Why Did I Get Married

Hope Springs is a funny, entertaining, and heartwarming movie about an older couple named Kay and Arnold. Kay and Arnold have been married for thirty-one years; they raised children, bought a house, and shared their adult lives with each other. Although the beginning of their marriage was filled with passion and intimacy, all that remains is their commitment to each other. Kay is no longer satisfied with her relationship with Arnold and convinces him to go on a couple’s intensive therapy retreat in order to save their marriage. Stereotypes Positive and negative stereotypes surround the older community despite their accuracy.

In this chapter the principle I am going to focus on is that all relationship have issues, but if we have softer hearts the couple can overcome their struggles. When problems arise in a marriage it is important to work through them, with your spouse, and do not give up. A person can choose to divorce and move on to another relationship, but this relationship will have its own set of different problems. No relationship will ever be perfect. When

FORMING: The first stage, forming, begins when most of the members of the group try to get to know each other. In the movie,the men were polite with one another; for example, the baseball fan offered chewing gum to some of the members and also helped them open a window. Also,the forming stage is characterized by uncertainty about the group’s structure and purpose.

In all their efforts, they lost who they were and who they were together. Daniel and his wife began to fight over the littlest of things. Daniel’s wife, being the extravert, asked some of her friends what she could do in order to repair her marriage. Some suggested they see a couple’s therapist, others suggested seeing individual therapists. Daniel’s wife decided to explore their options.

“Well, marriage was really just a process of sharing your love towards one another, and growing together. You will make mistakes, and your relationship will not always be perfect, but like I said, that’s where you need to be able to compromise for one another. However, someone looking into marriage needs to realize that it is not a joke. Marriage is a serious deal, and many kids of this generation don’t always treat it that way.”

Why would a person decide to get married again after one marriage failed? Could it be to have companionship? Could it be for economics? I decided to get married again, because I didn’t want to stay alone forever. I haven’t been married for a long time, but ever since I have felt very happy. If I could make that decision again if I had another chance, I would definitely make the same decision because I want to spend the rest of my life with my spouse and start our own family.

The authors purpose for writing about marriage is to teach women and men in the world today how important it really is to stay loyal and not to do anything bad, or there will be consequences. Chapters 12 and 13 Chapter Analysis

First, in order to have a good start in a relationship there must first be a bond built. A bond unites a couple before the relationship to get a better understanding of one another. This stage in dating is commonly known as the “talking stage”. The talking stage can be very confusing to some because it mimics dating but it’s not “official”. The talking stage is the building block for dating. For example, a 19-year-old girl and her 20-year-old boyfriend have been dating for four years. One of reasons they’ve been together

The dead flowers represent the happy and cheerful memories the family once shared. As divorce percentages raise, this causes more petals to fall from the flower as each marriage is ruined that could have been saved by visiting marriage counselors. Marriage is a sense of meaning and purpose while sharing feelings with another. Change is hard and involves a lot of work, but change can have a positive impact on the direction our society is heading. Marriage rates have changed because the United States had changed too. Divorce costs money, valuables, and heartbreak, but, marriage counseling costs time, money and could potentially save couples marriages if the right steps are taken. Mark Cummings, a psychologist of the Kroc Institute for Peace Studies, in a University of Notre Dame tries to teach and help couples to solve those differences in a positive way. “Couples have turned to the internet or couples groups to discuss their differences” (Dealing with Differences). Couples who talk and communicate with each other have reached the first step to a positive outcome of a couple’s future relationship. Bill Bussich participated in the film Dealing with Differences and states, “There is no way to learn how to be a good spouse, individuals are not born with this innate ability, you have to learn for yourself and from others” (Dealing with Differences). Couples should learn to “Agree to Disagree,” not only would that save arguments between

Her job wasn’t fabulous, or one that would earn any notoriety, but she was happy. Not having any children of her own, Amy decided to have a career in the school system. Those were her children in a sense, all of them. She would do everything within her power to take care of them. It was a career she always knew she wanted. Excelling in school, she plotted her course in college to put her life on the proper path. Never did she let anything keep from her goals. She had the few indiscretions from time to time, but Amy discarded them, knowing they could never keep her from the finish line. Only once did someone truly get to her so much so that she could not shake him, and in the end, she did the only thing she could do. She married him. It was days like today she recalled how they met, their first date, and how their relationship progressed. Had it been on his birthday when their relationship took a serious leap to the next level? No. It was her birthday, and she decided to treat herself that night. She had no idea just how much of a treat that night would

The recurring theme that is raised in Tyler Perry’s film Why Did I Get Married? Is “Can These Marriages Survive?” The infidelity of two husbands leads to the discussion of the “80/20 Rule.” The rule simply implies that within a marriage, most people only receive eighty-percent of what they want and need from their partners, leading them to go outside of their relationship in an effort to find what they think they are missing. Usually, it’s not until the spouse has stepped out the relationship that they realize that now only twenty-percent of their needs are being met. At this point, they have left their eighty for their twenty, which is a significant downgrade.

And while the decades advanced, the underlying message stayed the same; “a successful marriage requires hard work and personal sacrifice, particularly on the part of women” (Kuby 279). Consequently, creating longer-lasting matrimonies, even in those cases where injustice existed (Kuby 279). On the other hand, reflecting the mentality of ‘if something was broken, it would be fixed, not thrown away’, since divorce was not an option (Kuby 279). All of these facts show how marriage did not always have a bright side to it.

"Your level of happiness in life as a single person is predictive of happiness in your marriage five years later." - Dr. Antonio Borrello

First is discovery. The person discovers the thing or person and you end up liking them enough to do the second step.

So you know what a gentleman looks like, but how do you find this seemly non-existent person?