Why Is It Better To Stand Out

The Outsiders Thematic Essay Everybody wants to “fit in.” Nobody tries nor wants to be different. We all conform to the stereotypes that are set for us. It is not easy to break through stereotypes, but once it is done identity forms.

Sometimes we mentally ask ourselves, “What can I do to fit in?” which is a simpler way of saying, “What societal norms do I need to conform to in order to not be ridiculed”

The article “The Case for Fitting In” compares to my idea of conformity because I think that it means how you change your opinion due to social pressure. My idea of conformity relates to the article because it was talking about how when people were in a group and someone said the wrong answer they usually went with it. “Each subject saw 18 sets of lines, and the group answer was wrong for 12 of them” this proves that most of the time people went with the group rather than going with their personal opinion. I think that the article really compares with my definition of conformity because I think that it causes you to change your opinion and sometimes causes you to choose wrong answers. I also strongly think that the article agrees with me because

“Living in society, we are under constant pressure to surrender our individuality to the will of the majority, the school, the workplace, the family, etc.” (Feys, P.6). Logan Feys, the author of “The Sociology of Leopard Man”, states that society is persistently under pressure to change our individual likings, personality, change the way we look, etc. to feel accepted and approved by society. The desire to fit in and not be an outsider with social groups causes people to feel pressured and change themselves to fit in. Fey’s statement is correct that people conform with society to not be an outsider or avoid the fear of possibly being an outsider.

The struggle to become one with the people around you is something that many people find themselves trying to resolve. As these people strive to become alike those around them, to avoid being singled out and publicly ridiculed, to become one with the society that forever changes and dictates the waves of style, thought, and other trends in the same manner that the moon dictates the waves of the oceans.

Social conformity is a dangerous, chaotic force. A simple gathering can spontaneously lead to surges of violence and atrocities. As one stone is thrown, another follows, each one faster than the last. They have muddied their identity into a mob. Social conformity is the suppression of one’s thoughts and identity to conform to the herd.

We conform because we want to fit in and feel accepted. Unfortunately, by conforming, we allow others to shape our personalities, behavior and thoughts, taking away our ability to be ourselves. The principle of Emerson’s quote is true: joining a society does indeed take away our liberties and individualism. It is up to us to try to live up to Emerson’s statement of ideal behavior, ““It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of

The concept of belonging is essential. To belong is to form a connection which will allow a sense of identity, without this we lose our humanity; however, conformity is in a sense a facade of belonging, as it restrains our freedom and forces us to only mimic. My studied texts show how society demands us to conform, yet conformity prevents a sense of true identity being ever created.

People do many different things in attempt to fit in, even while wanting to make a difference. However, that person could be too afraid to do so, and instead go along with the crowd. This is conformity, trying to blend in with society just because they’re too afraid to speak out. A person can live a fulfilled life by not conforming to society’s standards and opinions, and by living their life bravely.

Individuality and conformity is a battle between being a leader and being a follower, finding out who you are and your desires to be accepted by others. In Alice Munro’s short story “The Shining Houses” and Wallace Stevens’ poem “Disillusionment of Ten O’ Clock”, both the author and the poet shows how being an individual is more valuable than being one of those conformed ‘copies’. Is it better to stand out and compromise your values or is it better to stay comfortable in the crowd and give into peer pressure? Often in our society we are forced to act in a certain way in order to be considered ‘normal’ and fit into a group, that is why a lot of people eventually conform. People conform because they like the feeling of being accepted, and that

We must decide for ourselves whether to conform to such a social etiquette. We are taught as soon as we are old enough to grasp the idea that it is bad to be unique and to avoid being different. At some point, however, we must decide within ourselves whether to spend every day trying to be like everyone else because society says we should or living each day true to ourselves. Our strength as a person is proven through what we decide. The benefits of being true to ourselves greatly outweigh any negative aspects of choosing that path.

People who feel the need to fit in, weather it 's because of society or themselves, are very prone for following the crowd and giving into peer pressure. When someone is a follower they tend to also have a low self importance making them even more prone. If you have a friend that is a bit of a follower try to help them out and make sure they aren’t making bad choices to gain friends. Trust me those are not the friends someone would

In years past, I felt as if I need to conform to what was around me to fit in or be considered a normal person. I struggled with this for a long time until I realized on how unhappy I was. I thought that if I had done all these things that I belonged with my peers .I learned that I would be much more happy in my own skin and doing things that make me happy as well. I learned that it was okay to be different and have a strange personality and perspective on life.

During high school, I remember people tried to do whatever it took to fit in or be accepted. My classmate and including myself spent trying to be liked, accepted, and fearing criticism. In the article “Living For Likes” Julia Kirk, a writer and a student at Rider University studying communications, explains this imagine scenario:

As I transitioned from elementary school to middle school, I have always heard about everyone trying to fit in. For me, I too have experienced trying to fit in. While others tried to fit in by buying the trendiest clothes, listening to the latest music or playing the newest games, I thought I could fit in by just going along with everything people said. However, because of this, in the long run, I began to lose myself.