Without Connection to Others There Is No Me

1863 Words Oct 13th, 2012 8 Pages
Prompt: Without connection to others there is no me.

In a society which inherently seeks to categorise individuals, it is paramount that each person finds their genuine place in the world. The most powerful influences that impact on an individual’s sense of belonging include identity and heritage. It is a part of humanity which makes us desire to want to belong to a social, religious or even racial group which ultimately forms the person we become. Renowned author Carlson McCullers reflects these ideas. “I think the idea of wanting to belong haunts every child. And not only children. I think it is the primary question. 'Who am I? What am I? And where do I belong?”It is of grave importance that we understand we are simply mere shadows of
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These connections ideally provide love, protection, security and the opportunity to discover our values, attitudes, and beliefs that help to define us from the time of our birth. In McCullers ‘The Member of the Wedding’, Frankie latches onto the idea that she will be someone of importance if she pursues a life with her older brother Jarvis and his wife to be Janice. The coming of the wedding gives her something to latch onto, and she becomes actively involved with the wedding, convincing herself of the false reality of “the future ahead when the three of them would be together in all the many distant places”. Ultimately Frankie has been unable to establish a persona until the coming of her brother’s wedding where she has latched onto the idea of being a part of it. Nevertheless, this sense of belonging to the bride and groom and the wedding itself, as strange and superficial as it may seem, makes her feel as if she suddenly has a purpose in life and allows her to understand who she is: “they are the we of me”. These examples clearly reveal that without connections, an individual is often incomplete, and stuck with the notion that they are isolated from the world entirely. Author Orson Scott has echoed these sentiments in saying, “Perhaps it's impossible to have a true identity without becoming what you pretend to be.” In addition, if an individual is incapable of connecting with others, they will lose our sense
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