preview

Eulogy For A Father

Decent Essays

Today you turn 21 years old. What an amazing day. I am so proud of you. The day you were born, created a love I have never felt before in my heart. As far back as I could remember I always wanted a child, one of my own that I could nurture, comfort, and teach. Every step you took, word you spoke was the greatest thing in my life. As you well know that my father and I were not very close until later in life after I returned from my last deployment. This was very hard for me and I swore I would never be that way with you. It was very difficult having to leave you to serve in Iraq. Wade & Tavris, (2017) stated that “Development depends on the genetic hand you are dealt at birth, the resources and opportunities your parents provide for you” (p. 459). I missed four years of your life; this I …show more content…

The Father should be the moral compass that leads the child in the proper direction, counseling you on what is morally correct. According to Wade & Tavris, (2017) “Good parenting, however, can help to override a genetic vulnerability”. A good parent is one that teaches you the way to do something versus demoralizing or treating you poorly. I admit that I struggled with this, separating my personal problems from my parenting. There is a theory of power assertion that is when a parent applies authority and punishment to thwart a certain behavior, many times I used it in a way that back fired, and the situations spiraled out of control (Wade & Tavris, 2017). It took me many years to get to where I understood this. I learned as you got older that the harsh and aggressive way I was raised had infiltrated into my parenting style, Wade & Tavris, (2017) talk about how you could carry this over to your parenting, and to be honest I do not want that for you or your

Get Access