Women Dont Want Me Ha Text Analysis

Gurman, A. S. (2008). Clinical handbook of couple therapy (4th ed.). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

The idea of women being the ‘nurturers’ and the men being the ‘providers’ has been around for ages. Both articles suggest that this idea no longer fits in with the modern ideas of marriage because marriage is now seen as an equally shared experience. The concept that the work in a marriage and raising children should be shared equally between partners has become an expectation. Each article points out expectations their partners have and how these assumptions lead to angry

Many studies have been taking and there has been evidence that gender role expectations within a marriage can affect couples. The first way is that these typical expectations can serve as goals or a structure that a couple can shape or guide their marriage towards being. The other way is that they can cause a “counterfactual” occurrence in which partners compare what has happened in their relationship to what could have happened. As time has gone on studies show that the majority of males believe that spouses should share the breadwinning, that men should take on a bigger share of housework and that a wife’s job does not interfere with her ability to be a mother. This provides for a modern shifting of gender roles within a marriage. The shift in gender roles that is most common is the sharing of power within a marriage.

These continuing opposing qualities in our relationship ultimately created an imbalance in our relationship that could never be made balanced again. Before I knew it, my husband had become the person of lesser interest in our relationship. The principle of lesser interest occurs when one partner in a relationship is more emotionally involved than the other and that the less involved partner can exploit the more involved partner in various ways. “A significant gap in emotional involvement could lead to a situation of one partner’s taking the other for granted, or an even more extreme situation of exploitation. When relationships of this type result in marriage, the results were expected to be unsatisfactory (Waller, 1938). This suggests that it might be better if romantic relationships with unequal emotional involvement dissolve before getting to the point of marriage” (see also Sprecher, Schmeeckle, Felmlee, 2006, p.1256). In my marriage, I always felt as if I had to walk on a tight rope and I’, sure that you can see why. At its worst I was made to feel as if I were a child that couldn’t do anything right. As I sit here and write this paper, I see so clearly just how it evolved to this. The assertiveness that I was so attracted to morphed into an arrogance that made him an unbearable, controlling egomaniac. It is so easy to see now how becoming the person of lesser interest would be the next logical step.

The assumption both articles shared the the individual expectation of spouses in the relationship. Edelman explains that “ loyalty and devotion are undoubtedly better traits to have in a spouse,” to support the idea that marriage should be between two parents working together side by side to fulfill their dreams. She went on further showing that her daughter needed a father who's there to support her and have comfort in her life, unlike her parents. Both articles addresses a modern aspect of life that marriage is changing over the years. In “ My

“In addition to the research showing the detriments of living together, several studies have discovered-with 80 percent to 94 percent accuracy-the variables that predict which marriages will thrive and which will not. This means unmarried couples can know in advance if they have a better-than-average chance of succeeding in marriage.” (pg.507). With an appeal to emotion, it is not a good idea to test a marriage as a result of making the relationship more worse and have more consequences that could lead to a divorce. Overall this essay, is an appeal to ignorance and a slippery slope. It constantly argues about the same topic with an additional lack of quality evidence to believe, since it is not specific to prove that the whole main argument would be

In the article “The Myth of Co-Parenting: How It Was Supposed to Be. How It Was.,” author Hope Edelman claims her husband does not put forth effort in their marriage. Edelman discusses the difficulties of parenting with a spouse who is seldom present and her misconception of marriage. In the article “My Problem With Her Anger,” author Eric Bartels claims his wife is angry with him all the time regardless of what he contributes to their family. Bartels discusses how the effort he puts forth in his marriage goes unappreciated and how he thinks his wife’s anger is negatively affecting their marriage. Bartels and Edelman both believe they entered marriage with unrealistic views resulting in dissatisfaction of marriage however, Edelman

In Barbara Ehrenreich’s essay on ‘’ Will women still need men’’, her essay talks about how men and women will be able to be going their own separate ways. The essay mostly argues that men need to still be a part of a woman’s life because without men, they can’t be quite successful as men. She most of all comes up with some possible scenarios in which can change in which one person can be independent from a normal marriage. Ehrenreich’s tells the reader that women might possibly be successful without men because of the divorce rate in the world alone. The main idea of this essay in my opinion is that women should still have a husband because life would not quite make sense if we had to switch to different forms of marriage.

