The Marriage Between Elizabeth And Mrs. Darcy

Elizabeth Bennet states, “I do, I do like him,” she replied, with tears in her eyes; “I love him. Indeed he has no improper pride. He is perfectly amiable. You do not know what he really is; then pray do not pain me by speaking of him in such terms (364).” During this quote, Elizabeth is talking to her father about Mr.Darcy; she tries to explain how she feels about him in order for her father to approve of them getting married. This quote is an example of a major theme in the novel; appearances are not dependable. When Elizabeth first meets Mr.Darcy she thinks he is extremely proud and condescending, and Mr.Darcy believes Elizabeth to be tolerable. Throughout the course of the novel, both characters get to learn more about what is behind the deceiving exteriors that

Just as the characters unknowingly follow Darcy's example of pride, they commit Elizabeth's crucial mistake, prejudging people (especially Darcy) according to horribly inadequate experience. Elizabeth's positive judgement of Wickham and negative one of Darcy prevent her from seeing Wickham's devious and whimsical nature and Darcy's honest efforts to improve despite the apparent lack of incentive. Like Elizabeth, the rest of the Bennets, and indeed the rest of those living in the vicinity of Meryton, believe Darcy to be a wholly disagreeable man. (In fact, he began as such, but even when he began to change, everyone refused to realize it, and maintained their dislike of him because of their previous judgements.) Mrs. Bennet is prejudiced against all other mothers with young daughters, believing them to be just as ambitious and scheming as she herself is. When told that Mrs. Long promised to introduce the Bennet sisters to Bingley, Mrs. Bennet hisses

Just as she is consistently good and kind, her feelings and heed for Bingley never falter or innovate. She feels sorrow when he leaves, of course, but that does not abase her delight for him. Their relationship, while amusing, is not marked by the range of emotions that Elizabeth and Darcy handle for one another. Her wedlock, then, is kind that she and Bingley conjugate for tenderness and are compatible, but it is not quite ideal since it want the depth found in Elizabeth and Darcy's marriage.

Darcy as a proud, arrogant man based upon his actions at the assembly where she first sees him. Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy first meet at a ball where she instantly believes him to be a rude individual as she watches him only dance with women he knows and hears him call her tolerable. Elizabeth is offended by Mr. Darcy’s actions at the ball, and uses this knowledge to instantly form a negative opinion of his character. Mr. Darcy’s good nature and kind heart is therefore overlooked by Elizabeth as they continue to see each other, and she does not let go of her original prejudice of him until the end of the novel when she eventually realizes her love for him and marries him. Elizabeth’s poor and unchanging opinion of Darcy led to her initially saying no to Darcy’s first marriage proposal. Had Elizabeth not held a grudge on Mr. Darcy for his original actions at the ball, she could have realized her love for him sooner. Her mistrust of Darcy also led to repercussions that negatively affected her and her family’s lives. She would not have been deceived by Mr. Wickham and she would have saved her family from shame and embarrassment if she would have waited longer to form an opinion of Mr.

Even though, Elizabeth is very smart she is too quick to let her opinions stop her from understanding the people around her. She also lets her emotions cloud her judgment, especially when her friend Charlotte Lucas decides to marry Mr. Collins. She states, “And to the pang of a friend disgracing herself and sunk in her esteem, was added the distressing conviction that it was impossible for that friend to be tolerably happy in the lot she had chosen”(87). About halfway through the book, Elizabeth realizes ‘“How despicably have I acted!” she cried. “I, who have prided myself on my discernment... Pleased with the preference of one, and offended by the neglect of the other, on the very beginning of our acquaintance, I have courted prepossession and ignorance and driven reason away, where either were concerned. Till this moment, I never knew myself”’. She sees that her clouded judgment has misled her in seeing the true nature of Darcy and Wickham. Towards the end Elizabeth and Darcy are finally together and she reveals to him that she was being rude towards him at the beginning and he tells her that he was attracted to her because of her ‘liveliness ’, she tells him “You may as well call it impertinence at once. It was very little less”. In observing this evolution Austen shows us that we need to put our pride

11. During a conversation that Elizabeth has with Colonel Fitzwilliam, he mentions that Darcy claims to have recently saved a friend from an imprudent marriage. Elizabeth discovers that the friend he is speaking of is Mr. Bingley and his possible marriage to her sister Jane. Chapter 33 | When Elizabeth discovers this, she has all the more reason to dislike Mr. Darcy. She blames him for Jane's unhappiness, and believes that he purposely sabotaged their relationship. |

Although Darcy's words revealed a large metamorphism in his disposition, his actions are more evident and show his true ability to change. At Mr. Darcy's introduction to the novel he is immediately described as "…haughty, reserved, and fastidious, and his manners, though well bred, were not inviting" (Austen 12). Austen introduces Darcy with all of his pretentious nature. Following the Meryton ball, Austen continues to display that unattractive nature of Darcy by comparing him to Bingley. "Darcy, on the contrary, had seen a collection of people in whom there was little beauty and no fashion, for none of whom he had felt the smallest interest, and from none received either attention or pleasure" (Austen 12). This statement reinforces the idea that Mr. Darcy is only concerned with talented women of great importance. It is Elizabeth, however, who wins his heart with her liveliness and witty remarks.

