Why Don T We Listen Better Summary

Interpersonal Communication is a very important ingredient in making strong, healthy relationships. Communicating is how we get a better understanding of one another’s perception of things, as well as how we help someone to better understand ours. We need to express our feelings in relationships and know that they are reciprocated. Not communicating leads to problems and misunderstandings. People need to learn to understand what the other person is trying to communicate. Interpersonal communication is the process by which people exchange information, feelings, and meaning through verbal and non-verbal messages: it is face-to-face communication. It is about what is said, how it is said, and the use of non-verbal communication through

In a country as racially diverse as the United States of America, it is certain that there is tension amongst those of different races. While most minorities have fought long and hard to earn acceptance and equality from others, Native Americans have not reached that level of unity yet. In fact, in “We Talk, You Listen ,” Vine Deloria Jr. argues that there is a movement toward minority inclusion, but it has come at an expense of dehumanizing racial groups like Native Americans. For instance, Deloria states that in war movies, Indians have only appeared under white men to send secret messages using a language that the enemy would not be able to understand, meaning that “it was the strangeness of Indians that made the visible, not their humanity”

James C. Petersen sets out on a mission to aim, teach, improve listening, and talking skills. This improves relationships with others, both professionally and personally. Similar to other communication books he begins with a brief overview of communication and what to expect. The book is based on five section explores communication options. His book is based off of the Flat-Brain Theory of Emotions. Petersen (2007) he suggests that individuals become confused between the difference of a feeling and a thought and their relation. Different body parts and areas suggest various thoughts and feelings that affect each other. The Flat-Brain Theory, which purports a triadic formula of self that includes the stomach, heart, and head (Petersen 2007, p. 11). This leads to the Flat-Brain Syndrome which is detrimental to our communication with self and others.

Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, and support one other; organize our lives and make decisions. Communication allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, and how we respond with our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate but it takes more than words to create a safe, exciting and secure relationship. Too often the signals we send are not those we intend, when this happens, often both connection and trust are lost in our relationships.

First, mindful listening is important in communication just hearing what someone says is not enough we need to listen to who were are communicating with and give them our full attention. “To listen well, we rely on our ears, minds, and hearts” (Wood, 2016, p. 163). I have a problem with selective listening and I have worked on this to become a better listener throughout class with my family.

listening that I have not thought of before. One important thing that Ms. Headlee had said was to not pretend that you’re listening when you actually aren’t. This is called pseudolistening and our book calls it “pretend listening” (Rothwell 150) Pseudolistening is when you are looking at someone while they are talking and responding with ”Mmm-hmm” or even saying “really” (Rothwell 150) It appears as though you are intently listening when in reality you are not. If you are doing this you are not only a bad listener but also disrespectful towards the person who is talking.

Interpersonal communication can be defined a number of ways, but it is usually described as communication between or among connected persons, or those in a close relationship. Over the past few weeks, I have really been able to examine my own interpersonal communication between and among the people I am connected to or have close relationships with. Prior to this course, I felt my interpersonal communication skills were above average and very effective. However, I have discovered there are many ways I can improve my interpersonal communications and relationships with others. Through the exercises conducted during this course I have realized that I need to work on my effective listening, perception of others and how my nonverbal cues can cause

Interpersonal communication is how individuals connect with one another, and is a necessary skill for anyone that desires to build harmony, demonstrate respect, diffuse and solve problems, and build meaningful and mutual relationships. This course has allowed me to better understand how and why I communicate the way I do, as well as ways to improve my communication skills and be more cognizant of the functions and repercussions of communication. I learned that communication is about more than what is spoken. It also includes nonverbal cues as well as role schemas. Through studying situations and tendencies in relationships, this class has provided me with life knowledge that will contribute to the success and benefit of current and future

Listening is a very complicated skill that many people do not posses. It requires individuals to reflect and to admit to their flaws. In order to communicate effectively it is important to know when to talk and listen. Peterson’s book is an excellent tool to enhance all types of relationships.

Communication is essential in relationships. Melinda’s relationship with others was not at its best, and their communication was no better. At home, Melinda communicates with her mother through notes. “My family has a good system. We communicate with notes on the kitchen

Given these two statements it is suggested by Tannen that the amount of conversation that is expected in a relationship to maintain a sense of intimacy and closeness is vastly different. Where women believe that conversing is a binding element in a relationship, men do not appear to have the same belief. Listening is another area that Tannen points out where there is a difference in communication. Tannen discusses how the differences in listening are apparent in the mechanics of conversation. Tannen states, “… the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each other’s face.”

Though interpersonal communication can be the element to effective communications linking you and your loved one, it can also influence how you and your loved one interrelate with one another by not being a good listener and amplifier. Hello my name is and I will be giving you with a bit of guidance in turn to keep and preserve a well-built strong bond.

Petersen, J. C. (2007). Why don't we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships. Lincoln City, Oregon: Petersen Publications.

James Petersen, the author of “Why Don’t We Listen Better? Communicating & Connecting in Relationships” provides a practical foundation for better communication to improve listening and talking skills. Listening skills are essential to be able to improve communication to have healthier relationships. For this to occur, Petersen breaks communication down into five parts. The five parts include the Flat-Brain Theory of Emotions, the Talker- Listener Card (TLC), Basic Listening Techniques, TLC into action, and last basic philosophical principles (Petersen, 2007).

It takes two individual to build a successful relationship. Relationships or marriage would be a success if the communications towards each other were strong. A strong and loving relationship is a source of great happiness in life. Unfortunately, a relationship that lacks communication can be a source of unhappiness. In addition, being in a relationship takes commitment, compromising and communication skills. Each individual has to share to each other their feelings and thoughts to know each other’s wants, and needs. Without shared understanding and lack of communication, the