Should Men Get Divorced Parents

     In the United States today more than one-half of all marriages end in divorce. The purpose of this paper is to examine the reason why women have typically received custody of the children far more often than the fathers. In order to better understand child custody one must first examine how fathers have often times been left out of the picture, and conversely why mothers have had such hard times raising children on their own. This paper will first examine the perspective of a father who has lost custody of his children.

It is during this time a father needs to be present to father, shape and mold his children (Jones, Kramer, Kim A., Teresa L., Armitage, Tracey, Williams, Keith, as cited in Wallerstein, 1980, 1987). On their 10 year follow up, Wallerstein and Kelley found that regardless of the time spent with a father or not, the father continued to be a significant presence psychologically to adolescents, particularly to boys (Jones et al., as cited in Wallerstein, Kelley, 1974). On Kelley and Wallerstein’s 25 year follow up of their now adult participants in their longitudinal study, they have found that the effects of fatherlessness and divorce during their adolescents were long lasting. The participants in the study by Wallerstein et al. (2000) noted that “The impact of divorce hits them most cruelly as they go in search of love, sexual intimacy, and commitment” (p. 299). These same participants also stated in an interview that they had anxiety issues about relationships and intimacy problems into adulthood (Jones et al., as cited in Wallerstein et al., 2000). Wallerstein et al. (2000) participants of the research also stated that they had resentment towards their parents, particularly the fathers who were seen “selfish and faithless” (p. 300).

Although single parenthood is on the rise in homes today, children still often have a father role in their life. It does not matter who the part is filled by: a father, uncle, older brother, grandfather, etc...; in almost all cases, those relationships between the father (figure) and child have lasting impacts on the youth the rest of their lives. In “I Wanted to Share My Father’s World,” Jimmy Carter tells the audience no matter the situation with a father, hold onto every moment.

The estranged relationships between father and son tend to start from lack of communication. Fathers express their love through actions rather than words. When conflicts occur, they are unlikely to explain themselves, which leads to greater complications. In addition, fathers are often absent in the child’s youth for reasons such as work. However, absent fathers can have great influence on the child.

The data was collected in the Netherlands. “...highly educated divorced fathers were better able to maintain high-quality relationships with their children than divorced fathers who had a lower level of education” (Kalmijn, 932) meaning the upper-middle class fathers have a better chance of a relationship with their child than the lower-class. The Netherlands divorce rate is similar to other Western European countries but lower than in the United States. In 1998, arrangements for after divorce agreements changed in the Netherlands, and ensured in more frequent visits of children to divorced fathers. Gender roles in the Netherlands are becoming more considerably democratic in the past few decades and is now more equitable than the European average. However most of the respondents that were analyzed, experienced their parents divorce before these changes occurred.

Second of all, a father should be a part of his children’s lives because mothers cannot teach their child everything that a child needs to know about life and growing up. Some things a father must install in a child, and the best way to teach a child the correct

Since the time of Adam and Eve, parents have played a major role in upbringing children and reproducing more generations. In most societies, the father has been the backbone of the family and played a major role in providing support and stability to the family. Yet, the role of the father differs from a family to another. While some fathers focus only on feeding and educating their children, others focus on every aspect of their children’s lives. The father’s leadership often drives the children to have a close relationship with the father. Sons often see the father as their role model and build a father-son relationship. Yet, the father-son relationship can be either weak or strong depends on the father’s concept of parenthood. The

If there is to be a comparison of relationships between father and child, then the fathers of the speakers from Clinton and Roethke’s poems, respectively, must be weighed on the same scale. Defining the duty of a patriarchal figure presents a starting point to effectively determine the positive or negative effects either “father” may ensue. A father provides for his family. The duty should come before all else in his life. A father should go to work and come home every night. He (father) should also spend as much time as possible with his child(ren). “You gave her all you had” (Clinton line 14) Clinton supports the notion that being a parent means keeping nothing themselves so long as the children are in need. Any money or utilities should be used to improve the living conditions of the family and the chances of the prosperity of the offspring.

Throughout the United States, more than one-third of children don't live with their biological fathers, and about 17 million of those children don't live with any father at all. Of those, roughly 40 percent haven't seen their fathers in the last year. The over 500 Father's Rights organizations are trying in a variety of ways to change these statistics because they believe that fathers are necessary to the intellectual, psychological and emotional well- being of all children. "Family values" groups encourage long lasting stable, marriages and tough divorce laws to increase the number of two- parent households. Some organizations focus on reasonable child support and visitation, as well as creative joint custody arrangements to

The father’s role in a family has always been one of strengths and stability for the family. In pass history the father were there to be the disciplinary force for the children and to instill moral values for the kids to live by, but yet this has not been the case for some. With the absence of the father, sons and daughters have been looking for leadership elsewhere and sometimes that leadership will get them incarcerated. (A study was done by the U.S Government called,” What Can the Federal Government Do To Decrease Crime and Revitalize Communities”, where it found that 70% of juveniles come from fatherless homes. Just think on that for a minute, 70% of the juveniles could’ve never been there if a father had been in their life. Instead they could have been going to school and graduating, to go on in life with a bright future ahead of them.

Among them, there is a commonly found distinct connection. Additionally, people in today’s society are looking to achieve a great father-daughter relationship. In the article “Daughters Need Fathers, Too” by Marie Hartwell-Walker, the author explains the effect that relationships between fathers and their daughters have, especially good ones. The article says, “At each stage of her development, she is watching and learning from the women--and men--around her to figure out how to be successful as a woman…” Fathers have an incredible impression on daughters, as they give them expectations and standards for other men.

Divorced parents should pay for their child’s college fund. Some divorced parents don’t end up help paying for their kid’s college. When parents get divorced it has a major effect on their kid’s. After divorce one of the parents might not want to end up helping the other parent pay for their child’s college fund for their child to study what they want to become. Sometimes parents don’t even want to pay for the college and leave it on their kid’s. I believed that if parents get divorced, paying for their child’s college fund is showing they’re child that they’re sorry for getting divorced and not being together as a family. I also think if divorced parents pay for their child’s college fund is letting their child know that they support everything

However, not all fatherless woman partake in the wrong doings that Prager mentions in his article. While it is hard for people who grow up missing a parent, there are still ways for them to learn to love, honor, and comfort others. Thus, it is import for other adults in children’s lives to edify them on honoring and loving others and

Fathers are the parent who care about who their daughter dates the most. He thinks that he is the role model on how someone should treat his daughter (Johnson). The way man treats his wife, will determine how his daughter feels that she should be treated by men (A Father’s Influence). A present father will leave positive effects for his daughter. She will always look to him to see how a man show act (Johnson). While relationships are a big standard for a father, education is an even bigger one.

Your example of a fine example of how some social-economical classes function in a society and how destructive shame and fear effects otherwise good parents. This is also a good example how stigma influences the decisions are taken by others and in this case, the parents. Not knowing any more of the family the publicizing of any treatment relates to possible diagnoses. Which could possible impact the changes of upwards social mobility of this family. So while trying to ignore any seriousness of client situation the, divorced parents, might well do this because of some, misguided, idea of protecting the financial well-being, of the parents