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As we grow as develop as individuals we begin to make choices about where we want to find belonging. This can be seen in choices as minor as belonging to a football club or friendship group, to more life-altering choices such as being a member of a political party or protest group such as Green peace. As individuals make such choices they do not sacrifice their identities, but rather work to increase and from their ever-changing sense of self. Such choices can also be made after life-altering circumstances, such as when people feel a need to join victim’s group or support groups when they or a loved one contract a chronic or terminal illness.

In the short story “Initiation” by Sylvia Plath, Millicent Arnold is a narcissistic teenager undergoing her initiation into the most prestige social group at Lansing High. Despite being aware of the risk at losing her best friend, Tracy, Millicent eagerly seeks the opportunity to be part of a close-knit group and as a result, she is mistreated and forced to conform to the group’s narrow standards. Plath explains how being part of a social group does not necessarily help one grow individually, but rather assimilates them into what is portrayed as esteemed social status. As Millicent goes through the downgrading initiation process, she discovers the value of friendship and realizes that being associated with a certain group will not help her achieve confidence in her true self.

It outlines the struggle an individual faces in finding stability between developing a sense of forming a unique identity while still being accepted and “fitting in” with society. Erikson believed that when teenagers adequately navigated their way through this crisis, they would transpire into having a clear understanding of their individual identity and easily share this new ‘self’ with others. However, if an individual is unable to navigate their way through this crisis period, they may be uncertain of who they are which can result in a lack of understanding, leading to disconnection from society and the people around them. If youth become stuck at this stage they will be unable to become emotionally mature adults, according to Erikson’s theory. This period of an individual’s life allows them to investigate possibilities which will lead them to discovering their own identity based upon the result of their explorations.

The interview was conducted with a married female, 59 ½ years of age. The purpose was to document the subject’s lifespan history with recollections of significant events in her development. The focus was to identify any dystonic outcomes during any of the stages of Erikson’s personal developmental theory, theory of the mind, Levinson theory, attachment theory and Identity theory. It is anticipated that the questions could quarantine specific areas and incidents that may have obstructed any of the developmental theories thereby influencing the subject’s later view of adolescent, young adult and middle age. The focus for the paper is inspired by Erickson’s emphasis on the identity crisis as the “psychosocial

Belonging is primarily about acceptance and developing a connection and identity. Belonging implies an understanding of the needs of the individual and the group and negotiating a way towards acceptance of those needs. Conversely, exclusion emerges when the individual and the group fail to understand each other. Steven Herrick’s “The Simple Gift” is the story of three protagonists who develop friendships and ultimately change their perceptions of self. Comparatively, John Duigan’s “The Year My Voice Broke” explores how the relationships

This process can only be achieved by sifting through the complexes we have developed, questioning them, and changing what we don’t like. We build on what fits who we are. Although this process slows down, it still continues for the rest of our lives.Robert Johnson emphasizes that every human being has got to break away from their parents at some point in time, especially their mother-complex that lives inside each and every one of us. It is the mother-complex that effects us the most and that requires the greatest struggle to recover from. When a child first tries to separate themselves from their mother, it is all in vain. They are only trying to hide it from themselves and the rest of the world.

Moving into society is a transitional phase, marked by new challenges, opportunities and relationships. Transitions in life can change an individual’s perception of the world and obstacles may arise which test individual’s strength. This is shown through analysis of the novel ‘The Story of Tom Brennan’ by J.C. Burke (2005) and the memoir “At least it’s not contagious’ by Samantha Miles (1995). Hindered by emotional turmoil and an uncontrollable situation in Mumbilli, the protagonist Tom Brennan relieves his devastated life in the new realm of Coghill through forming new relationships and accepting new avenues for personal

An individual’s true identity will only develop once they have gone through experiences that force them to break away from societal and environmental expectations. However, this identity will not be formed until they have truly embraced and evaluated the experiences. Therefore, the development of an identity is a gradual learning process. This is evident in the film ‘Muriel’s Wedding’ directed by P.J. Hogan (1994). In this film, the protagonist, Muriel, has developed a fabricated bridal identity due to the societal pressures and expectations of the successful female. Muriel has created this identity in order to become acceptable to the patriarchal society. This notion of a fabricated identity is further demonstrated in the poem ‘Diving into

