The first section of reading assigned for this reflection was from Difficult Conversations by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen. The first chapter discussed blame and how to avoid it in difficult, or any, conversations. The authors made it very clear that one must be able to differentiate between blame and contribution. The main difference between the two is that blame is judging the other person and their actions and contribution in understanding the impact both parties had on the situation (Stone, Patton, Heen 2010). In a difficult conversation, both people involved have contributed, big or small, to the issue. Identifying your own role can be difficult because that means self-evaluation and accepting responsibility must occur. If the contribution conversation is not had, blame is the first place most go to. This can be very detrimental to a conversation because it does not allow the problem to be solved. One party will become defensive if they feel blamed and they will shut down. The outcome of one party shutting down …show more content…
Feelings about a situation can have a large impact on difficult conversations because they can make one less likely to listen effectively. Also, something I never considered, they can influence self-esteem. With a damaged self-esteem, other people cannot learn from their mistakes and the relationship is damaged (Stone, Patton, Heen 2010). I find myself needed to learn from this chapter especially. I tend to hide my feelings to avoid conflict. Yes, this has reduced my number of difficult conversations, but it has not increased my happiness. I can even see how it ruined a past relationship. The relationship needed to end, but I never voiced my hurt or annoyance from the actions of my significant other. This, ultimately, contributed to the end of that relationship because I was not happy, and I was not making sure my feelings were
Effective reflection helps the practitioner to see the situation from an outsider's perspective, so that they can develop a better way to respond to a similar scenario in the future. Reflection is meant to achieve a change in practice, rather than simply repeating the same mistakes (Schon, 1983). Many different models exist for structuring the reflective process. Regardless of the framework used, the reflection models are meant to accomplish three things. They are supposed to promote reflecting on events, self-evaluation and analysis, and a plan to change actions in the future. This Reflective essay will utilize Driscoll's 'The What?' model as its structure (Driscoll, 1994). This model has three components"
In this chapter of Undaunted Courage, Stephen Ambrose tells the events and achievements made by Thomas Jefferson in 1801. Ambrose’s purpose for writing this text is to inform and persuade the readers. He uses several opinions to persuade readers to think highly of Thomas Jefferson and a lot of facts to inform about his achievements.
In this chapter, Roach thinks of Hugh Patterson, as she also thinks about how Patterson will continue to teach even when dead. Roach supports this idea and wants to be presented for educational purposes once she passes away. She wants to become an educational skeleton and donate her body to be aesthetically pleasing. She calls the University of New Mexico Maxwell Museum of Anthropology, which is a place that accepts donated bodies for educational skeletons. She then is given a choice of watching a "cut down" or a "pour off." A cut down cuts away the flesh and a pour off dissolves flesh by boiling it. Since Roach doesn’t want to live in New Mexico the rest of her life, and because of other reasons, she declines both of these choices and the
We’ve all created many memories with our fellow brothers over the years, and Lee O’Connor ’76 recently shared a few of his favorite ones from his days at Rockledge. Although his initiation to the chapter was certainly not standard, he was welcomed with open arms and quickly bonded with the brothers. “One of the special parts of living at Rockledge was moving into a house with 30 new people, all with very different backgrounds, getting to know them, and building lifelong bonds and memories,” he said. Lee (known to the brothers as Sarge) said that he received a bid to join the Iota chapter when he was a freshman, even though he didn’t really attend any rush events. He never responded to his bid that year, but decided to show up the next fall. “I just
In this Chapter O’Brien explains how fear and having guts intertwine and in many cases there’s really no difference. I think the soldiers feel the need to shake the dead man's hand to make death not seem quite as "real." By turning death into something darkly comic, they don't have to face their own mortality. In this Chapter O’Brien explains how fear and having guts intertwine and in many cases there’s really no difference.
The book “Among the Hidden” is a great book about a kid name Luke who is a third child who is not allowed to be seen, so his parents hide him in the attic. The police and the people so they don’t kill Luke. So, they hide him in the attic for his own safety. Then Luke thinks his neighbor The Sports family have a third child Jen. In the book “Among the Hidden” Luke changes a lot from the beginning of the book to the end.
Writing a book about police innovation for various problems, Skolnick and Bayley writes talks about HPD in chapter four. The chapter first introduced to the reader that HPD had a scandalous reputation. After misdeeds after misdeeds, HPD introduced two innovations to solve its problems with the community. From there Skolnick and Bayley detailed HPD’s DART (Directed Area Responsibility Team) program and DART storefronts (community police stations). However, at the end of the chapter, they seemed skeptical when it came to whether or not positive change occurred due to the two initiatives.
