In today's society, we often see that being called "dad" , and actually living up to that title is not always a responsibility of some "fathers" Most kids wish to grow up in a loving home with bot of their happily married parents. I am one of those kids. Some children think that this lifestyle is much better than living with single mother, not being able to talk, see or even hear of "dad". Deadbeat dads dont realize how their actions can affect their child(ren), but sometimes it can always be for the better.
Not having a father can affect you emotionally,mentally, and physically.
Demographically, over 90% of the participants strongly agreed that fatherhood is crucial in our society. A little over 47% of fathers, that encouragement from the mothers of their children matters because of the obstacles they faced with finance, and their duties on the job. The final results of marital status statistics is over 80% married fathers, nine percent divorced, and six percent never married. One surprising statistic was 90% cohabitate with the mother and focal child (Glenn & Popenoe, 2006).
Not having a dad might not sound too bad to some people. When that dad comes home and makes fun of his kids, or making his kids mad, his children may not want a dad anymore. Doug Swieteck from the book Okay for Now by Gary D.Schmidt feels like he does not need a dad. Not having a dad would sound good to Doug because the dad he knows acts like a real jerk to him.
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Black males is a major reason why 70% of black children are born to single mothers compared to the national average of 40%. Studies show that the main reason why black fathers fail their kids is because they don’t get married, or don’t stay married with their original spouse. The black community are the least likely to marry any other race in the United States. Another reason why black father fail their kids is because a lot of the time their relationship with the child well depend on the relationship they have with their mother, if that relationship fails than more likely than not the relationship with the child will fail as well. From personal experience and in the community I live in. In Prince Georges County Maryland, the majority race
Some scholars have argued the notion that fathers are important contributors to their children and adolescents’ psychosocial development (Mandara, Murray, & Joyner, 2005). According to Allgood, Beckert, and Peterson (2012), researchers are beginning to understand the importance of examining children’s perspectives and the relationships and levels of involvement children have with their fathers.
Not having a dad might not sound to bad to some people. When that dads always making fun of his kids, or making his kids mad, his children may not want a dad anymore. Doug Swieteck from the book Okay for Now by Gary Schmidt would feel like he doesn't need a dad. Not having a dad would sound good too Doug because the dad he knows acts like a real jerk to him. He influences other people in the book which make him feel good, unlike his dad. These people give Doug the motivation he needs to keep him from ending up like his dad. Doug gets guidance and learns from Mr. Powell, Mr. Ballard, and Mrs. Cowper throughout his time in Marysville.
Due to problems arising out of bitter divorces, custody, and support battles fathers are ostracize out of their children’s life. Fathers are often looked at as the bad person when things go wrong and being the blame. Fathers are just as responsible for the child being born as the mother. Over the years fathers continue to fight for equal rights, mothers are looked at as the victims and often make false statements about the fathers to suit their own selfish needs. Accusations of sexual and child abuse by mothers of the noncustodial fathers are often found to be untrue.
Standing Tall It is the human condition to be dependent upon others; this has always been so. Humans look up to siblings, best friends, grandparents, and even teachers but the most sought out dependency in life is in the form of a father. Much is expected from the male gender, but moreso of fathers. A father’s predetermined role in society is to make the decisions for, protect, and keep order in his home.
What is a fathers “responsibility”? Is it to nurture, or is it to provide, maybe even he could do both? In the novel Your Fathers, Where Are They, and the Prophets, Do They Live Forever? Dave Eggers, describes trivial emotional and mental repercussions that occur when there is an absence of a father figure. Sons and daughters alike, any disconnection with a meaningful individual, supposedly relatable in blood, would bring question and concern. A fathers’ relationship and support can be beneficial to any child’s growth. Giving children a solid basis of what kinds of responsibilities go along with being an adult and showing them compassion individualism and what it means to “be a man” is important.
A relationship between a father and his child is one of the most sacred bonds to have growing up. Some people do not have to fortunate of having such a thing. Other people have fathers that do terrible things (such as murder, rape, or stealing) to either others or themselves.
(Smith, 1988, p. 270). High homicide rates, high suicide rates, few job options, high percentage of drop outs, and limited life plan continue to become more common within the adolescent male the belief that he must survive. In today’s generation, adolescent fathers may feel like if he plays an active role in the child’s life, then he will be an adult, but may also feel like he does not need to provide financial support to the mother. Because of an adolescent father’s fixated view of self, influenced by society, would only make sure he is in a “good” position. Social workers often put an emphasis on how the father grew up in a damaged household with little to no motivation to be an active father in the child’s life, whereas they should provide more assistance into helping him be a better person and the best father. With all of these challenges that adolescent fathers face, I begin to question, how much hope does society have for the African-American male and his
Although single parenthood is on the rise in homes today, children still often have a father role in their life. It does not matter who the part is filled by: a father, uncle, older brother, grandfather, etc...; in almost all cases, those relationships between the father (figure) and child have lasting impacts on the youth the rest of their lives. In “I Wanted to Share My Father’s World,” Jimmy Carter tells the audience no matter the situation with a father, hold onto every moment.
As children we look up to our parents as role models, it is universal that we have the need to have them in our lives, to feel loved by them. They are the people who should be responsible for our upbringing and in molding the way we are to be as adults. The role of a parent is not just providing food and shelter but also providing a good example. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. There are parents who for one reason or another are not there for their children, parents who do not set the right example to their kids. In the story "Reunion" by John Cheever we see a perfect example of how a father does not step up to his role as a parent and the effect it has on his son. We see the need of
Throughout the United States, more than one-third of children don't live with their biological fathers, and about 17 million of those children don't live with any father at all. Of those, roughly 40 percent haven't seen their fathers in the last year. The over 500 Father's Rights organizations are trying in a variety of ways to change these statistics because they believe that fathers are necessary to the intellectual, psychological and emotional well- being of all children. "Family values" groups encourage long lasting stable, marriages and tough divorce laws to increase the number of two- parent households. Some organizations focus on reasonable child support and visitation, as well as creative joint custody arrangements to
The role of the father, a male figure in a child’s life is a very crucial role that has been diminishing over the years. An absent father can be defined in two ways; the father is physically not present, or the father is physically present, but emotionally present. To an adolescent, a father is an idolized figure, someone they look up to (Feud, 1921), thus when such a figure is an absent one, it can and will negatively affect a child’s development. Many of the problems we face in society today, such as crime and delinquency, poor academic achievement, divorce, drug use, early pregnancy and sexual activity can be attributed to fathers being absent during adolescent development (Popenoe, 1996; Whitehead, 1993). The percentage of