The Darkness Of Relationships. Relationships Are The Foundation

Fairy tales tell us that once upon a time a girl met a boy; they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Reality is not that simple. Long-term relationships force couples to become more acquainted with each other, include themselves in each others’ worlds and eventually develop further connections. However, a relationship can come to an end point and therefore one will try to come back in the other’s life. This type of relationship is remarked in Fran Kimmel’s short story “Laundry Day”. The author suggests that getting rid of unhealthy relationship leads to happiness, the author uses the protagonist’s transformation, contrasting characters and symbols.

Jhumpa Lahiri’s short story, “A Temporary Matter,” presents the failing marriage of an Indian couple, Shoba and Shukumar. Lahiri illustrates how the grief of losing someone can lead to a broken relationship. Shukumar and Shoba have been ignoring each other since Shoba had a miscarriage. The tragedy changes the way they treat each other. Their grief makes both of them become two different people. A temporary matter has forced them to communicate with each other and since then, Shukumar and Shoba are comfortable talking to each other and even making love with each other. This temporary matter has somehow temporarily reconnected them together. Jhumpa Lahiri intentionally uses the symbols of darkness, light, house, the baby and neighbors to represent a broken relationship of a married couple.

Charlotte Perkins Gilman’s “The Yellow Wallpaper” and Sinclair Ross’s “The Painted Door” are both stories about women protagonists who feel emotionally isolated from their husbands, who both go by the name John. Ann in “The Painted the Door” and the wife whose name may or may not be Jane in “The Yellow Wallpaper” are women who deal with emotional isolation. Emotional isolation is a state of isolation where one may be in a relationship but still feel emotional separation. In these two stories, both women feel emotionally isolated from their husbands due to lack of communication. In both stories, lack of communication results from one individual failing to disclose their true feelings and instead he or she are beating around the bush, hoping the other party will know what they want. If both parties directly disclose their desires and feelings to one another, there would be a better understanding of each other which as a result would help save marriages. This paper will look at how both women lack communication, how they both their approach their emotional isolation differently, and how their failure to communicate to their husbands and their approach, results in the failure to save their marriage. “The Painted Door” and “The Yellow Wallpaper” are stories that show how both women protagonists are emotionally isolated due to their failure to communicate their feelings and desires to their husbands. Instead of direct communication to their husbands, the women find other

Marriage is a long lasting relationship. This eternity love cannot break or torn apart from hash weather, budget… but what about an abusive husband? The short story “runaways" describes a young female suffers from her spousal relationship. The abusive husband shatters the family apart leaving an unstable life for the mother and kids. Through her adventure abscond from her husband, she regains hopes and dream; hope: a place to settle, dream: where she could be loved again. The author Karen Brennan’s short story "runaways” displays words with connotative meaning, and symbols to reveal her opinion that if we have hope we can achieve our dreams.

Harmful relationships are a common topic in literature and pop culture, because while they are terrible, they are common. Kay Boyle portrays a toxic relationship in “Astronomer’s Wife” and how it affects the harmed party. In “Astronomer’s Wife,” Mrs. Ames lives in a silent house with a dreamer husband, who has his head in the clouds and leaves her on Earth. A broken toilet brings the plumber, who leads her to ponder her relationship, her husband, and humanity in general. In “Astronomer’s Wife,” Kay Boyle suggests through the story’s plot and structure that weak-willed people imprisoned in toxic relationships suffer considerable blows to their psyche and identity.

“My Husband’s Lover” is an article from the New York Times discussing a wife and her husband’s ever-changing relationship and how that has impacted the way they parent. The wife is the narrator of the article. She tells of the highlights and challenges of her marriage and how these things influence their relationship with their child. I could relate their relationship back to the chapter on how cultural differences affect parenting styles. I saw this to be true in the telling of the authors’ marriage and family. Her husband’s culture dictates his priorities, views, and beliefs when it comes to how he parents and how involved he is with the family. The wife’s culture certainly seems to affect her view on parenting as well, however since the wife/mom of the story is the narrator we see things from her point of view and the husbands/fathers culture seems to be a bit of a hardship in their relationship. It is a hurdle she’s learned to overcome.

A common theme in both Temporary Matter and Interpreter of Maladies is the importance of communication in a marriage or any romantic relationship. The lack of communication in a marriage can ruin it. In Temporary Matter, Shukumar and Shoba’s lost child takes a toll on their marriage. After many nights of sharing small secrets, the couple slowly rebuilds their marriage. “They wept together, for the things they now knew.”

