Reconciling Generational Conflict in “Two Kinds” “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan introduces us to the conflict between a first-generation Chinese American immigrant mother and her second generation daughter. Amy Tan is herself a young daughter from Chinese immigrant parents who was born in Oakland, California, who grew up with the pressure of being both Chinese and American all at once. Her mother's American Dream for her was different than what she wanted for herself as a young person. When Tan left the United States to visit China with her mother, she finally understood that “[she] belonged to her family and [her] family belonged to China” (Charters, 589). This is the journey that she takes us through in two kinds with the characters of Jing-Mei …show more content…
At the beginning of the story, Tan introduces us to a mother and daughter who cannot get along. In “Two Kinds,” the mother is placing too much pressure on her daughter to be successful. She holds the unrealistic expectation of hoping her daughter will be a prodigy. From the opening lines of “Two Kinds,” the main character Jing-mei says, “My mother believed you could be anything you wanted to be in America. You could open a restaurant. You could work for the government and get a good retirement. You could buy a house with almost no money down. You could become rich. You could become instantly famous” (Charters, 590). This was the source of Jing-mei’s mother’s insistence toward her daughter’s success. The family in the story emigrated from China to the United States just like Tan's family, where they settled in San Francisco and gave birth to Jing-mei, the main character. The trouble comes in when Jing-mei’s mother seeks to turn her into a success by pushing her to become a child prodigy, someone that you might see on TV, someone famous. Jing-mei, however, does not have an interest in fame or fortune. In the context of her family life and culture, she seeks more than anything simply to be herself – on her own terms – and to be known and respected as such. At one point Jing-mei says, “I won’t let her change me, I promised myself. I won’t be what I am not” …show more content…
She illustrates very clearly how having different cultural experiences within a family can lead family members not to understand each other. For example, the mother wants to control the daughter, who has a different culture, and this is not easy to do; in fact, it may be impossible – and at least, as the book shows, understanding takes time. Also, the mother seems to be having behavior problems because of her way of demanding things of her daughter, which is totally wrong. As a mother, when you tell something to your daughter you should be respectful and polite at same time, in order that your child could listen to you, consider your requests, and even obey you in their way. The way that you treat them, they will treat you back. Some parents may not be used to this depending on how they were raised, but this story shows that such an approach could have been more successful. Toward the end of the story it seems that the mother and daughter developed more respect and understanding for one another – but this took space, time, wisdom, respect, and patience. Outside of her family home, we know that Tan has been able to find success on her own terms as a writer, having been inspired by other “bi-cultural” writers such as Louise Erdrich, and embarking on her journey in literature. After visiting China with her mother,
Four Chinese mothers have migrated to America. Each hope for their daughter’s success and pray that they will not experience the hardships faced in China. One mother, Suyuan, imparts her knowledge on her daughter through stories. The American culture influences her daughter, Jing Mei, to such a degree that it is hard for Jing Mei to understand her mother's culture and life lessons. Yet it is not until Jing Mei realizes that the key to understanding who her
Amy Tan had many personal experiences in her story. For example, when Amy Tan was living in Northern California, her mother had very high expectations on her. Her mother wanted her to be with the American society and be the best she could be. Amy Tan had to get a haircut very short to the way other famous children were acting in the United States. Amy’s mother was the one who encouraged this. With that, in the story “Two Kinds,” the young girl named Jing-mei live in a part of California and she had to get a very short haircut. Jing-mei’s mother wanted her daughter to look and act the same way Shirley Temple did. Within both of the girls lives, they each had to act like an already famous person exactly to please their mothers.
“Two kinds” is a story, a Chinese girl whose life is influenced by her mother. Her mother came to America after losing everything in China. Jing-Mei’s mother was immigrated early to America from China who has “American dream”. Her mother had high expectations on her daughter and did not care how it could affect her. It made Jing-Mei become a stubborn and rebellious person. “In the years that followed, I failed her so many times, each time asserting my own will, … for unlike my mother, I did not believe I could be anything I wanted to be, I could only be me. (104) She expressed her anger by going against her mother's expectations in ‘who I am’, it inferred that such tendency come from her childhood experiences. Jing-Mei was frustrated because she could not satisfy her mother.
In the short story, "Two Kinds" by Amy Tan, a Chinese mother and daughter are at odds with each other. The mother pushes her daughter to become a prodigy, while the daughter (like most children with immigrant parents) seeks to find herself in a world that demands her Americanization. This is the theme of the story, conflicting values. In a society that values individuality, the daughter sought to be an individual, while her mother demanded she do what was suggested. This is a conflict within itself. The daughter must deal with an internal and external conflict. Internally, she struggles to find herself. Externally, she struggles with the burden of failing to meet her mother’s expectations. Being a first-generation Asian American,
In her short story "Two Kinds," Amy Tan utilizes the daughter's point of view to share a mother's attempts to control her daughter's hopes and dreams, providing a further understanding of how their relationship sours. The daughter has grown into a young woman and is telling the story of her coming of age in a family that had emigrated from China. In particular, she tells that her mother's attempted parental guidance was dominated by foolish hopes and dreams. This double perspective allows both the naivety of a young girl trying to identify herself and the hindsight and judgment of a mature woman.
