Question #3
According to Beebe et al., “Americans spend up to 90 percent of a typical day communicating with people, and they spend 45 percent of that time listening to others” (2001, p.114). The first skill people learn early on in life is how to listen. It starts from the moment of responding to a mother’s voice while in the womb. The authors state “effective speakers, however are those who can relate to their listeners; good speakers know how to establish a relationship with the audience by listening to audience members one on one before a talk or lecture” (p.115). It is important to become a good listener because listening plays a key role in successful communication. In order to become an effective speaker, you need to become an
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They need to put their own thoughts aside, be there mentally not just physically, make a conscious mindful effort to listen, take adequate time to listen, don’t rush the speaker, be patient, and lastly be open minded (Beebe et al., 2001). It is important to stop and think about all the distractions that prevent you from listening. The biggest distraction is your mouth. The authors state “you have been given two ears and one mouth” (Beebe et al., 2001, p. 126). Listeners need to shut one and use two in order to listen more efficiently. The book references a key solution to helping listeners stop with the distractions and listen to the speaker. They suggest that listeners stop their own thoughts and put themselves in the speaker’s shoes. Ask yourself this question “If I were the speaker, what should I be thinking right now?” To be aware of your own thoughts and actions calls for more efficient listening.
Step two: listen with your eyes. This means as a listener your non-verbal are appropriate and focused on the speaker. People often do not realize that they are communicating even without speaking. As Beebe et al., refers “a person’s facial expression, presence or lack of eye contact, posture, and use of gestures speaks volumes even when no word is uttered” (2001, p. 127). For example, if you as a listener are sitting slumped in your seat and have your arms crossed you may be communicating to the speaker that you do not care about
Communication isn’t just about talking. There are so many different elements to communicating in society. How a person gestures, the tone in an individual’s voice, an expression on a person’s face, how a person listens is all a part of communicating. As we all know, in order to communicate with one another we must be able to listen. I think in society people think that communication is all about speaking but in reality it is just a little piece to a bigger picture. In today’s society, listening seems to be a skill that is being neglected. Even though it is basically the first communication skill that we are exposed to, we have pushed it aside and chose speaking to dominate our lives. Researchers have discovered that fetuses can process incoming sounds during the last trimester of pregnancy, and that by 12 months children have learned sounds of and rules of their native language(Worthington, 3). This shows that children’s abilities to speak, read, write and reason are influenced highly by how well they are taught to listen. As parents we can all be teachers to our children so that they can grow up to be well-rounded communicators.
First, mindful listening is important in communication just hearing what someone says is not enough we need to listen to who were are communicating with and give them our full attention. “To listen well, we rely on our ears, minds, and hearts” (Wood, 2016, p. 163). I have a problem with selective listening and I have worked on this to become a better listener throughout class with my family.
When sound waves are transformed by the electrochemical impulses into the brain, the wonderful sense of hearing is experienced. Listening is actually paying attention to the speaker and understanding what was said. Hearing is being able to hear what is said but not understand the meaning of the speech. Hearing and listening are essential elements to comprehending and determining what was recently received by the audience. Here are some methods to enhance the listening environment for the audience involves: minimizing potential disturbances, divert the audience with the appearance of speaker, delivery method of the speaker must be entertaining, deferring discernment, focusing on listening and develop note taking skills. In my opinion, I believe practicing on obtaining the undivided attention of the audience while keeping an open mind is a good method to
Talking and listening are essential life skills. The ability to talk in order to communicate and exchange ideas and information, to negotiate with others, to express feelings and emotions, allows human beings to function well in the world and to be full and active members of society. Communication, to be effective, requires the ability to listen, to understand and to make sense of what is heard. On the personal level, when we listen, we give attention to the other person in such a way as to allow them to feel heard, understood and therefore respected. In that way, listening is more than
Working in a restaurant was one of the best learning experiences in developing personal and team oriented relationships with individuals of all backgrounds. Eleven years later I still used these gathered skills, now further sharpened, that are essential to my current job as a hair stylist. Aside from working with people of all ages, there are a number of skills that I find were most influencing into how I operate today. One of these skills was the effective quality of listening. One of the biggest problems in the work place today is that people are unaware or decline to effectively listen. Listening to people by vocal communication is one of many forms we translate information. Understanding body language, facial expression, tone of voice are all imperative attributes to effectively communicate. This is a strength that I take in pride in being knowledgeable towards. I’ve realized the priority of patience with many years of working one on one with individuals. One is unable to effectively move forward without understanding the perspectives of the people we communicate
A broader awareness of the importance of effective listening is another weapon in your arsenal as a public speaker. At the same time, building up your own effective listening skills can enhance your academic, professional, and personal success. Being heard is one thing, but speakers need listeners to complete the communication loop. Reap the rewards: Instead of saying “I hear you,” try out “I’m listening.”
