Have you ever wondered what attracted women to a certain type of men, especially when the men are much older than the women themselves? There are many reasons as to why woman fall for older men, but the three most common reasons are biological, psychological and materialistic reasons.
Psychologically, a girl’s relationship with her father can play a major role in who she is attracted to. For instance, if a girl was treated right by her father and was also loved by him, she will most likely be attracted to guys her age. If she was abused, neglected or not treated as a daughter she will be attracted to older men, whom she can use to replace her father figure. Also, how a mother deals with her daughter's father being gone can also impact the
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The study shows that women mature faster than men and that men are 11 years behind in maturing. When a woman is 32 she is already mature, while a man reaches maturity at the age 43. This plays a major role in who a woman may be attracted to because a woman will want a man who is at her level of maturity meaning men older than her, supposedly in their 40’s. (Citation) Since men in their 40’s are more mature they are more focused on things that actually matter such as starting a family. Women want commitment when they are in a relationship which younger men can’t give to them since they are still playing the field. Older men have already gone through that phase and ready for a committed relationship and starting a family. This will also attract young women who are serious about relationships to older men.
Women will also be attracted to a man who is older because he has more experience than the men her age. An older man has more experience because he simply has lived longer and has gone through more things in his life then guys who are the same age as the woman such as relationships. An older man has had many relationships in the past from which he learned from his mistakes. An older man has more experience in
Often, we think of older people as being smarter, wiser, and generally more mature, but this is not always the case. Ordinary Grace by William Kent Krueger gives a number of examples that shatter this generalization, offering an alternative to age as the primary factor in one’s level of maturity. Ordinary Grace shows how maturity is a result of circumstance and does not necessarily correlate with age.
A daughter’s relationship to her father is crucial for their overall development as a human being. Having a present father in one’s life provides structure, and gives a woman insight on how she allows to be treated in romantic relationships. If a woman is loved by her father and sees him treat her mother right, then she will be more inclined to seek a man with similar qualities. However, when the father-daughter relationship is unpleasant, it can take an equally negative affect on future relationships. Sometimes we also see that a woman can likely develop impulsive/childlike thoughts without that guidance from a father figure.
Mature Women: They say that a mature woman is ten times better than a younger one as they have far more experience. Dean's had a crush on a mature woman now for over two years, and he's about to discover the absolute truth to that statement.
In society age is a key aspect in the way people view others and how they communicate, a person’s age sets a tone for the language they use in communication with different groups be it their peers, elders, or the young. Three aspects of age in society are communication, ability, and socially constructed stigmas. Many of such aspects are portrayed in the movie “Something’s Gotta Give”, where a swinger on the cusp of being a senior citizen with a taste for young women falls in love with an accomplished woman closer to his age. Harry, the soon to be senior citizen is played by Jack Nicholas and Erica, played by Diane Keaton is an accomplished writer and the mother of Harry’s young companion. The movie makes you stop and think; what does age mean in the dating world today.
There is a difference between male and female preferences in a potential mate. As stated in the book Berger (1990) “men best serve the needs of the species by reproducing as frequently as possible.” With that being said men have the tendency to be attracted to women on high fertility, which coincides with being youthful and attractiveness. That’s why most men chose younger women. Women have a different outlook when looking for a potential mate. Women are more interested in men
In middle adulthood there are many changes that occur physically, psychologically, and socially as explained in the above passages. Yet, some say that this is the best time of their life, they experience enhanced self-confidence, great sex lives, career success, and enhanced brain functions. Middle age adults are better equipped to make better life choices and decisions and not worry so much about the negative parts of life. Their problem solving skills are greater which allows them to reason more creatively. They are able to enjoy sex freely without the worries of getting pregnant and they feel more confident with their partners. In general they are happier about life and look forward to enjoying the rest of their lives.
