"Sex Without Love:"by Sharon Olds Essay

In this time period, there are many different disorders and illnesses that go unnoticed, and unknown. Society creates stereotypes about illnesses such as obsessive compulsive disorder, clinical Depression, and many other mental afflictions. Another that seems to remain controversial and misunderstood is sexual compulsive behaviors. Many see it as an excuse to act a certain way, or think a certain way; in reality it is a serious mental disorder that can cause devastating effects on the people that are consumed by them and the people who are around them. Something that is however, known about sexual compulsive behaviors is that there are certain things that can emotionally damage a person and cause them to have these behaviors. The three

An author’s poetry can be analyzed depending on the reader, how they read it, and the context the reader uses for the author’s choice of words. Sharon Olds is an American poet born in 1942; her first published book of poems was in 1980. Olds is an expressive writer that writes about the intimate topics of life, “Like Whitman, Sharon Olds celebrates the body and writes about it without shame” (Norton Anthology 856). Olds’s poems go beyond just intimacy, they explore the crevices of each subject and gives a new perspective of them. Olds is a confessional poetry writer which, means the author uses “I” in the poems.

Each day, over one-hundred and eighteen million babies are born worldwide. According to the biological sex binary male and female, every infant has the possibility of being born with sex chromosomes female (XX) and male (XY), which causes differences in their biological anatomies. There are also individuals with disorders of sex development or more commonly referred to as being intersex. Intersex is an umbrella term for people whose sexual or reproductive anatomies, sex hormones, or sex chromosomes just do not fall neatly into the definitions of male and female. Examples of this disorder could include ambiguous genitalia, androgen sensitivity, or abnormalities with how the rest of the body responds to sex hormones. The majority of cultures around the globe give merit to and recognize the differences in biological sex (male/female binary), what roles they have played in their traditions/histories, and their current position in framing politics or societal structures. Some Non-Western countries such as China, India, Taiwan, and Pakistan, include cultures that exhibit a strong sex-preference, or more specifically son-preference. More than simply preferring the births of sons to daughters, son preference develops from instances of gender inequality where outside parties often question basic human rights. Non-Western

Olds compares the lovers with ?great runners.? Great Runners,? meaning those who don?t just participate in the race, but who will exert that extra bit of energy to prove that they are the best. (Line #18) in this simile, she replies that lovers are alone with their own pleasures, and rather than agreeing with these acts Olds? questions this selfishness throughout the poem.

Lack of emotional intimacy in sex leads to suppression of feelings, and this can affect one’s ability to create an attachment, worst still, feelings of awkwardness crop. This is evident as Olds puts it in (line 7), “wet as children at birth whose mothers are going to give them away.” Mother giving away her child is a metaphor depicting dangers of unwanted pregnancies as a result of casual sex. The image of undesired childbirth illuminates negligence and irresponsibility since the lover 's intention was not bearing children. This unplanned procreation highlights the fallacies of sex without love.

Where in the first world would one expect the teen pregnancy rate to be the highest? Surprisingly, it is the United States that has the highest teen pregnancy rate of any first world country, more than double the rate of twenty other first world countries and almost ten times greater than that of Switzerland. While some of the disparity can be attributed to factors such as income inequality, the presence of abstinence only education has a major impact on birth and STD rates in the United States in comparison to other countries with more comprehensive programs. It is clear that this difference in approaches has a significant effect, and the United States needs to act to ensure the health of its citizens. Urgent actions are necessary

She effectively communicates the negative impacts of sexual relationships that are not based on love from a religious point of view. She cites the procreation of unwanted children as one of the negative aspects of such relationships. This paper seeks to analyze the rhetoric of the poem used to portray the attitude of the author. Olds uses imagery to help the reader

Sharon Olds is one of the most famous poets in out nation, including the Pulitzer Prize for her works. She is one of the most dominant and well known poets amongst the poet society. Olds’s was born on November 19 1942 in San Francisco, California , her father was an abusive drunk , while her mom was very submissive to her husband and was controlled by him. Olds’s is well known for her poems such as “The Unborn”, “The End”, “The Victims” and “Sex Without Love”. “Olds’s attended Stanford University and graduated, which then she moved to the east coast to get her Ph.D from Columbia University. Olds’s is extremely controversial from her political views and the fact she is so open about her childhood and growing up. Throughout Olds’s poem there is a very common theme that stick out to the reader in how personal she is to her readers, spiritual, emotional and straight bluntness.

