The Characteristics Of Being An Only Child

As we all know mother does know best, yet in some cases mother can do more harm than good. There is a big debate on how people are raising the newest generations and whether or not they are properly being introduced into the realities of our society. Are children being spoiled too much or not enough? This topic is thoroughly discussed by Alfie Kohn in his essay, “ The One-sided Culture War against Children” and by Nick Gillespie within his essay, “The Current State of Childhood: Is “Helicopter Parenting” or “Free-Range Childhood” Better for Kids?”. Although Kohn offers valid explanations, Gillespie does surpass Kohn’s explanations; parents need to be less overbearing and stop pampering their children.

Therefore, this lack of maturity leads children to believe everything they hear, stripping them of their independence, instead of independently thinking of something by themselves. Because everything is made more convenient, the demand for items, and more accessible, the kids are easily trained to become consumers by always wanting more.

There were sales men going door to door trying to sell merchandise and parents would decline trying to show teach their kids about responsibility and how you shouldn’t always buy things you think you want but to buy things you need like food, water, shelter. It is a key that parents teach there kids responsibility when there older so that they learn how to maintain not only their money but there life. One of the main quotes that grabbed my attention was “They chew their food a little dreamily as, with her back straight and her voice carefully polite , she says No, thank you, Im sorry, and the man goes away”(435). This quote shows me

“Spoiled children display a lack of consideration for others, demand to have their own way, have difficulty delaying gratification, and are prone to temper outbursts” (McIntosh). Parents shouldn’t spoil their children as spoiling children causes dangerous results. In “The Veldt” by Ray Bradbury the parents spoil their kids that later wish that the parents were dead. Parents don’t allow their children to do certain things, following this they wish death upon their parents. George and Lydia, parents of spoiled children Peter and Wendy, deny their children access to a magical nursery that transforms and does whatever the children imagine. This causes the children to wish that their parents were dead, which is then fulfilled by the nursery. In

In today's society, you are judged by the clothes you wear, the house you live in, the car you drive, and other materialistic items. Regardless of whether you are a adult or a child, envying those with more is human nature. A less fortunate person will always feel inferior to those with more because they feel they are being judged. Rick Bragg, having to earn his way into the middle class, envied those who were born into rich families. He then soon realized it was an achievement on his part by having to work for what he now has: justification.

It would be understandable to believe such spoils would make a child extremely appreciative, but rather it reinforces this entitlement Those that are handed everything in life with little work being put forth never truly understand the worth of what is being handed to them. In the "The Masque of the Red Death" the prince's character closely reflects the attitude of those in such a situation. Living lavishly in a world that is currently under great stress due to the plague and doing so under means he had done nothing to do with. Naturally, he felt like what was given to him was his and his alone, but seeing that he is a member of a powerful family it is more than likely a stronghold that was passed on to him. His entitlement explains his reaction to the mystery guest at his party. When one small thing does not go his way his own entitlement takes over, arguably creating the issue. The reaction the prince has mirrors what my sisters might do if you were to take away their phone or not buy them the new shirt they want. Sadly, this is not restricted to preteen ages, but also branches into young adults and in extreme cases adults. The issue not being the child's fault, but rather the parents who must understand that it is okay to say

I know there might be misconceptions about an only child, how they’re so spoiled, and get whatever they want. My dad has always made me work for the things I want in life. I didn’t have a phone until 11th grade, that’s when I could pay for it on my own with the job I’ve had at Publix for two years now. My mom and dad are my biggest supporters, and have made me the person I am today. Now I don’t own the typical dog or cat, but I do have a red rat snake, a betta fish and snail, and I recently am taking care of a stray cat for around five months now, and I love them

It is good to spoil your children however, things should always be a way that they have to earn what they want and not let things get to a point where these young children are getting pleased with every single thing they want just to impress those who they call their friends and that also don't have the possibility to buy any of the items they have brought to school or to a party. Buying things to impress others isn’t what is going to make you a better person because, all this whole situation does is continue the daily materialistic competition. As I had mentioned before this whole thing can always come down to bullying, discrimination, neglecting, mental issues and can also be suicidal. These are the types of things others don't keep in mind that can end up happening when saying all these rude things or posting all of these rude comments and they don't see the harm they are causing. Having the big obsession of being better than other as well as having better things than others doesn't make anyone a better person but in most cases that is what they think. This just helps prove that people have insecurity problems, and by buying all of these expensive things and being able to go around and show them off to impress others makes people thing they are popular and not put aside by others. The reality of all of this really isn't what ignorant people think of it, everyone should keep in mind that money doesn't buy happiness and having money won’t make us better

Parenting is an excellent system in how we raise children, but much pressure is added in raising them to live a successful life. Can it be done, and what should a parent do? These are some of the questions that Steven Levitt attempts to give reasons to in his book Freakonomics, and with it are there arguments and theories on how a parent can accomplish this. Levitt makes a good argument in how economic status of the parents affects the success of future children, but I would reevaluate his argument concerning the importance of how you treat your children, and the way his inferences are concrete.

Letting your child take control is never a good thing. Children’s spoiled behaviors is a very commonly discussed problem amongst parents because children seem to be out of control when it comes to discipline and listening. However, children in America seem to be particularly more spoiled than children in other parts of the world. Why is that? “Spoiled Rotten”, an article written by Elizabeth Kolbert, explains this very issue. American children are spoiled compared to other children around the world because, they take away the authority from their parents, lack discipline, and very little is expected of them.

In addition, these children become confident in their own skills and thus, more self-reliant” (Cerbasi). Being self-sufficient is a positive attribute that any individual can learn in their lives, and that is a very good quality that an individual can learn especially at a very young age.

Another disadvantage of being an only is that he lacks companionship. He has no brother or sister to confide in. Growing up as an only child can be very lonely.

Growing up I was an only child, but I remember always wishing that I had an older sibling or was born a twin or that maybe someday I would be a big sister myself. My Aunt Sherry lived close by while my cousin Morgan, who is eight months older than I, and myself grew up and we were extremely close;, she still feels more like my younger but older sister to this day. When we were five and six years old my Aunt Sherry had fraternal twins, a girl and a boy, Macey and Collin. Now I felt that I had three siblings. Come the third grade, when Morgan and I were eight and nine years old, my Aunt Sherry moved to Indiana taking my cousins with her. I had never wanted siblings as much as I did at this point.

     Being an only child though is not filled with simply a positive side. It can also be a bad effect on the child’s personality. The child being the center of attention all the time to the parents makes them feel very special and important. They soon begin to believe that they may be the center of the world since everything in their household is revolved another them. They never have to face the problem of sibling rivalry so no one ever becomes more significant then them. Having all this praise and interest about these only children all the time will make them to be self-centered at times. Being self-centered is not a good trait to have because they have to be aware that there are other people in the world. The only children must consider how to care about other people and their feelings. Living as an only child it is hard to learn these lessons because they have no friends from the start like a brother or sister to teach them how to interact with their peers. Nonetheless only children are not hopeless and once they head into school they learn their lessons of socializing with others. (Sulloway, 1997)

Some times i had wished i was an only child. Perks of me being an only child i would never have to deal with friends crushing on my siblings, and plus  I wouldn't ever have to share my room. I am always want to get the most amount of attention to my parents but guess they wanted to make us all equal even though we're not all treated equal, but never understood why that is.