What is Love? Tim OBrien's The Things They Carried Essay

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Have you ever felt the feeling of butterflies in your stomach or heard the phrase “my heart skipped a beat for you”? As children, we grew up learning from our elders and experiencing new beginnings in life. Much of our knowledge has been brought upon by what we see and hear, rather of what we know. Many important decisions we make in our life has to do with what our feelings show us. Love is an important matter in our life because it motivates us in different ways. Love can be shown through emotions or even through actions. What is a valuable definition of love? A brief definition of love can be said to be a variety of different feelings or attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. In other words, to me love is when …show more content…
Jimmy Cross shows his emotions towards Martha right at the beginning of the novel by sharing to us the following:
First Lieutenant Jimmy Cross carried letters from a girl named
Martha, a Junior at Mount Sebastian College in New Jersey. They were not love letters, but Lieutenant Cross was hoping, so he kept them folded in plastic at the bottom of his rucksack. In the late afternoon, after a day's march, he would dig his foxhole, wash his hands under a canteen, unwrap the letters, hold them with the tips of his fingers, and spend the last hour of light pretending. He would imagine romantic camping trips into the White Mountains in New Hampshire. He would sometimes taste the envelope flaps, knowing her tongue had been there. More than anything, he wanted Martha to love him as he loved her, but the letters were mostly chatty, elusive on the matter of love (O’Brein, 1)

Unfortunately, this is the way that Jimmy sees love. It can be also described as an addiction or psychological problem that Mr. Cross has. Love should never be confused with lust. In this case, Martha’s friendship was confused by Jimmy. There are people that can confuse friendship as love and fall in love with an object or idea rather than the emotions.

Sometimes people can confuse love of a person or an idea to something way different than what is being proclaimed, in such cases it can be only considered friendship. There are different methods of loving a person and object that at
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