Judy Brady's essay illustrates how women are viewed in the eyes of men and what men think wives purpose is and their duties and responsibilities are. She uses a sarcastic and humorous approach. Her purpose is to show how women are stereotyped by men that men more or less think women are their slaves and need to answer to their every need. The author uses repetition and concrete words. She uses repetition throughout her essay with the words I need a wife. She is writing a descriptive narrative essay as a second person point of view to grab the attention of her readers also to make a point to them illustrating how men think women are meant to fulfill and serve all their needs even sexually. The descriptive writing pattern is used well by the

Unsatisfied with their partners results in divorce rates and infidelity. These have increased over the years, blemishing the institution of marriage. People may believe that compromises and self sacrifice in a marriage make it a failed institute but the same reasons make a marriage successful. A married man has a constant in his life- his partner. The security and companionship in the relationship helps him achieve happiness. The same sharing is now a pleasure, a way to prevent loneliness (Argyle; 1999). Marriage is known to cause greater satisfaction, greater self esteem and less distress. Evidence shows that married men and women are happier.

Expectations of the role that women have in marriage have changed with the years. In the past, women were expected to stay at their homes and to take care of the cooking, cleaning and all the daily activities that need to be done at homes. Besides that, they needed to take care of the children while their husbands were at work. Now things have changed and women and men share almost the same responsibilities in their marriage, but there are still some cultures around the world where women’s roles in marriage has not changed at all. In “The Yellow Wallpaper” their marriage went down after she had their child because he could not help her in the depression that she was suffering. In Trifles, John Wright did not let her wife be happy by keeping

A PAPER SUBMITTED TO DR. JAMES D. GIBSON FULFILLMENT OF REQUIREMENTS FOR CO 5740 INTRODUCTION TO MARRIAGE AND FAMILY COUNSELING

After reading two articles it was interesting to note the differences and similarities between the two intellectual and highly respected individuals within the field of Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT). Each makes many valid points yet with such opposing viewpoints. By taking a closer look at some specific areas one may see that though these men have different beliefs on how treatment should be conducted, there are also some parallels. Some of the topics will include the history and future of Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT), what they agree and disagree on along with the challenges each has dealt with. Finally the author of this paper will provide insight as to what this means for her as she begins her journey to becoming a Marriage and Family therapist.

The husband goes to work at the company building, while his wife stays home to cook and clean. This may sound familiar, and it should because these are the common gender roles or stereotypes found in society. The roles of each partner can range from a well-defined division between responsibilities--such as working a job at the office and staying at home to take care of the children--or equal apportionment of all duties. These expectations of spouses correlate with other aspects of the men and women’s lives, including marriage. In certain situations, the partners’ matrimony is damaged as a direct result from the gender roles that command them. The bond between husband and wife is weakened when there is a change in gender roles, or when

Women are portrayed as needy, whiny, and downright annoying, a burdensome background noise that distracts one's attention from more important matters -like football games, for example. This particular trope is also harmful to men painting them as lazy, uncaring, and somewhat football obsessed slobs that would rather sleep in a garage for a week than help their wives do the laundry. While this trope is degrading to both genders in two opposite ways, it comes together to normalize unhealthy relationships, one where responsibilities are not shared, feelings are not validated nor heard out, and ignoring the needs of one's partner is commonplace. This goes hand in hand with the "marriage is the end of a man's freedom" trope. Which again, harms genders in two separate ways teaching girls to believe that they are nothing more than a heavy deadlock around the necks of the men they love, and teaching boys that cherishing the relationship they are in is not manly. People organize their knowledge about the world around them by sorting and simplifying information then creating representations of the reality displaying its most typical elements and properties. This is responsible for defining the essence of our worldview and has a significant influence on social