The great Michael once uttered a good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. This is obviously not the case, however, there is always a question being raised on what is an ideal marriage. There is a small portion in source B states "She pities all the valuable part of her own sex, and calls every woman of a prudent, modest, retired life, a poor-spirited, unpolished creature." So this in turns says Joseph Addison in his comparison of Aurelia and Eulalia, Addison's own "Goofus and Gallant" of wifeliness. Essentially, where Julia enjoys nothing so much as the Opera and being seen in society and city living, Aurelia only visits the city to remember how much she hates it and prefers to find her happiness at home with her family. Addison has his own opinions about which one is preferable, and they are just as certainly nonsense. An "ideal" marriage is neither so specific as to demand country living over city life nor so possessive that it would claim that a woman who wants to see the outside world lacks love for her family.
Of course one doesn't need to be modern in order to recognize that Addison was clearly working through some personal issues with his essay at the moment. One can tell he
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Dickens does not accuse anyone of crying over missing an Opera premier more than over the death of a child, as Addison does (Source B), but rather seems to be joking about the ultimately petty mannerisms by which "good couples" were judged in public (Source D). Dickens advises us to not judge a book by it's cover but certainly doesn't go so far as to treat being seen in society as being neglectful of more sacred duties. Dickens' view is a lot easier to swallow with how we understand an ideal marriage today: being affectionate and good to one another in public is all well and good, but what others don't see is just as important, if not more
However, I believe the opposite. This play makes a statement about shallowness, the partnership of a married couple and what virtues are truly valuable.
The lack of sentimentality towards the institution of marriage is initially explored when Cher has a familial conversation with her father. A close up of Cher’s complaining facial expression while saying “you were hardly even married to her” is definitely indicative of how there is a discernible lack of sentimentality towards marriage in this day and age. Divorce is accepted and so too are multiple marriages that might have short durations. This relaxed attitude towards romantic relationships is emphasised when Cher mentions how “showing a little skin… makes them (guys) think of sex”. Her voiceover simply represents how the modern attitude towards marriage connects with the pressure women faced in Emma to marry. Within the “car scene”, a close up of Elton repeatedly attempting to kiss Cher displays how in effect society believes that relationships are based on shallow sentiment and lustful feelings. This is consistent with how Emma exclaims to Harriet that “she will be confined to the society of the illiterate” if she agrees to the proposal because of love. However, the fact that Cher indirectly mentions how lust is an integral part of relationships mean that morals, not social class or education, determine the direction of relationships. Hence, an appropriation provides similar insights into unchanged behaviours over a long period of
Today marriage is seen as an expression of deep love and respect for another person. In Austen’s time, a ‘good’ marriage was seen to be one where wealth and social status of the man and woman were socially suitable. There was very
In Pride and Prejudice Author Jane Austen claims that marriage should be between a man and women who love each other equally. Austen's disgust of Marriage and decorum in British culture is written through the eyes of main the main character in Pride and Prejudice, Miss Elizabeth Bennett. It is sad to think that marriage could be bought or in Elizabeth Bennett’s case not afforded. Marriage shouldn’t be the only measure of worth for women. Someone should not feel “repugnance” for a marriage due to situation.
Not only does the narrator envy the amount of care his wife shows Robert, he also seems to envy, and is slightly annoyed by, how much she talks about Robert: “How do I know these things? She told me” (20). He even says that she writes poems about an experience she had with Robert, one in which she allowed him to touch her face. The narrator seems to be jealous of the fact that his wife goes on and on about this blind man while he just sits back and
A tone of superficiality I carried out throughout the passage as the diarist reveals his priorities as well as the issues his society deems of importance. Addison cultivates a tone in which society is represented as lackluster and apathetic. Mr. Nisby accurately represents the working class society. He used as a contrast of the society the diarist come from which is ignorant and views issues such as the death of the Grand Vizier as another daily event which holds no meaning for it doesn’t affect him directly. An example of society’s disregard to the outside world is directed when a stranger asks the diarist for the stock prices. This shows how no one cares about the Grand Vizier but only of the stock prices, as the stock prices affect their flow of money which allows them to live this lackluster lifestyle they find comfort in. This goes to show how the diarist employs a sense that the bystander society is selfish. Addison’s passage portrays society as ignorant and consumed in their daily affairs with no care about anyone or anything unless it concern them.