In a recent study there was more couples where the man was older than the women in current relationships. The older spouse has to be concerned whether or not the younger spouse has the maturity to understand the needs of their other, and how to take care of them in a time of need. Also their mind set, and where they're at mentally. It can be very difficult to get on the same level with someone who does not have the same mentality.
they do in real life. For example, a majority of the female characters on television are in their 20s
“Prejudice and discrimination based on age is termed ageism. Like other forms of prejudice, ageism characterizes individuals on the basis of their membership in a group and can affect beliefs, attitudes, and behavior toward group members” (Crawford, 2011, p.336). Ageism was experienced by Virginia because she had recently started to date an older man. Virginia’s background with man was not positive because her previous husband left her which is mainly the reason she wouldn’t marry again. Her daughter Debby was not very supportive of this relationship at the beginning of the movie she was somewhat selfish and didn’t believe her mother could actually find someone being so old, she kept saying negative things such as “I am not going to be here when he leaves you”. “Most people, especially younger people, barely notice that age is being made into a form of stigma” (Crawford, 2011, p.337). The reason this is happening to Virginia is because this out of the normal norm that older people find “love” everyone in our society
Being age 40 or above and single with no children provides one with an opportunity to travel the world freely, pursue a life passion, be financial stable, nurture friendship and family ties and have many dating opportunities.
The book I chose is titled The Evolution Of Desire by David M. Buss In this book the author explores the concepts of human mating in general, and breaks down what separates the men from women in terms of mating desires. He strives to understand what each gender uses to find, acquire and ultimately keep a mate. The author theorizes that the origin of today 's human mating behavior is directly linked to our evolutionary past. Some of thee main points were that while women prefer a older, healthy and intelligent man who is ambitious, with high social status and strongly built. Most men on average simply prefer young, physically attractive woman.
Even though it was Mortimer who made the first move, “Suddenly he found himself trying to help her and in a clumsy way trying to kiss her...” (pg8), Elsie was blamed for the incident and made out to be the villain. Mortimer said “I didn’t know what I was doing (despite the fact that he is more than double her age). She kept asking me. It was her who kept asking me” (pg 9). Elsie’s youth was only mentioned because of the beauty it gave her, “During the summer the face of the girl had reddened with sun and air and as autumn came on it seemed to broaden and flatten, the thick skin ripe and healthy in texture”, (pg8) and not because it may impair her ability to think rationally as opposed to a man over 18 years her senior. These narrow-minded views could very possibly come from the average man in the 1950’s.
The author highlights “six common myths of aging” and provides evidence to discredit these assumptions. These assumptions are that the elderly are associated with disease, they cannot learn new things, self-care is a waste of time, longevity is heavily influenced by genetics, to grow old is to lose a sex drive, and that the older population contributes nothing to society (Ory, 2003, p.165). According to Ory, most of these myths are completely false, and the only one with any hint of reality is the notion that indeed, older individuals do lose some sex drive, however it does not disappear completely and is affected by other factors such as major health problems and the presence of a romantic partner. These myths have profound impacts, not just on the elderly and how they view themselves, but also on the rest of society at large.
When people first consider this reason, it makes sense at first. Older youngers are more fragile and can’t do as much physically and technologically like young people can. Andrew Mayfair says, “Your business may lose the potential to mold and keep a valuable employee for years to come” (Mayfair). Andrew Mayfair points out in his article, “The Consequences of Age Discrimination at Work”, how businesses believe that getting rid of older employees who can’t do as much as younger employees is helping the company. Mayfair then explains how older employees, with their extensive knowledge, are the “molds” for the younger employees. Instead of letting a younger employee slowly gain a vast amount of knowledge, the older employees already possess this and can pass it down to the new and inexperienced employees. Businesses who will discriminate against people of older age have the misconception that they are helping their business by getting rid of older employees. Little do they realize, these discriminatory practices are causing the adolescent employees to be substantially held back due to their little knowledge of the
What are the social factors that influence interpersonal attraction? Discuss in relation to relevant psychological theories and studies