfort to Mary and Martha. Likewise our presence can console the grieving, words are not always necessary, as was the case for a couple, who lost their six-year-old son, in an accident. They recall, ‘We needed family and friends for support. They came in the middle of the night, straight to the hospital.’ What did these friends say? ‘At that moment, we did not need words. Their presence said everything, they cared’ (wol.jw.org). Often the bereaved feel isolated and alone in their grief, struggling with many of the intense emotions and feelings a death brings, but just having someone to lean on can help them through the grieving process. Norman Autton writes, ‘By our mere physical presence with a sorrowing family we shall offer strength and support’ (59:1967). Support can be offered by just being a caring presence, neither answers nor advice need to be provided at that moment in time.
Attending Interdisciplinary team meetings, family meetings, handover meetings, in-service trainings, reading agency policies and procedures, knowledge of bereavement support standards have allowed me to understand the significant role of every individual, families, state, health providers and many more in providing psychosocial care of patients.
Death is a universally experienced phenomenon. In the United States alone, over 2.6 million people die each year (Center for Disease Control and Prevention [CDC], 2015). For practitioners, it is of utmost importance to better understand the process of grief to develop better interventions for bereaved individuals.
It is significant that pastoral caregivers find that balance between caring for self and the caring for those they have dedicated their lives to giving care. This was a very enlightening week in reading the narratives of Robert C. Dykstra, “Images of Pastoral Care.” There was one in particular, “the intimate stranger”. He spoke about his own personal stresses and challenges and disillusionment which confronted him as a pastoral caregiver. It is not he did not love his vocation as a hospital chaplain, he sensed it was beginning to take a toll on him. Dykstra, was very open and honest in regards to what occurred in his life. Pastoral caregivers have dedicated their lives to being there in crisis situations for others. It is the assumption pastoral caregivers will always have the answers to everyone else’s hurts and hopes.
This paper will attempt to construct a Christian worldview from which counseling model will be developed. An assessment of basic skill will be conducted before bereavement is discussed. This paper seeks to offer some insight into Bereavement and Christian counseling.
This essay will cover the observation of my field work experience at Prince Avenue Baptist Church. I will discuss the importance of character education, motivation, and development (cognitive, social, and moral). I observed these concepts being utilized and portrayed and will discuss the details of each. I will conclude with how I plan to use these certain theories and concepts in my future classroom.
The death of a loved one is an event that all of us are likely to experience during our lifetimes,
Of course this seems like an obvious one. If someone dies sending condolences are expected. I never realized what impact condolences make on families hurting. In my mind always figured that they were so busy with trying to keep up with daily life that they wouldn’t really have time to read a letter. However, now I realize how much of an impression they can have on someone and their state of mind. If at some point they have a time to sit down and relax it may be nice to read some kind words from family and friends. This is definitely something I think I will forever keep in that back of my head as I get older and inevitably loose as my loved ones loose family and friends. In addition, Corrine had a section in the book where she was planned to have lunch with a pastor. She wasn’t feeling up to it but when she called to cancel he insisted he picked her up. She explained that this was important to her because she was at a point in her grieving process that she no longer no longer had it in her to talk freely. She expressed how significant and supportive to have someone to reach out to her even when she didn’t have the energy or mindset to accept it. I found this important because there are several times when I think to call someone or ask them out eat to check-in but then never end up doing so. This will help motivate me to turn my thoughts into actions when dealing with friends that I know are grieving and need me. I understand that I may not know what an individual needs but something small such as an invitation to lunch may be just what someone
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