Constructive Responses: Personal Narrative Analysis

From my scores on the Interpersonal Communicator Competency Scale I scored an upper score of 12 out of 15 points, which equates to a score of 80% effectiveness (Comm1500 Workbook, 2017). I got this score because in some situations I am driven towards the goals I want to accomplish in conversations, yet at the same time I can stray away from the goal that I want to get across. This is because I get distracted within the conversation and go off on other topics, which guides the conversation away from my goals. From my interview with my mother Thippy Cho, she states that I am, “generally goal driven in my conversations”, but at times I, “can get distracted by something else on your [my] mind” (personal communication, August 31, 2017). Setting goals in conversations is important and is an important factor to consider within interpersonal communication to get ideas across.

In every aspect of our daily lives, we need interpersonal skills to communicate and interact with others efficiently. Individuals with excellent interpersonal skills often collaborate well in teams or groups and with other individuals more generally. When interacting with others, interpersonal skills come naturally, yet in some situations, it can also be challenging to communicate with others. According to **** “Through awareness of how you interact with others, and with practice, you can improve your interpersonal skills” (p. ). Therefore, it is vital that individuals occasionally evaluate their communication skills to ensure that they are communicating in writing or speaking effectively. On the Internet, there are multiple communication self-assessment tools to help individuals discover their communication skills strengths and weaknesses, and overall, determine if they are communicating effectively. Describe the assessment you used to analyze your skills.

I personally, have to first accept that I too am not perfect; my past and current methods of communication and listening skills have not worked, and I need to be more open in order to welcome change. One important step that can be made involves common courtesy; do not speak when someone else is speaking! This is something that was taught during early stages of development, yet it is often ignored during adulthood because of a false sense of entitlement that ones’ opinions are more important, and that is not true. As Petersen (2007) has stated throughout his book, there is often a sense of urgency or a need to solve problems or interject solution even when it is not required or asked. The idea that another person may only be seeking a listening ear is bypassed completely. Moving forward, I think it is essential that I create my own TLC (talker-listener card) that I can take with me and use as a stepping stone to changing my flawed listening and communication skills. Because I am a visual learner, this will work perfectly in helping me stay focus on my role in the conversation. Whenever I feel the need to interject my opinions, I can look down at the card and acknowledge if it is my turn to speak and even if it is remember what my duties are; if the problem was not mines to begin with then my job is not to solve it but rather be an effective listener in order to help the other person develop their own

I felt that since I decided to make that goal and work on it I think it has been beneficial. Sometimes I thought that my goal was very high because of my past attitude and the way it used to be, I thought it would be hard to work on because I was used to speaking to people the way I wanted to, and not caring to much about there feelings. But, since working on the goal it was a lot easier than what I thought because I was expressing myself and actually being heard instead of the opposite{having to scream or rant so I would be heard.}. I think that if I continue to have patience and hear people out that I could achieve this goal in all aspects of my life, I don’t think that my goal will take long to attain, but it is hard so I take it a step at a time and try to remember to listen first and then speak once everything has been said I could then gather my thoughts and then respond and give my input.i think the benefits of attaining my goal is 1. People would want to be around me more, they would want to hear what I have to say and they would also be proud of the changes that ive made. I would most of all be proud of myself for changing because now I could possibly get a job by listening more instead of interrupting people or being rude.

I enjoyed reading your responses I thought they were detailed and explained the topics in a way that could be understood. I agree with your statements in question3 about Clarence being a natural communicator that needs to improve in understanding nonverbal cues. I also agree that Alberto was hard to label as a listener and that the conversation between the two didn’t show any diversity

I moved to the United States with my mom and younger brother when I was 10. My dad was already living in New York at the time so we moved to stay together, leaving everything behind. My most prized possession was a bag of marbles I gave to my friend; I thought I could get it back when I returned.

On May 6th of 1997 I was born in St. Johns hospital in St. Louis, Missouri. My family and I lived in a small town in the suburbs of St. Louis. I lived with my mom dad, and older brother Tyler. I attended a catholic school from pre-kindergarten until fourth grade. The summer before I started fifth grade my family decided it was time to move. We moved about thirty minutes away from our previous house to a little town in Illinois called Bethalto.

To me, failure is when I do not meet my own expectations. Over the summer, I thought that I would get the opportunity to compete level 9 gymnastics this competition season. I knew what skills I needed to make this team and had set clear expectations of what I needed to do to achieve this goal. I fell short and didn’t make the team. For a long period of time, I was crushed.

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You will experience a time in your life where you feel nothing and everything, all at the same time. On that day, you may find yourself just taking a pause, remaining wherever you are and not moving. You will have the desire to process things but you won’t know how. Your thoughts will race and for the remainder of that day, you will go through the motions, just as I did.

I have a different adventure with communication than anyone else I know. I was not gifted with the wonderful ability to be able to speak. The connection from my brain that told my tongue what to do when I wanted to speak did not function correctly. This made my childhood and middle ages very frustrating. I was told I would never benchmark in third grade and that I should start learning sign language because I would never learn how to speak correctly. Thankfully, my mom turned down that idea and kept me in all of my speech therapy classes. People wonder how I made it this far and I’m about to tell the reader exactly how I was able to communicate with very minimal speech.

Back in 8th grade like a lot of teens I became really distant from school and my work ethic became something atrocious. I felt this way about school because the mind set I was in had me thinking that most of school was useless and how was this going to help me. My friends were an extremely big part of my life so I would often put them first. My attitude was bad towards my parents and that stopped after 8th grade year but the bad habits continued. This was until last year when I finally realized that in the real world you can’t just ignore what you have to do. My parents had shown and told me what was going to happen and I really didn’t want to go down that road. I feel like the two people who impacted my life so much were my parents even when my dad was deployed and my mom trying to hold a job through a bad series of events. I knew that I didn’t want to feel the pain that my dad feels having to work in the military which he has slowly started to dislike. I also

The writing prompt ask me to explain how I plan to develop my interpersonal communication skills, and I’m not yet 100% sure myself how I am going to develop that . I suppose the best answer I could give is that this is probably one of those things where practice makes perfect scenarios and I’m just going to have to consciously put myself in situation where I'm forced to communicate so that I can better myself.

One of my favorite quote by the greatest success motivational planner, Paul J. Meyer is “communication- the human connection- is the key to personal and career success.” As Meyer stated, it is indeed crucial to have communication in order to gain success. Communication is an important part of human life. No matter what we are doing, we are constantly communicating, conversing and exchanging ideas. So far in my life I have overcome social anxiety, and communicating has been the weapon I used to break my fear. So when it comes to communication, I take it very seriously that I communicate effectively with people around me. I have two communication strategies I use to communicate effectively with professors and friends/peers. These two strategies are, the first being direct and to the point and the second is always having the reminder that the world doesn’t revolve around me. Strategies I would like to begin using such as encouraging feedback and plans that help build my communicative toolbox.

Journaling my interactions and conversations with others the past few weeks has helped me to learn more about myself and how I communicate. One of the things rereading my journal entries showed me was patterns in the way I communicate with specific individuals. I also became more aware of my strengths and weaknesses in regards to how I engage with others. My approach to interacting with others, and who I speak with in general, has also begun to change since starting the journals and rereading them. After evaluating my interactions in my journals, I’ve come up with a few ideas on how to improve my communication skills and situations in which they may be helpful. Reflecting on my journal entries has helped me to learn about myself (as a communicator and a person) as well as develop ideas to improve myself and how I communicate.