Why I Didn 't Treat Women

When I was younger, I could afford to be catty because I was the one that everyone wanted to sit next to. I don’t know why but everything always came easy to me; school, conversation, and friendship. I effortlessly cruised through school with near perfect grades. I often took my friends for granted, not showing them the appreciation they deserved. Outsiders were a minor inconvenience and a disruption. I wasn’t the person to show them around or put up with their

The second major psychological perspective is that of learning. The perspective of learning is “concerned with how the environment and experience affect a person’s actions” (Wade and Tavris, 2011). When applied to a relationship standpoint many factors come into play. As a child who was raised to respect women, my mom always encouraged me to have healthy long-term relationships and not be a “player”. This lead to me implementing those ideas into my life and sticking with

History has always been heavily dominated by men, and for women to earn a spot in history means that they would need to do something extraordinary. In “Well-Behaved Women Seldom Make History,” by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, she points out several famous women in history that fit the mold of extraordinary. Through discussing Mae West, Rosa Parks, and Martha Ballard, Ulrich makes the claim that women rarely make history unless they have broken away from the norms of their society. By explaining the individual historical cases and her own opinion, accompanied by visual representations of her view, Ulrich argues how history dictates who gets a spot in history and who gets forgotten. However, a place in history depends on how out of the ordinary

“Well behaved women seldom make history.” I have seen that phrase and its slightly more common counterpart, “Well behaved women rarely make history” many times. It is especially popular in the Society for Creative Anachronism (SCA), a medieval history research and reenactment group in which I participate, and is often accompanied by images of female fighters in armor wielding swords. Most recently I saw it emblazoned upon my girlfriend’s chest on a medieval themed t-shirt that she bought at a recent SCA event. I have never thought much about the slogan except for the fact that it generally represents women who make themselves known in unforgettable ways and are remembered mostly for disrupting the status quo.

“Well-behaved women seldom make history.” These words were penned by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, author of half a dozen books and professor of history at Harvard University. She uses her ability to write to help give a voice to those who are overlooked and underappreciated. Ulrich stumbled upon accidental fame when her phrase, “well-behaved women seldom make history” was discovered by Jill Portugal, a student from Oregon. Portugal asked to use Thatcher’s phrase for a feminist campaign she was heading up; many women identified with the emotion the phrase embodied and its popularity spread; before many years it was found emblazoned on mugs, t-shirts, and bumper stickers. Today her words are still a catchphrase among feminists and women who are seeking to be heard. Thatcher explores the truth of her phrase in her article, “Well-Behaved Women Seldom Make History” by exploring the lives of two unique women: Mae West and Rosa Parks.

Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, in a scholarly article written in 1976, wrote that “well-behaved women seldom make history” (Ulrich XIII). Over time, that phrase has became a slogan for feminists around the world. It appears on many products and media, like shirts, jewelry, and even wine glasses. At the time she wrote it, she meant for it to mean that women who are well-behaved do not get their stories told, even if they did something extraordinary or heroic, though now, people interpret it in many different ways.

For Feldman, women had the roles of the victim of misogynistic terror and as coauthors. Since many Klanmembers could not accept the fact of gender equality within the fact acts of violence against women, especially in Alabama, happened more frequently. “Kluxers routinely targeted women, mostly for violating narrow social conventions and ideas of traditional morality “(61) In 1920s women received the franchise. This was on of the fact, which led to an explosive growth of the Ku Klux Klan. Men and women were terrified by the new political and economic situation in the United States. In order to turn the time back they joined the KKK. The Ku Klux Klan promised to turn the United States to a holy place again. A place were “darkies were obedient,

My major is social work and my minor is youth services. I am currently a senior and plan on graduating in one year. After graduation, I plan on going back to school for a MSW in social work. After I complete school I would love to work in a school district with middle school or high school students. The last book I read for fun was called Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay. The book is about how you do not have to be perfect to call yourself a feminist. It was a great read that I would highly recommend. My dream job of getting paid $30 grand would be owning my own bakery with my mom. My dream job if I was only paid $50 grand would to be a school counselor. A movie that I liked was Wonder Women and a movie I disliked was La La Land. Something

•I expressed anger rather than explained it when Andrea wouldn't compromise with me, listen to me explain my feelings of hurt, or respect my wishes. I also got upset and when I did something that upset me for example lost my debit card. •I was honest to the point that I let Andrea know if I thought I didn't like a shirt or hairstyle that she wanted and I explained when I felt her friends weren't real friends when she talked badly about them (she thought I shouldn't do this and thought I wasn't being supportive). I also was to honest about my feelings and what I didn't like about our relationship. •I put Andrea's wants and needs before my own and was too fixed on our relationship problems that I couldn't get stuff done.