Early in childhood Jing Mei dreamed of finding her prodigy and being a famous Chinese American, mostly because of the views and actions her mother placed on her. Her mother believed you could be anything you wanted to be in America. (pg 405) Her mother was always pushing new tests and talents on Jing Mei. She even went as far as having her daughter Jing Mei models her physical appearance and actions after a child-star Shirley Temple. Her other was always testing her with many different things trying to discover Jing Mei’s talent. Later Jing Mei started to feel like her mother was just trying to make her into someone she was not and started to just fail and not try to do anything right hoping her mother would give up. When her mother died she had realized what her mother had been trying to do. Her mother had only wanted her to do her best. She had then to realize what her mother had
In the article,” Why Chinese Mothers are Superior," author Amy Chua describes how parenting is approached in Chinese culture as compared to "Western parents." She compares Western and Chinese parents on how they approach their children’s' upbringings. She gives examples from her experiences raising her own daughters. Chua's daughters were not allowed to attend sleepovers and could not score grades any lower than an "A" in school classes. Chua also forced her kids in learning a piece for the piano. In separate story, author Amy Tan discusses the mother-daughter relationship in Chinese-American culture in "Two Kinds." This story is told from the viewpoint of an American-born Chinese girl named Jing-mei. Her immigrant mother, Mrs. Woo, believes that being in America is freedom and wants her daughter to take advantage of that freedom. Her mother has her try several activities in an attempt to
In the story “Two Kinds”, author Amy Tan, who is a Chinese-American, describes the conflicts in the relationship of a mother and daughter living in California. The protagonist in this story Jing-mei Woo’s mother is born and raised in China, and immigrates to the United States to escape from the Chinese Civil War. For many years she maintained complete Chinese traditional values, and has been abided by it deliberately. This kind of traditional Chinese culture has also affected her daughter profoundly. However, Jing-mei is born and raised in the United States. Despite she has a Chinese mother; she is unfamiliar and uncomfortable with Chinese
“Two Kinds” by Amy Tan shows the connection and conflict through a mother who is from China and a daughter who was born in America. These two cultures end up colliding and make life at home hard for the main character, Jing-mei (Tan), because of the personal relationship between her and her mother. Jing-mei is seen as having her own personal identity especially when battling her mother’s desires because “[she] was so determined not to try, not to be anybody different…” Jing-mei’s mother’s desires for her were not fulfilled because she just didn’t have the motivation to try. Thus, showing that Tan had a negative outlook on the way her mother was pressuring her to be someone who she did not want to be, especially since the two cultures are making it harder for Tan to find her true self. Not only does Jing-mei have a counteractive frame of mind on her mother’s ways, she has a negative outlook on her mother’s own cultural background.
The biographical connection that the author “Amy Tan” draws in her short story “Two Kinds” with her main character Jing-mei, crosses in more than one side. First of all, they both are Chinese American whose struggle in their identities with their Chinese immigrant mothers. “Due to a cultural conflict and lack of proper understanding of each other’s perceptions” (Priya 1), and as a big gap developed between the two daughters and their two mothers, in which resulted a complex relationship between them.
For millions of immigrants, America has been seen as the land of opportunity where anyone could become anything he or she wanted to be. A family that believes strongly in the American dream can be found in Amy Tan’s short story, “Two Kinds.” The story centers around the daughter of a Chinese immigrant who desperately wants her daughter to become successful. In the story, the author shows the difficult lives immigrants face when moving to a new culture. In this short story, the theme shows the protagonist’s conflict with her mother on the type of daughter her mother wants her to be. The author establishes the theme of how difficult mother-daughter relationships can be through characterization, setting, and symbolism.
The short story, “Two Kinds”, written by Amy Tan, is written from the point of view of the character named Jing-Mei. There are three experiences which demonstrate her viewpoint. In the first experience, Jing-Mei is being told by her mom about the “American dream”. At first, she strives to pursue this prodigy. Her mom would test her every night after dinner. Through Jing-Mei’s eyes, she starts to realize that it was not the life she wanted to live. Lines in the story illustrate this when he says “I won’t let her change me, I promised myself. I won’t be what I’m not.” (p.406). In the second experience, Jing-Mei performs in a talent show. Her mother forced her to learn how to play the piano. After seeing a little girl playing the piano
Like many immigrants think, America is the land of opportunity. People from all over the world,
The short story “Two Kinds” written by Amy Tan is about conflict between a mother and daughter. A mother tries to live her life through her daughter and her daughter rebels. The prominent theme of this short story would seem to be "unfulfilled dreams”. After losing everything in China, the mother of Jing Mei comes to America with the dream that Jing Mei will have it all: fame, fortune, and most of all success unlike herself. Little does she know, her dream will be short-lived.
In the short story “Two Kinds” written by Amy Tan speaks about the difficult life events Jing-mei Woo and her mother had experienced. The two most mentioned characters in the story are Jing-mei Woo and her mother. Jing-mei’s mother sees America as the land of great opportunity. Her mother has high hopes for her daughter to become a successful prodigy; Jing-mei’s mother already has set high goals for her daughter. Jing-mei and her mother never really understood each other.