Have you ever gone shopping with your friends or family because you guys are going to a really special event? And they asked you if you like the dress and shoes that they picked but in you mind you think it's really ugly that they look like they just walked into a party in the late 70s’. Guess what! You lied and say, “oh! That looks really pretty, its really good on you.” You lied because you don’t wanna hurt their feeling, like you don’t wanna be mean to them and make them sad. Sometimes we tend to lie rather than tell the truth so as not to hurt others. It’s our human instinct not to be rude to someone who is really close to us, instead we try to be polite by saying words that would make them happy. Lying isn’t really bad at all when the reason why you lied is to protect yourself and others from conflicts that might affect your …show more content…
Sometimes telling a lie seems to be so necessary to spare our loved ones to be hurt. “Not only is Lying justified, it is sometimes a moral duty.” The above, evidence implies that by telling lies we can prevent future arguments from happening. Lying yields positive results rather than negative ones because you did lie to protect others and not to be hurt. Gea Pacudan 2
Lying, on the other hand maintains happy relationship. In some instances, when relationships are at stake we tell lies to cover up for our mistakes and save the relationship. “People who say lying is wrong are often thinking in the abstract. In our real lives,we can’t always pick honestly without composing some other value that might be as important.” Telling a lie can be a solution to solve problems between people. And with that, we can managed and keep our relationship with others. There are many ways to tell a lie, and sometimes it is better than telling the
There comes a time in every persons life where they feel a burning sensation to lie, but is it worth it? Don’t they feel the shame and the guilt of that lie? On average, people lie between ten to two hundred times a day. But doesn't all of that lying come with a lot of conflict and trouble? The more that you lie the more conflict arises by avoiding truth then if it were to be faced head-on.
Once people know that a person habitually lies, they do not take that person as seriously. Being honest demonstrates self-respect and respect for others. Honesty is appealing and engaging to others. Honesty also sets a good example for people who look up to that person. People will become closer and have faith in an authentic person. An honest person invites authentic and real friendships. Imagine if a friend overhears a lie told by another peer, it is possible that it could damage the relationship. It can be difficult to regain their trust once they are aware of the regular lying. People frequently tell lies to bypass sharing truths that feel uncomfortable or awkward. Lying should be avoided because it is important to share true judgment and care for others. Lying typically ruins relationships whether they are personal or work-related. It is clear that lying creates skepticism and disbelief. Most people will stop asking liars for advice on personal issues because they know they will not get truthful information. Friendships are often broken because of lies that get too big to keep lying about. Lying hides who people really are. People should try to keep a clean slate by staying honest, especially when there are consequences. Lying gets rid of credibility, yet people seem to lie more
Lies and the truth can be both bad or both good depending on how you use them. Lies can be used to not hurt someone's feelings and make someone feel good about themselves. If someone tells the truth in a situation that would make someone feel bad. The truth hurts others sometimes as much as lying or more. The truth is good in most situations and lying is still bad in most situations. Part of our social contract, we find the need to lie for good and tell the truth only if it hurts someone else. Not one is good or bad it is how you use them that makes them that way. It is all up to your choice to make them bad or
Have you ever told a friend their outfit looks good when you really thought it was hideous? Don’t feel bad about it. Liars are people we all know. Truthfully, we have all become liars from time to time ourselves, it’s just the truth. Some don’t want to admit this, and will continue to lie about. Lying doesn’t necessarily define you as a bad person. In the moment, lying seems necessary and the right choice. We lie to save another’s feelings from being hurt. We lie to another to save someone else. We lie to save ourselves. We lie so we can avoid someone knowing a secret that they don’t deserve knowing. We justify our lying as it won’t affect the other negatively, in the case they don’t find out. We lie for reasons that show we are still good people.
“The truth is always an insult or a joke, lies are generally tastier. We love them. The nature of lies is to please. Truth has no concern for anyone's comfort” Katherine Dunn perfectly describes what attracts us to lies from a quote in her book Geek Love. Most people lie to help themselves make it through day to day life. If people lie all the time, can all that lying really have an immense effect? Delays for telling the truth is not always a bad thing.While some lies are more helpful to some people more than others. Lies can make people seem untrustworthy, although lies help protect innocence, maintain self-esteem, and prevent harm from yourself or others.
