Are fathers truly necessary? This question has been the catalyst to one of the most controversial debates in America. Before one can adequately answer this question we must first define the words “father” and “necessary”as it is used in this context. According to Merriam Webster father is defined as “a man who has begotten a child.” If we go by the definition provided by Webster then father refers to a child’s “Biological” male parent. Necessary is defined as something “required to be done, achieved or present.” To say that something is required means that you can not move forward without this component. The idea of not having biological father was once frowned upon in society, but over time has increasingly become more accepted in society …show more content…
Some professional women find themselves making higher salaries than their male counterparts . This allows them to be able to provide for their families by themselves. Even for those women who may be struggling, -there is access to government assistance to help alleviate some of the financial burden. The government provides housing, childcare and food stamps to those mothers who need it. For some of these aids it is only given to those who are single mothers. All of these aids eliminate some of the economic burdens created by an absent father.
According to “Beyond The Nuclear Family: An Evolutionary Perspective On Parenting,’ written by Rebecca Sears, she believes that fathers are necessary for the emotional development of a child, just as much as the mother. However, single mother households usually have family members or friends who shower the child with love just like the father. For example a young boy may develop an extremely tight bound with his uncle or older cousin who shows him love or attention. One must also take into consideration the damage that some children experience as a result of a relationship with their father. In an article written by Derek Whitney, “Why Is It So Hard for Men to Cry,” it talks about how fathers have been the reason behind why young boys do not express themselves and some have physiological issue. For ages men have used the phrase “men don’t cry” or “crying is for girls,
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It is during this time a father needs to be present to father, shape and mold his children (Jones, Kramer, Kim A., Teresa L., Armitage, Tracey, Williams, Keith, as cited in Wallerstein, 1980, 1987). On their 10 year follow up, Wallerstein and Kelley found that regardless of the time spent with a father or not, the father continued to be a significant presence psychologically to adolescents, particularly to boys (Jones et al., as cited in Wallerstein, Kelley, 1974). On Kelley and Wallerstein’s 25 year follow up of their now adult participants in their longitudinal study, they have found that the effects of fatherlessness and divorce during their adolescents were long lasting. The participants in the study by Wallerstein et al. (2000) noted that “The impact of divorce hits them most cruelly as they go in search of love, sexual intimacy, and commitment” (p. 299). These same participants also stated in an interview that they had anxiety issues about relationships and intimacy problems into adulthood (Jones et al., as cited in Wallerstein et al., 2000). Wallerstein et al. (2000) participants of the research also stated that they had resentment towards their parents, particularly the fathers who were seen “selfish and faithless” (p. 300).
Due to problems arising out of bitter divorces, custody, and support battles fathers are ostracize out of their children’s life. Fathers are often looked at as the bad person when things go wrong and being the blame. Fathers are just as responsible for the child being born as the mother. Over the years fathers continue to fight for equal rights, mothers are looked at as the victims and often make false statements about the fathers to suit their own selfish needs. Accusations of sexual and child abuse by mothers of the noncustodial fathers are often found to be untrue.
Although single parenthood is on the rise in homes today, children still often have a father role in their life. It does not matter who the part is filled by: a father, uncle, older brother, grandfather, etc...; in almost all cases, those relationships between the father (figure) and child have lasting impacts on the youth the rest of their lives. In “I Wanted to Share My Father’s World,” Jimmy Carter tells the audience no matter the situation with a father, hold onto every moment.
Family is the first contact an infant experiences and the environment child is raised determines their behaviors and social development. Father figures just like mother figures are important in raising and socializing children in becoming responsible people as they grow. Numerous researches to determine importance of fathers in early child development have been carried out and majority of them found out that just like mothers, the role fathers play in early childhood development including mental, psychological and physical development are crucial. The studies show that, children raised by single mothers are likely to have problems such as drug abuse, engagement in early sexual behaviors and other unsocial behaviors as compared to those raised by both parents. The paper will explore the role of fathers in child rearing, discussing strategies in raising children and exploring pros and cons of such strategies.