Dr. Tatiana’s Sex Advice to All Creation, written by Olivia Judson, mimics a Dear Abby column in a newspaper, in which her audience, ranges from a honeybee to spotted hyena, write-in and ask for help with their sex lives. She covers a slew of different sex topics, some more pleasant than others, such as incest, cannibalism, promiscuousness, and asexual reproduction. The book is truly a witty yet entertaining excursion of the natural history and the evolutionary biology of sex. Judson’s objective is to teach her audience about biology, specifically sexual biology.

How do they do it, the ones who make love without love? Beautiful as dancers, Gliding over each other like ice-skaters inside each other’s bodies, faces red as steak, wine, wet as the children at birth, whose mothers are going to the give them away” (line 1-7). That’s the description that Sharon Olds gives of the two that are having intercourse, but without love. She gives many descriptions of a pair of people that are bonded together to show how close the two are and a great description of what it might look like in the bedroom. The speaker of this poem could be Olds, but it could also be someone who is watching someone creep on their spouse. The poem takes place in a hot steamy bedroom as two people are having intercourse, but they aren’t in love. While these two people are having sex someone is speaking their mind on the two who are having intercourse together because they are not married and nor are they in love. In “Sex without Love” Sharon Olds use of the situation and similes to build the theme of understanding why the two are in the wrong.

It is no surprise that Olds picked the star as her focal point of her poem. She has expressed that a large portion of her poems reflect the “painfully ambivalent” memories of her parents (Gale). Olds style is also built on the intimate details of her life concerning her children, and controversially, her sex life (Poetry Foundation). It is also hinted at that she has suffered sexual abuse. Though not identical, Old’s can connect with Monroe’s bringing up, which is why it is no surprise she has picked Monroe as her focal point. Olds had previously commented on her style saying, “My work is not hard to understand because I am not a thinker … I write the way I perceive” (Poetry Foundation). This simply means that she writes what she thinks and what she believes needs to be said. This style of writing is shown in “The Death of Marilyn Monroe” by proving how men sexualize women in

The poem is ultimately about modern day sex. The attitude of our society is one that can baffle someone who is much older; when times were different. Therefore we can say the speaker is someone of age, elderly perhaps. The speaker's goals and desires are to open the reader's eyes and get a feel about the act of sex and love. The tone that the author has throughout the poem is informative, the first line of the poem you can feel that she is having a difficult time adjusting to the idea of “sex without love”.

It exclaims that sex without love is basically trying to outdo and out prove oneself instead of being about connecting with one loved truly for who they are and for you they aren't. With that in mind, questions concerning the affair that Calixta had with M'sieur Alce might arise. Are they having sex because they really love each other or are they doing it to make up for the love? In all honesty either answer could be right or even a combination of both. Either way the poem was better at making readers consider what is happening in the act of loveless sex because of the comparison it make to things we do every

Everyday in America, more people become addicted to sex. According to the National Association of Sexual Addiction Problems, “1 out of 17 people are addicted to sex.” Many people become addicted to it and do not even know it. “Sexual addiction is a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual

Sometimes sex and love are thought to be one and the same. Probably because when you love somebody and there is a physical attraction (Chemistry) having sex or making love with them is part of the equation, in most cases. When there is real love there is also a spiritual connection between the partners and that is what makes it so special. Before, during, but especially after having sex, in a loving committed relationship there is what I would call a union not only of body but of mind and spirit that is truly unique. Real love and real lovemaking involves feelings of safety and trust.