So where can I go?, What do I do?, Is it time to make that big step and make that walk and if I do then what will it do. Will I regret it? Will it be for the best?. Lot's of questions I have for actions with certain things and people I need to do pretty soon as it seems I'm going around in circles over and over again to which I'm getting quite sick of like im in a eternal sleep and I won't wake up from it. I help people out,or I have feelings for someone and I get jerked around and when you got feelings for someone it is pretty hard to shut off when you have done so much for them and I can do only so much but they are too blind to see that I'm the good guy,but yet they go for the typical bad guy because it seems to be the thing to do.

At first glance the treatment of women in an Igbo marriage is appalling, the woman may be beat if she is out of line, she raises the children, does the housework and even some farm work without hesitation. For the Igbo clan, a marriage is the union between a man and as many women as he desires and can afford to buy. A marriage is done for the purpose of having numerous children and love between man and wife is not even a requirement. The wife is given the option to leave if she is unhappy and despite the fact that the choice to leave or to stay seems obvious, the pros seem to outweigh the cons for an Igbo woman.

I have a very vivid memory of discussing my classes to my mother before this first semester began, and whenever I listed off my Women and Gender Studies class I remember my mother asking me, “What do you think you are going to learn about in there?” I recall opening my mouth to say something, but nothing came out. I stopped, and looked at her and said, “You know, I’m not really sure. I guess we will find out!” I knew going in to this class I was excited, but for what I had no clue. However, looking back on my experiences, discussions, and the knowledge I have gained from this course, I know exactly why I was excited. There is an entire world out there that the media and politics had hidden from me, but now my eyes are opened. I can

These two innocent situations that I experienced had unaware consequences on the involved relationships. The first one being that I changed the way I did things and I got new friends. The second being I was able to be myself and I was considered different. And even though I was not the same as everyone else, I still managed to have friends that accepted me for who I was.

I used to be a narcissist and I have changed. As a child I was very loved and cared for by my family and had a great childhood. My dad left when I was one and even though he still would pick us up for the weekends and spend time with us I felt rejected. I didn 't notice it until now in my late twenties that I actually have accepted how I felt. I wasn 't like this as a child I became a narcissist when I turned 18 and I started dating. I have to say my mom is the opposite from my dad. She 's very lovable and caring while my dad is opposite of it. My mom always told me since I was growing up to never play with anyone 's heart and to not be arrogant. Unfortunately when I turned eighteen I met a guy who became my first boyfriend and we went out on one date. That date turned everything around and that one night I will never forget. During that time I was very innocent and had never had a boyfriend as a matter of fact I didn 't think I would be with anyone. That year my friends all began pairing up and I felt I was losing them. I met this guy through a friend and he instantly told his friend he was interested. We began talking on the phone and for months he tried to catch my attention but I didn 't give in. I thought he looked like a great guy but he wasn 't on my criteria. So one night he asked me out on a date and I told him it was fine. That night we went to the movies and before we got home. He stopped the car and told me he really liked me and he just stared at me intensely

It’s almost as if I am a consolation prize to far too many women who fall short of their romantic endeavors. Even the word prize may be a stretch as an appropriate name to represent this arrangement. I am more like a band aid for the broken rather than an actual reward. It seems as if there have always been women in my life that allow guys destroy them to the lowest denominator. The pattern – much to my dismay - is repeated over and over. Time after time they go through their separate dilemmas, and after it turns south, they come crawling back to me. My role is to make them whole again by putting the shattered pieces back together. As simple as this may sound, it is far easier said than accomplished.