Tell It Slant second edition “Creating, Refining, and publishing Creative Nonfiction,”by Brenda Miller and Suzanne Paola is a great guide that has many helpful tips to help students to enhance their writing. Each chapter introduces students to new writing stargazes and techniques along with corresponding examples of literature. By giving examples the students are able to have a better understanding of the different styles used. Furthermore, after carefully reviewing the chapters I strongly believe that it would be highly beneficial to the students if the following pieces of literature would be included.
They point out that assumptions are based on our own feelings. For example, if we feel hurt, then the other person must have meant to hurt us. Furthermore, we should acknowledge the hurt feelings of the other, even if this was not our intent. The final component of the “what happened” conversation is the problem with the assignment of blame, which inhibits the ability to learn about the cause of the problem or to collaborate to fix it. The authors remind us that “…blame is about judging and contribution is about understanding (p. 59).” Attention should be focused on examining each person’s contribution to the problem with a goal of understanding cause and avoiding future problems. An effective “what happened” conversation illuminates the fact that the situation is more complex than either party’s original perception. Next, the authors discuss the importance of having a “feelings” conversation. Although emotions frequently drive difficult conversations, people often ignore them. However, unaddressed feelings generally re-emerge to impair understanding, hinder listening, and damage relationships. Although feelings do not always make sense, they still exist and require acceptance, so that both parties can feel understood. The third conversation is one that we have with ourselves about what this situation means about our personal identity. We may question our competence, goodness, or
In chapter 8 of the McCloud reading, the book discusses the issues that Muslim immigrants deal with when they move to the western world. The first problem they state is the assimilation and how to integrate their cultural traditions in the western society. Since Muslims are a minority in the western society, we see Muslims are unable to embrace their full culture. Also, there are people who do not accept the different traditions of minorities. Unfortunately, these issues can lead to discrimination and abuse which is also known as Islamophobia. Muslims are treated as second-class citizens in the western society which causes daily challenges to Muslim individuals.
Do you think friendship and teamwork are related? Is Konigsburg implying that teams work more superior if better off working with friends? In this book, The View from Saturday, written by an amazing author E.L. Konigsburg, is about four kids, Etha Nadia, Noah, and lastly, Julian, or as they refer to themselves, "The Souls" describe their trips to who knows elsewhere and experiences. During their adventures, the four individuals learn new things, facing troubles and hardships, and developing strong relations towards each other. As the story goes on with the plot, The Souls go to the academic pentathlon and win! But was the reason on why they won because of them working together or gaining new knowledge they had learned?
In this essay I am going to reflect on my experience working as part of a team and the preparation on an oral presentation I had to do in class with people from different courses, as part of the Foundations for Practice in Health and Social Care module. Reflection is educational and is used as a means of self-knowledge and to develop using a process of feeling and learning by thinking about what happened and what could have been done differently. (Rolfe, 2011, p.8-12) I will be using the Gibbs (1988) Reflective Cycle to do this. In this model there are 6 different stages to look at to help structure reflection, the description of the event, your feelings, evaluation, analysis, conclusion and an action plan. There is more than one model
These are questions that a mentee may voice and a clear marker for the mentor to be alert to for critical reflection analysing their beliefs about blame in relation to the circumstances, which trigger “disorienting dilemmas” (Mezirow and Taylor, 2009). These conundrums consequently deepen critical self-criticism. They are important opportunities for the mentor to initiate reflective discourse with the mentee, so as to transform and expand understandings of their needs, goals and interests and those of others.
In “Chapter Nine”, Linda Sue Park continues discussing Tree-ear’s feelings toward Min’s rejection to teach him to make pottery. Tree-ear is bemused at the fact that Min will not teach him, merely because he was supposed to teach his son. Consequently, his son died, leaving Min with no male offspring to teach. Therefore, filled with anger, Tree-ear concludes that the loss of Min’s son is not his fault. Nevertheless, Crane-man greets Tree-ear at the bridge to give him his new sandals for the journey. There, Tree-ear inquires about the potter to son tradition to find out why Min will not teach him how to make pottery.
We were all born with talents as well as areas we want to grow in. Popeye was a sailor who used spinach to gain strength and fight off any challenges. He always kept spinach nearby or he at least knew where to find it because he knew it would give him strength. Superman is branded as one of the strongest super heroes until he is exposed to kryptonite, a fictitious mineral from his home planet. He knew it was a weakness and did everything in his power to avoid letting it get the best of him.