My parents have had several friends that I can recall during my childhood. Each of them had some who were called acquaintances, and others close friends. The close friendships were people who were there when my parents needed support or just a moment to vent. They would be at your door step during any time of day. I learned to appreciate the people who had good hearts and cared about my family the most. They have always been a part of my years growing up and are still keeping in touch while I am starting my own life. Friendships don’t seem to be something that would cost me anything. I feel like I can rely on them and know that they are there when I need them the
Friends can help people in multiple ways, but the main way is it gives people life skills.
We have a open line of communication where you can call and talk about anything and the other person will listen and give advice or help where they can. My friends that I have for playdates; we get together at the park and talk about our lives as parents so we do get to have some emotional support but mainly when a babysitter falls through or I want a night out these are the ones I know I can call and vice versa so It benefits everyone. My family I know love me and will help me reach any goal I set but are probably the last people I would go to to for emotional support only because while they mean well they can be more critical of the choices I
In most cases, the counselor will best serve their client by taking on a “not-knowing” role in the relationship, allowing the client to become the expert in their own lives (Corey, 2013).
I have been stuck in many situations that I am not convinced as to what I should do. But asking multiple people can convince you that you are doing the right thing. Whenever I am not confident in what I should do, I first go to my mom, and then go to people in my social circle. Asking many people helps me be more confident in my answer to my difficult situation. Being confident in your answer can make you happier with the outcome. Everything seems better when you're happy. Asking multiple people for advice can help you be more confident in your
Each and every day, people state their opinions whether they are working, attending school, or collaborating at home. Many individuals ask for advice from others to help them make difficult decisions that they could not make on their own. People listen and ask to others for their opinions in order to help themselves grow as a person whether it is about a life situation, politics, or a struggle in their life. Most opinions are worthwhile, but could be different depending on the situation.
While I was growing up I had pretty great friends that were there for me, and same goes with my family. I used to believe that you needed a great group of friends to be happy, but my thoughts have completely reversed on that. If you know me, you know that I have faced several difficulties throughout my life, and I'm thankful that my family was there for me.. but there have been times when they need me more than I needed them. My parents divorce was probably one of the things that had a really big impact on my life, I always hated switching houses every other weekend, and honestly, I wasn't the biggest fan of their partners. Thankfully, they worked things out between them, and remarried to always be there for their children and loved
One reason why I believe you should take advise from others is because you can learn from others mistakes.
“Nobody can give wiser advice than yourself,” Roman Philosopher Cicer wrote. You may think that you are always right but people could know more than you sometimes. Everyone has been through some tough times and that person would not want them to experience what they had to go through while you are young and so I think you should listen to other people.
All in all advice from someone when you’re going through tough times is very much needed. Even if you don’t know the person or don’t appreciate them they might have some advice that could be helpful. My experience helped me get through things and helped me grow as a person. to be stronger and more confident in
the advice they need to hear, rather than, what they want to hear. Finding the fine line between
There are several personal attributes that contribute to my resistance to seek advice from knowledgeable persons. I am of the ISFJ type and one of our qualities is that we are quiet. My shyness often gets in the way of me seeking advisement. I am also worried that if I ask someone for help or advice that I will be bothering them. Asking for advice makes me feel weak. I feel that I should be able to do everything on my own and that if I have to ask for advice then it will seen as a sign of weakness or as a failure. My qualities of being realistic, practical, cooperative, thoughtful, and kind cause leaders to seek me out for advisement. After reading the assigned textbooks and completing the workshop, in order to be a better advisor I need to
In Goldsmith and Fitch’s 1997 article “The Normative Context of Advice as Social Support” the dilemmas associated with giving, seeking, and taking advice are examined. The overarching goal of this study is to analyze what the normative actions of support, specifically advice, are. The research questions that were taken into consideration are as follows: “what goals are pursued as people ask for, and give, advice;” “what identity and relational implications of advice shape givers’ and receivers’ reactions to advice;” and “what situational, conversational, and cultural constraints are relevant to participants’ evaluation of advice?” (Goldsmith & Fitch, 1997) Multiple dilemmas were found pertaining to advice including honesty versus support, caring vesrsus intrusive, and respect versus autonomy. Each of these qualities are present in every interaction in which advice is given, asked for, or received.
For example, your 13 year old best friend. This person will not have that much experience to base their advice on. They don’t know that much about life yet so they may not be able to give you the best advice. On the other hand, if you talk to your grandmother. Your grandmother is probably old enough to know a few things about the problem you are dealing with. She will most likely give you advice based on her lifetime and since she is old, she has experienced many more things that your 13 year old best friend has. As you can see, the life experience is a big factor for when you are asking for
These are some of the cautions that were revealed through this assessment for me: The advice characteristics shows a desire to seek considerable amounts of advice. This was a known for me and it was born out of a need to do things right without error, and trying to make sure that I do not fail. I have learned that when trying to succeed and accomplish goals, there will be times of failure. This is the way that people learn and improve. If you are in a position, where you can get feedback to help you realize your mistakes. Feedback is also important in that regard to incorporate counsel, so that proper corrections can be made. The concern with a person that operate with the need of a high level of advice is the individual will delay making decisions. This is ok for some situations, but sometimes a decision with have to be made right away. I realize with this being one of my methods of operation, I will have to practice making decisions on the fly, in order to become more comfortable making decisions without being advised. I will learn to use this as a strength, by staying up on what current in my field, therefore I will be confident in my own decisions. The second caution that was revealed from the assessment is the process creativity, which said that I prefer to stick to standard rules and practices, when implementing solutions to problems rather than shifting processes to achieve solutions. This is accurate, but the other side is I do like to follow a plan that is already