Women are sometimes more nurturing than some men when it comes to taking care of their family members or children. When a woman becomes pregnant they receive a maternity leave which also puts a hold on their income, making it easier for the man of the household to have a higher paying job (Joan Acker, 1989). Another example, when a child of a family gets sick most of the time the woman is the one to leave work early and stay home with the child. Some job sites have paid maternity leave but then many do not. Women have greater recourse to part-time work so they can combine work and family responsibilities (Joan Acker, 1989). During the older days, women were not allowed to enter professions such as medicine or law, married women had no property rights, they were not allowed to vote, married women were not even present in the eyes of the law. From then to now a lot has changed but women still are not
What is a fathers “responsibility”? Is it to nurture, or is it to provide, maybe even he could do both? In the novel Your Fathers, Where Are They, and the Prophets, Do They Live Forever? Dave Eggers, describes trivial emotional and mental repercussions that occur when there is an absence of a father figure. Sons and daughters alike, any disconnection with a meaningful individual, supposedly relatable in blood, would bring question and concern. A fathers’ relationship and support can be beneficial to any child’s growth. Giving children a solid basis of what kinds of responsibilities go along with being an adult and showing them compassion individualism and what it means to “be a man” is important.
Some scholars have argued the notion that fathers are important contributors to their children and adolescents’ psychosocial development (Mandara, Murray, & Joyner, 2005). According to Allgood, Beckert, and Peterson (2012), researchers are beginning to understand the importance of examining children’s perspectives and the relationships and levels of involvement children have with their fathers.
According to the U.S. Census, one in three children, or approximately fifth teen million, are growing up without their father. This is what I would consider an epidemic because the numbers continue to rise yearly. With the numbers continuing to grow, American children continue to suffer. It is critical that a father is positively active in their child or children’s lives because father’s provide a sense of safety, mothers cannot teach a child everything that a child needs to know, and households gain balance when the father is present. I will now better explain.
The stress associated with the inability to bond in satisfactory ways with a father or father ﬁgure may constitute the same kind of stress that a physically absent father does, resulting in earlier onset of sexual activity and the risk of ensuing pregnancy. Assessment of the quality of a paternal-child relationship may be as important as whether or not such a relationship exists.”(p.
Throughout the United States, more than one-third of children don't live with their biological fathers, and about 17 million of those children don't live with any father at all. Of those, roughly 40 percent haven't seen their fathers in the last year. The over 500 Father's Rights organizations are trying in a variety of ways to change these statistics because they believe that fathers are necessary to the intellectual, psychological and emotional well- being of all children. "Family values" groups encourage long lasting stable, marriages and tough divorce laws to increase the number of two- parent households. Some organizations focus on reasonable child support and visitation, as well as creative joint custody arrangements to
In the 1950s, fathers were considered the breadwinners of the family, as a result, they were rarely home and when they were their role in the family was to discipline children. There wasn’t a drastic change in the messages of fatherhood from the 1950s to the 1960s. Although we began to observe fathers more actively involved in the caring of their children they were still not the primary caregivers. An example is the first episode of Leave it to Beaver in which Opie’s father is constantly trying to cheer Opie. This is an indication that fathers were beginning to be compassionate towards their children. The majority of children with absent mothers were raised by nannies while fathers continued to be the breadwinners. Nonetheless, the messages about fatherhood in the 1970s were different from the 50s and 60s in that single fathers began becoming the primary caregivers of their children—drifting away from the idea that women are the only sex capable of caring for children. The current media entertainment I consume certainly gives messages about fatherhood as well. Fathers are definitely involved with their children than has ever been portrayed on television before. Nonetheless, fathers tend to approach their daughters and sons differently. Fathers tend to be more gentle with their daughters and vice versa with their
Fathers are often under a lot of personal and cultural pressure to be “the man of the house.” Studies have gone in depth regarding how this affects a father's interaction with his children. Often, fathers spend their whole lives working to support their children and teaching them important new skills and abilities. Even more than a mother, they perceive their children as weak or
A father and son relationship is very important. It is the foundation for boys to become men. The article, “Why the Father Wound Matter: Consequences for Male Mental Health and the Father-Son Relationship”, by Eric D. Miller explains the concept of a father wound that can manifest in males due to a father neglecting or abusing them. Miller stresses that by becoming fathers’, men can overcome father wounds. He touches upon the idea of masculinity, and how it can be a factor to why there is sometimes a distant relationship between a father and a son. The “A Father’s Call: Father-Son Relationship Survival of Critical Life Transitions”, by Ivory Achebe Toldson and Ivory Lee Toldson explains the relationship between a father and a son from adolescent into adulthood. Lee who was the father describes his struggles through a divorce and how he stayed connected to his son no matter what occurred. Lee’s son Achehbe is also featured in the article and expresses the rough childhood he went through without his father being directly in his life. Together these two articles show that a father is essential to the raising of a boy because without one many form father wounds along with emotional problems.
By having a father in the home it enables the child to see a masculine role inside the home. The father’s role is not to act as an authoritarian for the mother for punishment, but to also give the child love.