In the stories “Separating” by John Updike and “A Temporary Matter” by Jhumpa Lahiri there is poor communication that is displayed. That is the main reason why in both stories love fails. In Separating poor communication is displayed between Richard and his wife Joan. The whole story is based on them separating. Although, it was never clear of why they were separating it is clear that Richard is leaving. The second conflict is with Richard and his kids he is faced with telling them about the separation and was going to when school was over but instead he tries to tell them one by one. When Richard says “Yes. Dickie, I want to tell you something (807)” This is him trying to communicate with him and tell him what he has been wanted to tell him. In “A Temporary Matter “ poor communication is displayed after Shoba and Shukumar baby was born dead that is when they grew a disconnection between each other. They struggle with talking to each other about what is on their mind in other words Shoba comes out with a little game to clear the air and talk about things because that is the main problem. However , when Shoba says “How

The fragility of marriage is an issue that is almost constant throughout Lahiri’s Interpreter of Maladies. Lahiri demonstrates that marriages are held together by a verbal promise that obscures the fact that a person falls in love, not with another person, but with the way that person makes him/her feel about him/herself. In “A Temporary Matter,” Shoba and Shukumar’s relationship is destroyed because of their loss of the ability to make each other feel the way they once did. In “Sexy,” Miranda falls for Dev because he makes her feel important and needed. Once Dev stops treating Miranda in such a special manner, her feelings toward him diminish and she begins to see the true, empty meaning of their relationship.

Everybody experiences bad communication with a friend or loved one at some point in their life. Interpreter of Maladies is a book written by Jhumpa Lahiri filled with many short stories that all involve Indian culture and gaps in communication. Three stories in the book where two people have a gap in communication with one another are A Temporary Matter, Interpreter of Maladies, and This Blessed House. In A Temporary Matter Shoba and Shukumar have had problems communicating with each other ever since Shoba had a miscarriage a year ago.

In Jhumpa Lahiria’s “A Temporary Matter” the married couples relationship went up in smoke because the relationship lacked communication skills resulting in Shoba giving birth with out Shukumar, who was at an academic conference in Baltimore. Despite Shoba telling Shukumar to go on his business trip, he should have stayed and helped Shoba incase she went into labor, which is more likely to happen closer to the due date. Shukumar should have stayed with his wife which is what most people in a relationship would feel like it’s the right thing they should do. Even though Shoba had insisted it was important to make contacts, and reminded him he would be entering the job market next year. He shouldn’t have taken the chance because deep down Shoba would like for him to cease a great opportunity in going to Baltimore but when she goes into labor great opportunities goes out the window and she would be looking for Shukumar to help her through he process that was taking place.

Describing the letter he received from his wife, the husband narrates, “Addressing me by name would have assumed an intimacy we had not yet discovered.” (Page 185). Due to the lack of intimacy, the husband must have felt pressured to do a lot of work to make the marriage work. However, after his wife arrives at the airport, he sees her with saree properly fixed rather than dragging on the floor. By portraying this the author shows the audience that an arrange marriage between two complete strangers is not as bad as people imagine. Furthermore, the author shows that lack of communication between the husband and wife is a common issue for arranged marriages. A best example for this can be seen when the husband asked the wife to get dressed to go out, the wife overdressed for the

"A Temporary Matter", is one of the nine short stories incorporated in Jhumpa Lahiri's, Interpreters of Maladies. The short story consists of a young Indian couple, Shukumar, and Shoba, living in America. Shukumar being a graduate student and educator, and Shoba being a textbook editor. The couple has undergone the loss of their baby, due to Shoba having a stillborn. During their period of grief, their communication tampers. A major aspect of a successful marriage, in which the couple lack. The couple experiences a temporary blackout, forcing them to communicate. During these blackouts, the couple interacts and communicates expressing their secrets and emotions after deliberately avoiding each other for months. Darkness can evoke a sense of fear or evil, but it can also evoke a sense of comfort or peace. Greif can change a person's outlook of how they perceive life and can alter a person's mindset. A Temporary Matter illustrates the result of failed communication and trajectory of grief through symbolism and situational irony.

Relationships are a critical part in the everyday lives of humans. People create relationships with others, whether they realize it or not. Some bonds are different than others. Hateful, happy, or grateful may be a type of bond you have with another peer. There also could be a lack of relationships between two or more people. Having a lacking relationship with a parent may impact a kids life and how they parent their own kids. There are many different types of relationships for a variety of reasons in the novel later introduced. What caused some of these relationships to differ were race, war, and racial discrimination. In the novel, Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet, by Jamie Ford, the bonds that Henry, the main character has made

As the alienation that has been put into effect by Shukumar troubles Shoba, this turns into miscommunication. Shukumar resents any brief interaction, which Shoba does only out of obligation to get what she must say through him. This miscommunication elevates to more of a common everyday topic for the couple. Also this is exemplified as one of the most common reasons for divorce as couples become unable to communicate in a normal, meaningful fashion. Either spouse's inability to avoid exchanges which