The two passages written by Jane Austen and Charles Dickens, spoken by two different men who are asking for a lady’s hand in marriage, have two very different motives for marriage. As the audience keeps reading and analyzing the passage rhetorical strategies the speaker’s intent becomes clear. The two men reasons for marriage are entirely different, as are there attitudes toward the objective at hand. In the paragraph written by Jane Austen, the speaker gives the woman three reasons to why he would like to marry. Firstly, he believes it will make happy to be married, secondly it’s a good example of matrimony, lastly his patroness Catharine DeBourgh advised him to get married as soon as possible. These reasons show the reader the speaker only
The marriage of Mr. Elton and Miss Augusta Hawkins is a very common situation. “... Mrs. Elton is a vain woman… but with manners which had been formed in a bad school…” (272) Mrs. Elton, whether Emma approves of her manners or not, was bred to be a wife, not an independent woman as many Victorian women were. Mrs. Elton seemed to influence her husband’s personality even though women were not meant to influence their husbands at all. The way that Mrs. Elton carries herself was very common, but Austen uses relationships between husband and wife to show that women had more power than originally thought by society. Harriet and Robert Martin’s marriage explicitly show the contradiction of Victorian Society. Emma and Mr. Knightley argued about the engagement of Harriet and Robert due to the difference in social class, with Emma on the “moral” side and not supporting the marriage. Soon after learning of their engagement, Emma changed her views. “‘I am perfectly satisfied,’ replied Emma, with the brightest smiles, ‘and most sincerely wish them happy.’”(446) Victorian England would not approve of Harriet and Robert’s marriage because Harriet is of a higher class. Emma is in strong favor of this view at the beginning of the book, “‘The yeomanry are precisely the order of people with whom I feel I can have nothing to do...but a farmer can be none the help…’” (29) Over the course of the book, Emma realizes that love matters more that what society thinks, and that your happiness contributes more to life than being correct in society’s eyes. Being a woman who will not get married unless it was for love, Emma learned that she really should view her friend’s well being as something that should be good and right, not so much what Emma wants. Her views relate directly into her own
Examine Austen’s presentation of what is called in the novel, ‘women’s usual occupations of eye, and hand, and mind’. In Jane Austen’s society, the role of women was controlled by what was expected of them. In most cases, marriage was not for love, and was considered as a business arrangement, in which both partners could gain status and financial reassurance. Though Austen opposed the idea of none affectionate marriage, many
The idea of marriage that is presented in the play differs from what we see marriage as
Addison throughout the diary gives the reader a strong sense of his satire tone to influence a level hatred towards the aristocracy social class. This is expressed by Addison specifically
The romantic era in literature was characterized by many different authors, male and female. Jane Austen was only one of many authors in that era, and one of the longest lasting; through her many novels, she shows various views on love and marriage. In Jane Austen’s critically acclaimed novel, Pride and Prejudice, Austen spares no character, male or female, in her criticism of the understood custom that the only route to happiness was marriage.
In Bradstreet´s "To My Dear and Loving Husband” marriage and love are presented as dazzling and foolproof. Problems make relationships substantial and the lack of them would seem too quixotic, making it very stereotyped and dull for my taste. This poem is a rainbow put into words, it illustrates an ideal relationship that could be considered mythical. Anne Bradstreet seems to image a matrimony, she aspired to possess. ”If ever two were one, then surely we / If ever man were loved by wife, then thee;”(1-2) these lines give you the impression that she has an exaggerate self opinion towards her love life, which she set side by side to other relationships, to make evident that hers was more valuable than any other. Next she writes ”If ever wife was happy in a man, /Compare with me ye women if you can.”(3-4)She continues the anaphora by insisting that nobody can compare with her, in
Oscar Wilde’s, The Importance of Being Earnest, explores marriage and the way in which the upper class viewed it as a business. Through his characters Wilde also explores the theme of greed that runs in the upper class and Wilde exposes the pettiness that was typical of the upper class. He explores these themes and ideas by using humour and wit. Throughout these passages Wilde’s characters portray marriage as a business.
Jane Austen’s well-known novel, Pride and Prejudice, discussed multiple social themes in the 19th century. Austen mainly criticized marriage during her era, when she says that, “it is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife” (Austen 3). As she explains that it was valuable to women since it provided them with security and a social title. The author explored the diverse motives behind matrimony in her time period by using a humorous and romantic plot to discuss the social issues. For instance, Charlotte Lucas’s unreasonable marriage to Mr. Collins is a vital example of how women needed to secure a future and attain social status. To conclude, Lydia Bennet’s meaningless marriage to George Wickham shows that entering the marriage estate could have also been for mainly financial purposes. Contrastingly, Jane Bennet, the heroine’s older sister, marries Charles Bingley for love, security, and a social ranking. On the other hand, Elizabeth Bennet marries Fitzwilliam Darcy after months of misunderstandings and romantic drama for none other than true love. Thus, Austen uses her leading characters’ marriages in Pride and Prejudice to exhibit the various attitudes and reasons for marrying in the 19th century. (Lane 2015)