Reena Virk was a guiltless 14 year old girl who was beaten to death because people thought she was fat, ugly, and hairy and didn’t fit in. In her death we question ourselves, “What drives our need to belong?” Unmistakably our need to belong is not driven by instinct because the things we chase unconsciously, such as our basic needs, are entirely disremembered when we try to belong. We harm our health and threat our safety to fit in because if we don’t assimilate, it feels disturbing the feeling of nobody liking you. “Ever since Reena went into the hands of outsiders, nothing worked from that day.” Manjit Virk, Reena’s father was anxious for her safety the day she was taken. Reena was taken from her family by the Ministry of Children and Families

“Nothing of me is original. I am the combined effort of everyone I’ve ever known. ”(Chuck Palahniuk) Everyone that you will meet will help you on your journey to create your own identity. They show action, expression, and judgement that you then process in conjunction to yourself.

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The case of anna is critical to social researchers since it showcase the way that expanded times of social separation result in changeless harm. It demonstrates that Socialization builds up our humankind and in addition our specific identity and demonstrates that socialization is a long lasting procedure. The cases anna who endured years of detachment and disregard as youthful kids are surveyed. this case proposes that while people are strong. Compelling social seclusion brings about irreversible harm to typical identity advancement. Contextual investigations, for example, Anna's may not be controlled analyses but rather that does not mean they are not scientific.Case studies may not be the most ideal approach to study brain research; in any

There are many different stages and theories that can be applied to all human lives. As humans grow and experience life, they change in stages and developments. It is important to note that time does not specifically imply that life changes are occurring, much of the transition between stages is dependent upon experiences. The two people interviewed for this paper are experiencing those changes first hand. One woman is named Victoria and she is 35. She is currently experiencing the stage of middle adulthood. This is made apparent by her current family, marital, and job status. I have known Victoria for several years and her biggest concern lately has been her role as a mother, wife, and daughter. Her concerns are addressed and defined by her security with herself as a woman. Women’s Identity development is a theory that is directly applicable to her life. She has been very concerned with how her life is changing as she grows older and the people around her do as well. Victoria’s beliefs, family life, and

When I was younger, my mother used to preach that me I could be anybody that I wanted to be, but I guess some place between being fifteen and needing to fit in, I decided I didn’t want to be anything at all, or, even better, I chose I wanted to be anything the people around me wanted me to be. And somewhere along the way I lost what it meant to be me completely. I looked in the mirror, but I no longer knew who was staring back. I should admit, for quite a while I enjoyed the ominous way I could smile as if everything was okay, the way people looked at me and expressed how much they loved me. Until I realized that the me that they love isn’t the real me, but simply the mask I put on everyday. I was becoming what I pretended it be, caught in the brain of someone I never wanted to know. I believe, that the loneliest feeling on the planet is not the act of being distant from everyone else, it is the act of losing yourself in a hoard of people, of changing yourself for the general population, and the apprehension of failing to know your actual self. Sylvia Plath once expressed, “Why can’t I try on different lives, like dresses, to see which fits best and is more becoming.” and for a very long time, I firmly held that belief. However, the problem I’ve found with the statement is that, everyone lives is completely unique to them and the life that fits one person the best isn’t going to fit me because it’s not mine to fit in the first place. In other words, I discovered that I was

Throughout my adolescence, I was exposed to a variety of healthy and unhealthy social contexts that influenced my development. The healthy contexts that I was exposed to included my father, grandmother, teachers, friends, and athletic teams. The unhealthy contexts that I was in contact with were my mother, a few teachers, some peers, and the location of my home. All of these contradictory contexts simultaneously influenced and forced me to become aware of who I was not or where I could not belong and shaped my understanding of who I was and where I belonged.