First, The most significant marriage of the novel depicts the ideal vision of the bride Elizabeth Bennet. Her ideal vision of what a marriage should be was one where the bride and groom had true love for each other, as well as a mutual respect, and a intellectual connection that far surpassed a physical one. Elizabeth had no social status or assets. This was an obstacle that Darcy had to overcome throughout the book. He was constantly influenced by his family and those around him of equal or similar social status that he should marry someone with some sort of power.

Repeatedly, the obstacles promoted by different social classes overrule love in Pride and Prejudice. Eventually, love proves it cannot be hidden in ones heart as Elizabeth accepts her love for Darcy. Throughout Pride and Prejudice, the courtship of Darcy and Elizabeth is challenged and comes close to failure multiple times but ends with a marriage that fulfills a happier ending. In the beginning, social structure refrains Darcy from considering dancing with Elizabeth, then as he is forced to spend more time seeing within the depths of who she truly is he overcomes the social hurdles while she remains hesitant but eventually together they overcome the idea that reputation in society can choke to strength of true love.

During the beginning of the book, Elizabeth's confidence in her own judgments resulted in a poorly-made, preconceived idea of Mr. Darcy. Upon their initial meeting, Mr. Darcy came off as a high-handed, arrogant man. Because of this, Elizabeth based her judgment of him on their first encounter. In Chapter 3, after the two were acquainted, Darcy said to Mr. Bingley, “‘She is tolerable, but not handsome enough to tempt me’” (13). This comment made Elizabeth feel that she had been disrespected by Darcy, causing her to establish a poor judgment of him based on this rude remark he had made.

Unfortunately, she bumps into him and feels very ashamed because it looks as if she is throwing herself at him. Elizabeth is surprised at how delightful, and polite Darcy is to her, her Aunt, and her Uncle. Darcy even introduces Elizabeth to his sister. Elizabeth also hears a great deal about Darcy from his housekeeper who raised him as a child. She talks only of lovely, and flattering compliments of Mr. Darcy.

Elizabeth had not seen this side of Mr. Darcy until he surprised them at Pemberley. Elizabeth thought to herself about “his behaviour, so strikingly altered—what could it mean? That he should even speak to her was amazing!—but to speak with such civility, to inquire after her family! Never in her life had she seen his manners so little dignified, never had he spoken with such gentleness as on this unexpected meeting” (310). During this meeting Elizabeth begins to regret denying Mr. Darcy’s proposal and starts falling in

Bingley. The couple meets early on at the ball and the confidantes of each individual is sure of their friends feelings. However, although both feel deeply for the other, their feelings are not clear to outside observers. Jane’s affection for Mr. Bingley is clear enough to her sisters, but to Mr. Darcy’s belief “her heart was not likely to be touched” (Austen, 151). It is only when the confusion is explicitly addressed that the two are able to realize their affections are, indeed, mutual. This seems contrary to Zunshine’s view that we are primed to notice these

Pride and Prejudice are both influences on Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy and their relationships. Ironically this attitude changes as Elizabeth forces Darcy realize his faults, and he does the same to her “How despicably have I acted!.. I, who have prided myself on my discernment! - I, who have valued myself on my abilities!” (Austen 236). Elizabeth realizes after reading Darcy’s letter, after she rejects his first marriage proposal that she has no reason to despise him as she had, and that he is a very delectable person. This serves as a turn pointing as Elizabeth becomes aware of her pride

When Elizabeth flatly turns down his marriage proposal, it startles Darcy into realizing just how arrogant and assuming he has been. Soon, there is reconciliation between Darcy and Elizabeth where each admits how much they have changed as a result of their earlier encounters. An example of this is when Lady Catherine visits to insure the marriage between Darcy and Elizabeth. She came in order to prevent it, but when Darcy hears the manner in which Elizabeth answered Lady Catherine, he realizes that Elizabeth regards him differently. He saw that her attitude of him had changed which prompted him to make his marriage proposal. Thus, we can now see that Darcy and Elizabeth both have balance in their relationship because they are able to reflect against each other and each is capable of undergoing a change. In the end, Darcy is willing to marry into a family with three silly daughters, an embarrassing mother and is willing to make Wickham his brother-in-law .It may be that he is more easygoing about other people's faults because he is now aware of his own.