An Analysis of the Mother in Tillie Olsen's Story, "I Stand Here Ironing"

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The mother in Tillie Olsen’s story, “I Stand Here Ironing” gives insight into the upbringing of her first child. We see she is guilty of neglect towards Emily and is distressed due to poor decisions that she had made rearing her daughter. The mother reflects on the past and thinks that her actions and “lack of” might have affected Emily. She is so engulfed in “what ifs” and “how could I’s” that she is practically beating herself mentally. Poor Emily received little attention when attention was needed, allowing us to condemn the mother for her actions. At the same time we understand her because in the past 19 years there were certain situations that they endured where she had no control, leaving her helpless.
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Her guilt is the unfinished emotion, the emotion she has not accepted or coped with and the only way she can conceal it is through anger.
Guilt is a very strong emotion and is very hard to deal with; the mother obviously needs to find a way to get things off her chest. Maybe she could start seeing a psychiatrist or family counselor where they could give her guidance or have a sit down with Emily and let her know how she feels, or maybe she could invest in a notebook and write down all her feelings to help her get through her suppressed emotions.
The mother’s guilt is justifiable though because it comes from decisions she made in the past, the actions of neglect. We see the mother leave her young daughter to go on a date knowing that it was wrong. “Except when we left her alone nights, telling ourselves she was old enough...The time we came back, the front door open, the clock on the floor in the hall.” Why wasn’t she able to get someone to watch Emily? If she would have had a babysitter Emily wouldn’t have been so lonely and probably wouldn’t have thrown the clock on the floor or had the door wide open for just anyone to walk-in. The mother might have told herself Emily was old enough at the time but I’m sure she knew that she wasn’t. Leaving your child at home without a babysitter at a young age is unacceptable no matter what the reason may be. Or why does she pay one child attention and

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