In REBT, one of the basic concepts is that people are born with an ability to be rational (self-constructive) as well as irrational (self-defeating). In first getting to know Martha, it is clear that she is very irrational in her thought pattern. She tends to try to be a perfectionist, and thinks she has to do everything a certain way or she will not be loved. She also was having trouble realizing her potential for growth in her writing, as she was afraid that she would not be any good, which is connected to her perfectionist attitude. In Martha 's case, much of her irrational thinking and her habits were made worse by her family group and the culture in which she grew up. Her parents brought her up in Church and she was made to feel guilty about what she did or how she acted. She felt that the standards in which she was supposed to maintain were never actually achievable, and she constantly felt guilty regarding her inability to live up to those standards. The A-B-Cs of REBT states that an activating event (A) is not the cause of an emotional consequence (C), but rather the individuals beliefs (B) concerning their actions causes the consequences. In the case of Martha, it is not her parent 's demands (the adversity she faces) which causes her to feel guilty about her not wanting to be there for her parents (her consequence), but it is her belief that she is supposed to be there for her parents because of the values she was taught in Church which actually causes her to
People face difficult and life altering challenges every day. Some of the bad times are more complex and affect more people than other types can. A challenge can start out as a family trying to help the less fortunate, but then take a turn for the worse. Even if it wasn't a specific person’s fault, he or she still feels guilty. In The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver, the author uses symbolism and allusions to prove the theme everyone has and deals with guilt differently.
Annie Murphy Paul started her Ted talk by asking everyone the question “When does learning begin?” While most people would answer preschool or kindergarten, where the child is under the guidance of a teacher, others may say anywhere from 0-3 years of age. This is primarily when children learn how to walk and talk. However, she explains that the fields of both psychology and biology have proved that fetuses start learning while they’re in the womb. Annie explains within her book Origins that the health and wellness of a child are effected during the 9 months of gestation.
inconsistency in her beliefs. Majorly, nearing the end of her life, she begins to regret all her deeds of which
Secondly, self-sufficiency is illustrated through motivation. One afternoon when Jeannette was at home by herself child services came to talk to her about her living conditions and her parents. Jeannette told the man to come back when her parents were home. When Jeannette’s mom came home she told her what happened and that she needed to do something so child services wouldn't take them away, Jeannette’s mom then said, “Jeannette, you're so focused it's scary.”(195) Rosemary says when Jeannette is focused she can get intimidating. Jeannette is motivated by the need to protect her family, which shows her self sufficiency because it's up to her to keep the family together, because she knows her parents are unreliable. Additionally, Rosemary has been known to feel sorry for herself and expresses how she hates her life. When Jeannette sees her mom wallowing she stands there in disgust watching her mother give up on life when she
Gen (1) revealed the creation of the world and everything in it such as light, waters, earth, sky, animal, plants, which also created the work week. Each day of the week was a gift given to us along with a day to rest and restore. Then humans were created in the image of God
She is a person that took every day as it came to her and did what was necessary in order for her to survive. There was no shame in her trying to obtain happiness by keeping her cousin as a lover, nor killing an unborn child to keep herself from being punished. She is attempting to open the eyes of a naive priest who sees nothing but what he has learned from books.
Puritans believed that in order to be a true Puritan, God must show mercy on your soul. Therefore, by stating that He had done so, takes the credibility away from the Indians and gives full possession to God. Affliction must be caused in order for a Puritan to receive mercy from the Lord. Mrs. Rowlandson tells of how she once was jealous of others, because her life was comfortable while they endured adversities. After her restoration, she looks back at her life changing experience and acknowledges why she had suffered for many weeks straight, instead of a little throughout her life. She states, “The portion of some is to have their afflictions by drops, now one drop and then another, but the dregs of the cup, the wine of astonishment, like a sweeping rain that leaveth no food, did the Lord prepare to be my portion” (Franklin 266). Through contemplation of her captivity, she understood that God had not given her many hardships throughout her life, not because she was not due to receive them, but because he had a much larger one waiting for her. Even if her experience was traumatizing for her, she did not show this side. She was forced to “conform to the Puritan doctrine of providential affliction” (Derounian 240). At the end of the story she tells about how the Indians treated her
Her father's rampant drinking and inability to hold a job, coupled with her mother's lack of responsibility causes Jeannette to inwardly question her role in society.
Even thought both were working full time and physically absent most of the time, the difference in their parenting style had influenced their kid’s life in different way. Unlike Joy, who was strict and fixed rules and clear expectations for her son, Mary had a permissive and uninvolved parenting style. Mary did not teach her son much discipline, she was lenient and intervened minimally only when she faced serious problem. She even gave her son unclear message about what is inappropriate, by the role model she played. Especially when Wes found the weed on her closet (59).In the contrary, Joy fixed clear rules at home, like her reaction when Wes punched his sister, she said while talking to her husband,<< Wes, he needs to learn what is acceptable and what is not>>
The historical debate regarding nature and nurture has been going on for years and is still unresolved. Many theorists believe what we have inherited and our genes, makes us the way we are and how we develop. Other theorists believe it is the way we are brought up and our experiences, that make us the way we are and how we develop.
There is a constant cycle of talking-at and not talking-to. The lack of knowing how to communicate effectively is a hindrance on the mother-daughter dynamic as well as their ability to This cycle of learned behavior, many have impacted how Mary's lack of ability to communicate in a positive and healthy manner is a pattern within the family. The is filled with anger, Mary always appears to be upset and angry faith Precious or the government and life in general. This frustration that she faces she tends to handle them with violence. Education is not encouraged and is seen as useless. Relying on the government is a norm within
materialism. A dim cognizance of these traits lead her to blame herself for her father’s death. “I killed
Through history, the idea of nature vs. nurture has been a hotly debated issue. Nature, or genetics is often believed to be the most important aspect of a persons’ upbringing, as nature is something intrinsic to any one person. However, many debate that nurture, or the care and encouragement of any human life, trumps nature. The earliest evidence and rebuttals of these theories have been honed and developed over time by specific psychologists and educational theorists – all who hoped to prove their own ideas as fact at one time in history.
Lillian’s case can be very well handle using the Adlerian theory. Alfred Adler proposed that all behaviors are teleological, people are motivated by social interest, by striving toward life goals, by inferiority and superiority as well as by dealing with life tasks. Therefore, according to this approach, scrutinizing Lillian’s social interest and inferiority complex can suggest how she developed her specific lifestyle and help explore “general dissatisfaction with her life,” as she reported. Additionally, Adlerians believe that humans have a capacity to interpret, influence and create events. Putting this in practice, Lillian is also capable for creating her own life events and helping her become conscious of that can lead to higher self-worth and a sense of power to control her life.
Marianne’s display of responsibility is not consistent, and is very different than her sister’s; unlike Elinor, Marianne lives a