From Go Natural English Lesson by Gabby Wallace, there are 5 secrets for listening success
Watching the video of Julian Treasure: 5 ways to listen better and reading the chapter 5-9, the keys I gasp is that listening is a vital skill that is needed to improve in learning and as well in relationship. Using RASA which mean R( Receive) to pay attention to the speaker. A (Appreciate) show verbal response showing that you're paying attention. S (Summarize) explain the important part. A(Ask) ask afterthought of the speech. He was very passionate for students to learn how to be a great listener. In the speech class within the chapter they gave me pointers, be a selfish listener and identify your listening
Determine the talker's needs during the interaction. At the beginning of a conversation, the talker may be tentative and not say what he or she means. Whether he or she continues often depends on the listener's initial response. Stay neutral and try to listen objectively. Direct, clear communication rarely occurs when information flows one way. Listening blocks are obstacles that interfere with our listening they
There are several methods to achieving effective listening. Concentrate on what others are saying. Make yourself shut out other challenges facing you and simply listen. Don't allow yourself to do other things as you listen, such as answering the phone, doing paperwork, or checking your e-mail. Effective listening is difficult and requires all of your attention and effort. The listener needs to focus on what is being said so they will not misinterpret what the speaker is trying to say. Paraphrase or rephrase what the speaker was saying in your own words to ensure that you heard the information accurately. It is important to
Thus, I attend my speaker with my full concentration as they speak, overcoming distractions and even going so far as to forgive a speaker's poor communication skills. Simply by paying attention, I can build an unspoken rapport with my speaker.
Listening is more complex, and it encourages one to analyze and think about an idea, rather than to simply accept it (or “hear” it). Hearing is a skill that is beneficial for every aspect of life. As long as we have our ability to hear, we will always perceive different sounds, music, and voices. Listening, however, is beneficial to us in specific instances. It is important for us to attain good listening skills in education, the work force, and in our relationships with others in order to succeed. Good listening in education will bring about confident participation in class discussions; good listening in the workplace will lead to cooperation and good teamwork among colleagues; good listening in relationships is healthy and positive, for it is important to hear what an individual has to say in order to know how they feel.
Anybody can become a good listener if they are committed to learn how and are willing to work hard. The first mistake that people tend to make when listening is to not make any type of comments while listening. They tend to just stand there and listen while the speaker talks. This can become very frustrating for the speaker and the listener. While the speaker may feel like he isn't being
Before Golen’s study, no studies determined factors of barriers to effective listening, but many studies showed factors or groups of similar listening behaviors. A study of 127 college students, done by Barker, Watson, and Kibler (1984) found that delivery, credibility, speaker’s voice, interestingness, understandability, and clarity were used to determine speaker effectiveness by listeners.
Listening is the most basic level for good communication, equally important as speaking. Without proper listening it is impossible to receive the right message by which it can stop further communication. Research shows listening to be a significant factor in maintaining marital relationships, family relationships, career success, and persuasive skills (Adler, Rodman & Sevigny, 2011, p. 130). There is a misconception about listening that it is similar to hearing. But, in fact listening and hearing are two different things. Hearing is a physiological process: the act of perceiving sound whereas, listening is a psychological process: the act of understanding what you hear. The stage of learning includes attending, understanding, responding and remembering (Adler et al., 2011, p. 131). All these stages are interrelated, and helpful when dealing with a person in trouble. Understanding of a message attentively by following syntax and semantics helps to remember the provided information which ultimately leads to the appropriate respond to the speaker. Although, listening is not a natural process, it is an art enhancing the communication. Researchers have identified four personal learning styles: content- oriented, people-oriented, action- oriented and time-oriented (Adler et al., 2011, p. 140). The choice of these styles varies according to the need of the problem, and empathetic listener use each style when it is appropriate for the circumstances. Empathetic listening is