Arranged Marriages in India

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Arranged marriages in India

Arranged marriages continue to be normative in many Asian cultures, such as Japan, India, Korea, and so on (Applbaum, 1995). Specifically, among Hindus in India, they continue to be the most popular form of organizing a marital relationship (Mullatti, 1995). Despite globalization, modernization, and urbanization, the number of arranged marriages continues to outnumber 'love ' or 'self-arranged ' marriages. In fact, an estimated 95% of all Hindu marriages in India are still arranged marriages (Chawla, 2004). My parents are Indian, my mother was born in the Islands of Fiji and my father was born in India, they both migrated to the US in Los Angeles, where they met though arranged marriage.
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In these conservative areas dating may not be socially permissible; however the couple may talk over the phone in order to get to know each other before being married.
I read a story about Neeta 's, a 44-year-old woman entrepreneur was married into a joint family in which she was required to live not only with a mother-in-law, but also a grandmother-in-law. Her personal history of her unmarried life was a source of conflict with her mother-in-law. As an unmarried woman, Neeta had been fussy about whom she would marry. Word of this had reached her husband 's home. Her grandmother-in-law and mother-in-law were aware that she was 'outspoken, ' because they knew that she had rejected many men before she chose to marry their son. When Neeta began living with them after marriage they proceeded to discipline her by imposing rules which required her to cook, not answer back, and learn other household chores. Neeta followed these rules in Silence. “I already knew that my reputation was that 'she is very outspoken. ' I did not want to do anything that would aggravate that. I did not know what to do. I was not happy, so I went home for a little while. When I returned my grandmother-in-law came to stay with us and this became a major adjustment point because she was very clever. She had heard that I was sharp, so from the beginning she knew that if they don 't keep
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