Why Do Marriages Fail?

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Why Do Marriages Fail? In the world today, there are a lot of people wanting to marry the first person they fall in love with. However, many married couples realized that this kind of marriage is not what they want, so they turn to divorce as an answer. Even though there are many ways to fix the problems that occur in a marriage, sometimes, nobody wants to use them. It is certain that the causes of divorce vary from couple to couple. The most common reasons marriages fail are communication, the altering role of women, infidelity and unconsciously of choosing a mate based on your parents. Firstly, one of the most common reasons why marriages fail is that people will not listen to one another . In today 's society there are very few …show more content…
This can often lead to disaster. As children, you are unaware of the hardships and problems that your parents go through. “ We all select with unconscious accuracy a mate who will recreate with us the emotional patterns of our first homes” ( 551) Women tend to seek men just like their fathers and men seek women who are just like their mothers.
As a child, I always wanted my mate/husband to be like my father. I thought I had the handsomest dad in the world. My dad is tall, smooth brown skin tone, nice white teeth and always kept himself well- groomed. My dad seemed perfect to me when I was a little girl. I didn’t realize what type of man he really was until I got older. He was irresponsible, had an alcoholic problem and I only saw him on occasions. But to the unconscious, I still choose a guy who resembled my father. In conclusion, I believe we need to learn effective communication skills and to look inward at our own feelings and our expectations in life. Couples need to learn to communicate effectively. Men need to accept the changing roles with women n society. If infidelity, occurs couples should get counseling on how to save their marriages. Also men and women should be more aware of the unciousous of choosing a mate just like their parents.

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