When Your Smartphone Is Too Smart For Your Own Love Summary

At one point not that long ago it was only possible to update a Facebook status from a phone if you subscribed to the text messaging service offered by the site that would allow you to text in an update. There was no such thing as scrolling through your newsfeed as you rode the subway to work or waited for class to start. In his essay “The IRL Fetish”, Nathan Jurgenson talks about the spread of technology saying: “Each moment is oversaturated with digital potential: Texts, status updates, photos, check-ins, tweets, and e-mails are just a few taps away or pushed directly to your buzzing and chirping pocket computer- anachronistically still called a ‘phone’” (Jurgenson). Here he brings up an interesting point about the role advancing technology

Before this generation we would immerse ourselves in relationships. Now, could you say that all your Facebook friends are your actual friends? Sometimes all we need is a hug from someone that we have a genuine relationship with. People wouldn’t be able to get that if they constantly use their phones to become “social” they will never amount to their true potential in relationships. Bryce Skylar a writer for People’s World says, “The problem, it appears, is that social media has infiltrated every aspect of daily life”. When you put down your phone, you will create an endless opportunity to gain organic relationships.

Within Jenna Wortham's article, "Turn Off the Phone (and the Tension)," Wortham discusses the impact that social media possesses, in which Wortham believes that technology is responsible for shaping people's lives negatively. From Wortham's previous experiences, she shares a moment in her life that made her realize that people often compare their lives to others excessively- one of the reasons why people have social media attachment issues. Wortham also expresses how social media users brag about their lives being better than others through exaggerated posts- something that shouldn't be encouraged. With effort to resolve this issue, Wortham considers and suggests Mr. Hofmann's advice to readers: go screenless for a certain

“Can you remember the last time you were in a public space in America and didn’t notice that half the people around you were bent over a digital screen, thumbing a connection to somewhere else?” (Fredrickson, 2013, pg. 1). In a world today where sending a text message containing the message “I luv you,” is equally powerful to that statement said in person to your significant other. Today’s generation is surrounded by the constant need to have technology and mainly cell phones at your fingertips. Gone are the days when people would talk to one another whilst standing in line, now it is all about having and using your cell phone to pass the time. All of this takes bondage on having an interpersonal relationship with each other and conversing

Today, he says the two spend more evenings staring at their phones than they do at each other.” (Morris). The article provides information that families are affected by technology and can not keep conversations or continue relationships. Similar to Montag and his wife being so intrigued in their technology they forget about each other and the bond they could have if they had conversations after work or at the end of the night rather than making their devices seem more important to them. “If one partner in the relationship disengages from a face-to-face interaction while engaging in technology...the other person may experience a sense of threat to their need to feel attached and in control in that relationship.” (Morris). The lack of communication in a relationship due to technology seems to push away others in the friendship or relationship, the article proves that when others are more interested in their phone or other devices other party/parties feel distant and pushed away and do not want to continue the relationship.People can start building stronger relationships by putting down their pieces of technology and making time to have a real conversations with the people they

Being published in a newspaper column, Wortham writes in a less formal language to explain her thoughts on communication through smartphone applications. By including personal stories behind her usage of technology, she is able to reflect on those and validate her opinion of messaging apps. She is able to connect with their reader on a more personal level because the reader can relate to her experiences. Due an excessive amount of technology use from people of all ages, Wortham’s article can reach anyone that uses messaging applications including couples of all ages. She does not single out long distance couples because she also includes the benefits of having these applications with family, friends, and coworkers. In her essay, Wortham straightforwardly states her thoughts on apps such as Facebook messenger, Snapchat, and even Tinder, leaving no room for the reader to become confused. In addition to her own opinions and statistics from Pew Research Center, she uses Sherry Turkle, who disagrees with messaging applications, to acknowledge that both sides understand that there is not an application on our smartphone that can replace a face-to-face

Sherry Turkle, the Harvard educated MIT professor, founder and current director of the MIT Initiative on Technology and Self, asserts that “people have never been more connected—or more alienated” from each other; that they may not aspire to their vision of best self as their devices become increasingly important. People unintentionally place more importance on “virtual relationships over real, instant messages over deep complex feelings, robots over live

Although many argue that social media is an easier way to interact with others and that it has the ability to improve relationships by keeping those that are far apart together through technology, social media can also cause people to further distance themselves and it can also have a negative impact on relationships. There has been many studies that proves that technology harms our relationships and how one interacts with other in social situations. Many people use technology as a way to escape the real world. Even though social media can be used in a positive way, it can also be used negatively. Before technology was as developed as it is in today’s society, people had different realities; separation between work life and personal life.

