Why Do Men Cheat On Us?

My first tough term is cheating? How can someone clearly define cheating when the definition varies by the person? Simply, nobody can. However in my point of view, cheating can vary by each relationship. One may agree to an open relationship and almost anything goes whereas another would hate it if I even looked at another lady. Ultimately, cheating to me is if the intentions of my significant other are to form a new relationship with somebody, purposely trying to shake things up. What I mean is I have no problem with my lady and me going to a bar and letting her get free drinks all night by flirting with other guys; emotional manipulation influencing them to buy her a drink or two. Why would I be okay with this? Because I not only have

What I learned from this is that men will cheat as long as they can justify that they are not doing something wrong because it is not their fault.

How do the perpetrators attempt to justify their actions? How can this be seen as part of male socialization?

Unfaithfulness can cause a heart to break. It’s sad to think even those you trust the most can also hurt you the most.

Leaving us with the question as to why people cheat? One of the first things that comes to peoples mind when thinking of affairs are all set towards Hollywood rumors about celebrities, when in reality it can happen to anyone; “Affairs can occur in happy marriages as well as in troubled ones. Although the involved spouse may not be getting enough from the marriage, sometimes the involved spouse is not giving enough. Reasons for EMI include low self-esteem, relationship deficits (e.g., lack of affection), or a social context in which infidelity is condoned.” (glass) Even with a non-problematic relationship people can still fall under the pressure of cheating. One factor can include either spouse losing interest. In some certain cases if either a man or women were to be in fight, and they saw an attractive person of the opposite sex there would be a higher chance of either person committing an infidelity. About 30- 60% of married American citizens will cheat on their spouse. A marriage’s outcome only reflects the amount of effort that was put into it; “Some marriages end in a month and others last fifty years because of the partners beliefs about one another’s veracity.” ( “ Lying”) There are 3 main factors that causes people to cheat: lying, lack of communication, and neglection. All three go hand in hand when

Central Idea: Abusive relationships start out as the most intensely wonderful relationships, the abuser is perfect in every way. Abuse doesn 't start over night it is a long slow process. First they tear apart your self esteem and isolate you so you have no one to turn to. They pick you apart and make you feel like the lowest slime on the planet. Then they abuse you and when its done they bring you flowers and tell you that it will never happen again and for a while there is that perfect relationship again. Abusive relationships are insanity because they are the worst

Public confessions were considered “personally welcomed” as it served a “means of atonement for past actions” (Genter, 2012, p. 130). Witnesses who chose to not respond were “those with something to hide” (Genter, 2012, p. 130) these confessions instigated a massive debate over “the legality of such confessions, coerced or not.” (Genter, 2012, p. 130),as employees were forced to confess due to the threat of losing their job. The defenders of the investigations argued that the confessions “helped to cleanse

Infidelity is another form of secrecy; it is “violation of a couple’s stated contract” (Webster Dictionary). It happens when an individual becomes connected with someone outside of the relationships, either in person or online. In the article The Secrets Couples keep, Marisa Cohen says, “In a perfect relationship, you wouldn’t keep anything from your sweetie?” (Cohen). Emotional affairs are appealing because it is easy to be close with someone who the individual doesn’t share any responsibility commitment with. It is possible to get good feelings when the person thinks they’re wonderful and doesn’t see their issues. Their relationship fails because one or both partners tries to have control. The love is torn and each person is left feeling

However, according to the study, they are both more concerned about physical infidelity. Eventhough, infidelity can have different meaning to people, the feeling that someone gets when it’s physcial is the same in everyone if they are in a monogamous

I think that a good a good example is Bobby did that same as me, “had rather callously started up a relationship with a new partner, without properly ending things with his current girlfriend” (277). Because I did not want to hurt her feelings by saying that I did not love her anymore. Maybe it was not the time to be together. She wanted me a lot. However I cheated on her with other girls. She did not support the fact that I was talking to other girls. We break up our relationship that we had. I wasn’t expecting that away one thing that last it because I was not able to carry the relation. Lack of communication was a real problem in my relationship but also navigational relationship talking to other girls without finishing in a formal way.

Men have more control over women's lives than women have themselves. In addition to Ruthie from chapter 26 who ended up a little mental because of a man there is also Minerva from chapter 33 "Minerva Writes Poems." Minerva has kids who eat pancakes for dinner because her husband left her, therefore she can't affored much more. She says she is unlucky and cries a lot about it all because her husband, a man, had more control over her life than she did, and when he left he took that control with him leaving her with almost nothing. Sally also has very little control over her life, her husband has more control than her.

In the article “Why People Cheat, “author Lisa Taddeo writes about the search to find the reason to why people cheat. In the article Taddeo infers that everyone cheats, by saying “If you have not cheated yet, it's because you are still too grateful to be secure, or you have not yet had the opportunity, or the right color of red hair has not come along and sat down at the bar on a Tuesday when the jukebox was playing Leonard Cohen and your Manhattan tasted like the future” (50). In the article Taddeo fails to show the reason to why people cheat, because of this it can be concluded that cheating is not a natural thing that all humans do, it is not inevitable, and that there is no one true explanation of why people cheat.

Despite the fact that wives’ adultery undermines the entire family structure by calling a man’s heir’s legitimacy into doubt,

Some people cheat with the hope of never being caught. Another reason why relationships fail are because of children, some people having children will help in reality it only makes worse. On the other hand, if a person may bring their child or children into the relationship, and the child and the other partner does not get along that usually cause a big problem.

“From July 8 to 18, thousands of Americans were greeted with this very conundrum thanks to Honest Tea, a company that conducts an experiment annually for its National Honesty Index with staffs hidden nearby recording the gender, hair type, and appearance of the honest and dishonest. It was noted that people in groups (96 percent) tend to be more honest than people on their own (91 percent), resulting average of 92 percent honest among Americans.” (Newman, 2013) Surprisingly, women were found to outperform men at a rate of 95 to 91 percent for both the year of 2012 and 2013. (Newman, 2013) One of the weaknesses found in Soo’s writing is an inappropriate title. Since he declared honesty is a rare commodity, he ought to provide example of dishonesty, instead of honesty to support his argument; it could be done by presenting more examples of recent incidents of dishonesty that happened in real life. For instance, last Winter, about 190 students from Ryerson University received a surprise gift-answers for the first twenty questions, which was attached at the back of their multiple choice paper. Among them, only one soul reported to the professor which causes all the 1000 students having the exam at the Metro Toronto Convention Centre to leave while the exam unit collect up the answer sheets. (Brown, 2013) Furthermore, the