A significant form of interpersonal communication that plays an enormous role in relationships is lying. Lying has evolved into a frequent practice in today’s society. Even though, lying seem to be fond upon, we all have done it multiple times for not just our benefit but for others. In relationships, lying is turned from a negative to positive act depending on the circumstances. It seems as if, you lie in attempt to help another person it’s celebrated than if you lie for your benefits. Lying is known to only mislead or give a false impression in which the false hood can only cause negative acts. Why does one enange in lying if the outcome is negative? The most found reason that people find themselves lying is because of the truth. It is said that many people lie because long-term the truth is worse than the short-term lie. Lying is judged off its cost and benefits. In each situation, there will be outcomes when it comes to the lies being told. Lying to those you have impersonal connection with has less of an impact than those you have an interpersonal relationships. Those that has an impersonal relationships is nearly never affected by the lies told because normally they do not see that person as often as those with the close bonds. I understand that lying can be beneficial in relationship of any kind, but I personally feel that the truth is preferred. There are two consequences that puts strain on the relationship. Termination is the last step in a relationship; there are
To begin with, there are multiple of ways to lie, and different ways that lying can justified. Lying can be used for the greater good, or in negative ways. For example, “Tim, 18, said the key to being good at lying is to keep it simple. ‘If you get caught in a lie,’ he said, ‘tell another one, and then tell another one to cover that one up, but keep it simple. You keep it simple so you can recap it in your head and keep your story straight.’” (Article 4). This shows that lying to people is terrible. However, lying is an option in order to escape from another lie. Since lying is not positive, it is not very
It’s a small thing that could blow up into a major issue, but in some cases, it could be the way people save feelings. The way of sometimes hurting someone’s feelings and sometimes boosting their confidence is the human form of somewhat lying. Lying is sometimes the right thing to do like lying to children, being private about personal business, and by protecting someone’s feeling.
Lying the one form of communication that is the untruth expressed to be the truth. Immanuel Kant states that lying is morally wrong in all possible ways. His hatred for lying has made him “just assumed that anyone who lied would be operating with a maxim like this: tell a lie so as to gain some benefit.”(Landau,pp.171) This is true for a vast number of people, they will lie in order to gain a certain benefit from the lie rather than the truth.It is similar to if you play a game of truth or dare, some rather pick a dare because it would release them from having to tell the truth. However, those who do pick truth still have a chance to lie to cover up the absolute truth.People lie in order to cover who they truly are. Even if you lie to benefit someone or something else, it would not matter to Kant because he does not care for the consequences. If you lie but have a good intention it is not the same for Kant, he would argue that you still lied no matter the consequence that a lie is a lie. “ While lying, we accuse others for not being transparent. While being hypocrites ourselves, we expect others to be sincere.” (Dehghani,Ethics) We know how it feels to be lied to by a person, so in order to not have the feeling returned, we hope the person will be truthful. We rather be surrounded by truthful people constantly despite all the lies that some people tell. No
The lie that was told can cause others temporary happiness until they face the truth. Lying to yourself can provide you with satisfaction until you realize that your only kidding yourself. A lie isn’t the worst thing someone can do, but it isn’t the best thing for someone to do. Everyone lies. People had lied in the past, lied today and will in the future.
One point it is not okay to lie is, that lying will cause many problems and one is you will lose other people's´ trust. According to Randy Cohen ,a ethics columnist, every lie has a cost and one big cost is you lose other people´s trust (NBCNEWS,2006). In the 1800’s being called a liar can cause the individual to lose their dignity (Sissela Bok).
We have all lied at some time or another in our life. As a child, we may have lied so we would not get in trouble. As adults, we may lie to avoid disagreements with someone, so we can maintain a healthy relationship with that person. We teach children that it is wrong to lie; however lying comes natural for us, and we all lie whenever it is convenient. These kinds of lies are ‘white lies’. They are harmless lies if mentioned with the right purpose. People lie to loved ones more than anyone else. It is easier to lie to a loved one more than anyone else, because telling the truth might be more painful than a lie. Some people are better liars than others. When a person becomes habituated with lying, it becomes a problem. When Lies
Lying is not completely wrong, especially when it comes to the sentiments of others. For example, it is, “OK to lie in certain situations, like protecting someone’s feelings”(Life on NBCNEWS.com, July 11, 2006). As things go, there are instances in which telling the truth would distress others, while a lie could save another person from grief. Furthermore, telling someone a lie to help someone emotionally is morally right. Thus, telling a lie can be the correct thing to do when trying to protect someone from mental, emotional, and physical harm.
Lies can be one kind of believe and have fun. For example, if the father and mother tell their kids about Christmas has Santa Claus, who gives Christmas presents to their kids. Some kids usually believe in Santa Claus. In the future, the kids will know it is not true, but they will think it was a good memory in their childhood! I think it is a good way to use lie. Lying can be fun, but doesn’t use it in a bad way on other person because it will lets the person get hurt like my classmate.
I also agree that we should think before we act. First, we tell lies to avoid hurting the feelings of someone. Words are very powerful so when we are friends with someone and we know that they are hurting we usually tell white lies to make them feel better. In addition, we tell lies to protect their own feelings. If we know that a lie can make a person happy then go for it even though it is bad because we love them and we will do everything for them. Second, we tell lies to avoid getting into trouble. An example is we prevent physical and mental harm. A situation that is proper to this is when we are in danger; obviously we need to tell numerous lies to protect ourselves from getting hurt. Third, we tell lies to avoid losing someone. We tend to lie because the truth might ruin our relationship with the person even though we know that when we lie to someone, we already ruin the relationship we have with them. Moreover, gaining the trust of a person is very hard; we tend to push them away because some of us have trust issues, so when we finally gained that trust we are afraid to