“...between 2005 and 2012, 35% of the couples marrying in the US had met online” (González). The internet is used in many ways such as, communicating, posting status updates, and discovering new information. People most commonly argue the internet to be the source of loneliness and depression, whereas others say that it generates more relationships and friends. Electronic devices, such as mobile phones and laptops are utilized in everyday life, whether it be for work, school, personal matters, and in many other ways. It helps promote interactivity and involvement in a community, where you are not alone. It also permits transparent discussions, between friends, family, and others, that are beneficial in everyday life worldwide. Technology does not make us more alone as it gives people the opportunity to meet new people, supplements communications, and aids those who are already lonely.

In addition, big corporations have power to control our digital experience and foster conformity. The ideas that circulate the internet can foster a negative notion of self-esteem and image. At the end of the day, we have to realize that technology has some of its benefits but it also adheres ramifications. We have to be wary of the benefits and the harmful effects that play in our life. We also have to be aware of the effect that technology has on others, such as having a phone out during a conversation aiding ill-mannerism. Technology connects us in many ways but it also distances us. It creates dissonance when we are having a face-to-face interactions and the other person is distracted because of their phone. Superficially, we know a lot about one another through social media but we actually don't know the in depth story. There are many bad information out there and that sometimes messes with our sense of judgement. Through the many facets of social media, we express ourselves differently in variety of platforms. This can affect the sense of self and the real identity of yourself. The web can be a chaotic place with masses of information but with that comes the responsibility of finding the right information and reaping the

With technology, we are granted an infinite amount of ways to connect with people around the world and that ultimately affect our romantic relationships for better and for worse. Even after Aziz Ansari’s years of incorporating personal romantic complications into his stand-up comedy, he decided that complaining about the challenges and pitfalls of looking for love in the Digital Age through Match.com, OkCupid, Tinder, Twitter, Facebook, or any other social media site, wasn’t enough; he wanted answers. Ansari teamed up with New York University sociologist Eric Klinenberg to better understand how people seek romantic partners, how technology has changed the search for a mate, and how instant communication has opened up an infinite amount of options. Their research included: interviews and focus groups, analyses of past and current behavioral data, plus discussions with leading sociologists. Ansari’s work payed off, allowing him the insight needed to craft his memoir: Modern Romance. Effectively combining sociology with humor, this memoir is highly recommended for fans of Ansari, readers interested in the social media’s impact on relationships, or even singles looking to up their game.

These relationships depend on technology to bring to them together.The digital platforms are reshaping everyday and everyone's lives also. We've been looking at the kinds of platforms that enabled us to take possessions of those things that used to be very restricted to everyone we know and to make them available to people we never met. And we concluded a very important insight, which was that as people's relationships to the things in their lives change, so do their relations with other

The audio story Want to Perk up Your Love Life? Put Away That Smartphone National Public Radio (2014), informs people of an issue that has developed in relationships called technoference. Stating that the use of technology is interfering in relationships such as, going out on a date with your significant other. The issue is resulting in one another to feel not included or unimportant while in the company of each other. Technology has provided us with the ability to stay socially connected at work, with friends, or to find any information at any time for example, checking the score of a football game. Chayko (2017) stated that, “with mobility, this kind of connectivity can take place almost constantly” (p. 131). People develop many different

The Mass Media and Technology as an agent of socialization has grown in the last 100 years such as radio, television, movies, music, and the Internet. According to a 2015 Pew research study, seventy-three percent of teens have or have access to a smartphone while only thirty percent have a basic phone (Lenhart, 2015). Mass media and technology can introduce us to new cultures, beliefs, and viewpoints. Alternatively, many social scientists argue that technology and mass media is making our relationships suffer as we are not attentive to the other person or any ideas (Witt,

Walsh, White, and Young (2009) have predicted that the need to connect to peers and the need to belong contribute to the use of mobile phones. The feeling of connectedness is seen as a benefit to cell phone users because it allows them to interact with family and friends and share experiences from anywhere in the world. Przybylski and Weinstein (2013) state that phones are a gateway to interpersonal closeness because they connect people to the social world. People are able to escape reality and dive into a temporary place where they are not preoccupied with their own thoughts. Cell phones are a tool which can pull people together through social media, texting, calling, and games. They fulfill people’s needs and strengthen relationships. When people use their phones to connect to others, they feel a sense of belonging, which can enhance self-esteem (Walsh et al., 2009).