When Smart Is Dumb Chapter 14

This paper will examine the author’s current strengths and weaknesses associated within the emotional intelligence skills which are: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management, and a number of associated competencies such as self-control, adaptability, and self-confidence by analyzing the author’s Emotional Intelligence Appraisal. The paper will provide the audience with an action plan for each emotional intelligence skill which needs improvement and will consist of a number of strategies that will improve the author’s overall emotional intelligence skills.

I know some highly intelligent people that truly enrich my life. They are passionate, and want to teach people what they know. However, I also know people with high IQs that are an absolute bore to interact with: they are unable to read social cues, and so will drone on and on about a topic that no one is interested in or listening to. In an interview, the latter would not

Throughout this chapter Goleman argues that a person’s IQ has little to do with their success in life. For example, someone with extremely high SAT scores who parties his way through college could take ten years to finally get a degree whereas a person with mediocre scores but studies diligently in college will earn his degree in four years. Emotional intelligence can be very beneficial throughout life. With the ability to understand others and the outcomes of situations puts one in a better standing when it comes to facing the “vicissitudes of life” regardless of your academic standing.

“Emotional Intelligence refers to the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for

These five different components of emotional intelligence are listed as self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. The self-awareness, self-regulation and social skills, concepts in Working with Emotional Intelligence overlap with the same major concepts of self-awareness, self-management, and relationship management in the book Emotional Intelligence 2.0. Motivation is explained as a passion to work for reasons that go beyond money or statistics; a propensity pursue goals with energy and commitment and empathy is explained as the ability to understand and accept the emotional makeup of other people (Marquis & Hutson, 2015). The author of Working with Emotional Intelligence, Goleman, D., believed that all individuals have a rational thinking mind and an emotional feeling mind and that both influence action (Marquis & Hutson, 2015). Goleman also believed the goal of emotional intelligence was emotional literacy – being self-aware about one’s emotions and recognizing how they influence subsequent action (Marquis & Hutson,

Aside from overall well-being, alexithymia has also been linked to eating disorders (Speranza, Loas, Wallier, & Corcos, 2007), depression (Honkalampi et al., 2000), anxiety (Marchesi, Brusamonti, & Maggini, 2000), and, unsurprisingly, emotional intelligence (Parker, Taylor, & Bagby, 2001). However, more research is needed to determine the mechanism by which alexithymia is related to these outcomes. Additionally, while some individuals may not warrant a diagnosis of alexithymia, they still may have difficulty describing an emotional experience (Kang & Shaver, 2004). To better understand this range of individual differences in emotional experience, emotion differentiation has received more attention.

Managing human emotions plays a critical role in everyday functioning. After years of lively debate on the significance and validity of its construct, emotional intelligence (EI) has generated a robust body of theories, research studies, and measures (Stough, Saklofske, & Parker). There has been work and many ideas by Jack Mayer, Peter Salovey, David Caruso, Daniel Goleman, and Steve Hein to name a few. All researchers have different interpretations of the term emotional intelligence and different visions of what emotional intelligence can mean for humanity (Hein, 2005). In 1985 Wayne Leon Payne, then a graduate student at an alternative liberal arts college in the USA, wrote a doctoral dissertation which included the term “emotional intelligence” in the title. This seems to be the first academic use of the term “emotional intelligence.” In the next five years no one else seems to have used the term “emotional intelligence” in any academic paper. Then in 1990 the work of two American university professors, John Mayer and Peter Salovey, was published in two academic journal articles. Mayer and Salovey were trying to develop a way of scientifically measuring the difference between people’s ability in the area of emotions. They found that some people were better than others at things like identifying their own feelings, identifying the feelings of others, and solving problems involving emotional issues. Since 1990 these professors

Emotional Intelligence is defined as a ‘type of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and other’s emotions, to discriminate among them and to use the information to guide one’s thinking and actions’ (Salovey and Mayer, 1990: 189). According to Goleman (2001), ‘emotional intelligence comprises of 4 key components which are, Self

The book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, provides an alternative approach to how a person achieves success. This book does not focus on the conventional determinant of success, such as formal education and training, experience, and intelligence level (IQ). Although all these components contribute greatly to ones achievement of success, these factors are not the only factors to be considered in whether a person will be successful or not. This book focuses on the concept that it refers to as emotional intelligence (EQ), which is one’s ability to recognize and effectively understand his/her emotions in a productive and rational manner.

Having self awareness is a significant attribute to utilize when leading/managing others, interacting in social events and making personal decisions. Having the insight to distinguish your emotions, then using that knowledge to manage your behavior and relationships is being emotionally intelligent (Bradberry & Greaves, 2009). After using the Emotional Appraisal Instrument, I learned that self-awareness is my strongest emotional intelligence (EI) skill and my weakest EI skill is social awareness (TalentSmart, Inc., 2016).

empathetic means to be able to understand how someone else is feeling based on a personal

Salovey and Mayer (1990) defined emotional intelligence as a very broad set of abilities. While Goleman (1995) has defined it as a set of skills distinct from cognitive intelligence that can be learned, Mayer et al (2008) developed a formal 4-branch model of emotional intelligence that combines cognition and emotion. Abilities are at different levels: from perceiving emotions (lowest level); using emotions; understanding emotions; to managing emotions (highest level). These abilities mean that people are aware of their own and others’ emotions and their consequences in different social circumstances. The link between cognition and emotion can be seen in cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), where negative cognitions are challenged and new behaviours introduced which will impact on emotional processing.

     In the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, the central thesis that he tries to point out is that emotional intelligence may be more important than I.Q. in determining a person’s well being and success in life. At first I didn’t know what Goleman was talking about when he said emotional intelligence, but after reading the book I have to say that I agree completely with Goleman. One reason for my acceptance of Goleman's theory is that academic intelligence has little to do with emotional life. To me, emotions can be just as intelligent as your I.Q. In this essay I hope to provide sufficient evidence to show why I agree with Goleman’s thesis on emotional intelligence.

He describes self-awareness or self-observation. He says that you should know yourself and your strengths instead of your IQ test and its results. He suggested that some people are more attuned to the emotional mind’s symbols instead of traditional knowledge tested by IQ tests. However, Goleman

Emotional intelligence was described formally by (Salovey & Mayer). They defined it as ‘the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions’. They also provided an initial empirical demonstration of how an aspect of emotional