Being in a relationship such as a long distance one can be hard. There’s the distance, of course, but also the lack of communication and touch. These things shouldn’t have to limit the amazing love that comes out of an LDR. I have amazing experience of being with someone in this type of relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. Getting to know someone before you enter a relationship like this is so important. There is a foundation you build and you get to know that person for who they are, how they live and generally how they treat you. I knew my boyfriend for around nine months before we started liking one another and became a couple. Before you start thinking anything along the lines of cat fishing, that is why we took the time to get to know one another. We called one another, video chatted on Skype and played games with each other, because that is how we met and how we kept things going. Eventually it turned to us only talking to one another, making jokes and telling stories. Although lots of people believe that long distance relationships cannot last, the relationship that I have with my boyfriend in New York shows that long distance relationships can really last. In long-distance relationships, interaction is something that is very important. It brings a couple together and it is what holds them together when they are apart; the constant excitement of getting to see them again. This is when technology comes in. "Long-distance
The least they can do is try to continue their relationship with long distance. It has been reported that, “75% of college students at some point have been in a long distance relationship,” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). In addition, “25% to 50% of college students are in a long distance relationship at any given time” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). Couples that identify with the idea that there is no hurt in trying, find that it might not be so bad after all. Although abruptly severing ties is not the appropriate response to a grand separation to come, leaving one another with the idea that both parties are on the exact same page is not a wise path to take either. A couple does not just simply come to an unspoken consensus about what is expected of each other. It is important for them to sit down and “engage in open and honest communication about the separation and discuss what each wants from the relationship” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). At the end of the day, miles are temporary, yet relationships don't have to be.
15). This research speaks volumes to the overall effect that the spread of technology has on our addiction to social media. It shows that we now value our time and interactions that happen over the Internet more than we value the true face-to-face interactions that real relationships actually depend on. One study performed on a university campus in Turkey used a questionnaire to evaluate different factors that could have significantly positive or negative effects on a relationship. This study performed by Egeci and Gencoz found that “…those with lower communications problems…were more likely to experience relationship satisfaction” (388). The type of communication that is proven to help grow relationships occurs most effectively face-to-face, where people can read each other’s emotions in their facial expressions and non-verbal
I learned from this class that a long distance relationship should have theses four important values like observation, needs, feeling, and request. Since, most of the long distance relationships might not be able to meet frequently,so communication is one of the most significant thing for couples to sustaining their long distance relationships. Furthermore, even if the relationship is not a long distance one still it is very important what both of you value and would like to have a clear picture about the relationship.
She writes, “We are now in constant and continuous communication with our friends, co-workers and family over the course of a day” (Wortham 394). Even though the author’s partner lived more than 3,000 miles away, she used apps like: Google’s instant-messaging application, Gchat and others in order to correspond by voice and video that made her and other people feel close even though it’s over the screen. Physical communication is the most effective way to engage with individuals, as people are able to feel and visualize the presence of real emotions, but having a app like the one mentioned by the author, but if it’s not possible to communicate that way, communicating through the screen will fill the
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The article Electronic Intimacy by Christine Rosen talks about the relationships people have with the online world and how it affects relationships because everything is just so fast. The purpose this article was written is to give her audience which is people who use social media to experience an actual in person relationship because the only relationship we know today lies in a direct message. Rosen poses a question to her audience that has us all thinking and also is her thesis. The question says “But does the way we communicate with each other alter that experience significantly?” (Paragraph 5). But it makes sense because in today’s world there is no such thing as personal relationships which is why Rosen states that “We are living in an
In an article written for the New York Times by Jenna Wortham called “I Had a Nice Time with You Tonight. On the App.”, Wortham discusses the pros of using social media in developing relationships. She talks of her personal accounts with dating apps to keep up with her long-distance relationship with her boyfriend and how she finds that communicating with him through video chat is pretty useful for maintaining her relationship. Wortham believes that communication through social media platforms like G-Chat (Google Chat), Skype, Facetime, etc., makes conversation feels more casual and that she feels a closer bond with the people she talks to “physically, even though it’s through a screen” (394). The audience she could be appealing to is anyone
“…the social network we find ourselves in plays an important role in the continuation of a relationship. It is important to understand the relationship between the couple and their social world”
Two clichés: Absence makes the heart grow fonder and Out of sight, out of mind. Which one of these two conflicting views is closer to the reality? As it turns out, it does not really matter that much since long distance relationships (LDR) suffer from exactly the same strengths and weaknesses as proximal relationships. Whether two people are going to have fulfilling relationship does not only depend on their geographical closeness. What matters is quality, not quantity. According to one expert on LDRs, "the majority of studies that have been done show no greater risk of an LDR breaking up than any other relationship (Guldner, 2004, p. 6)." An LDR relationship has the same likelihood of
Remember the days when most conversations were spent face-to-face, and not through texting or on a social media platform? Our society has changed the way we converse with one another in every way possible. Every thought, opinion, and idea we have we feel the need to broadcast it to the world, either by posting it on Facebook or tweeting it for hundreds of people to read. Is this new way of communication good or bad for our relationships? M.I.T professor, Sherry Turkle, addresses this question in her article, "Stop Googling. Let's Talk." She discusses the positive and negative attributes of the way we're using technology, and how it has overcome most of our relationships. We have abused our privileges of advanced technology by using it to replace our emotional needs we desire as humans.
People tend to stray away from long distance relationships because it’s difficult to stay together when you’re far apart. People can now strengthen their long distance relationship through social media. It is easier to stay connected and you can even talk to one another every day. Another example is with people you might not see every day. I still keep in good contact with my exchange partner from Germany using Facebook and WhatsApp. We haven’t seen each other for a whole year now and we still speak as if neither of us left each other’s
Although many books have been written about communication and connection in relationships, there has been a book that addresses precisely this wonderful process as has James C. Petersen in his book: Why Don’t We Listen Better? And it is precisely the way in which the parts he divided the book that takes the reader to a better understanding of what the personal relationships connections through communications are concerned.
As I said before, we got to spend very little physical time with each other, so the little time we are physically side by side leads us to the sixth step which is “passion” or the physical/emotional affection. We share our love when we are together. The seventh step is “disengagement” that is ending the relationship. Through the year and a half, we have been dating we have broken up a couple of times, this is due to the fact that our relationship is ten times more difficult than a normal one. We sometimes feel the emptiness that distance causes in our relationship and this is something that we can’t avoid or eliminate living six hours away from each other. This is related to the tenth step that is “negative physic change”, when we realized the negative outlook or the negative part of our relationship which made us fall apart.
Being in a relationship, I noticed that communication is key. However, there are other numerous factors that play a substantial role in the relationship. I believe in three simple things.
Basically, they can't hold hands, they can't hug, they can't kiss. Therefore, many people will rather breaking up instead of starting a long distance relationship.