Blaming the Victim

1214 WordsApr 16, 20155 Pages
Blaming the Victim Sarah Schwartz Baker College Comp 101 Blaming the Victim 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime (safehorizon.org). Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. I am that 1 of 4 woman who have experienced an abusive relationship. I was always asked why I didn’t leave or why I didn’t say something, instead of my abuser being asked why. Women are always asked why didn’t you leave, why did this happen, or why didn’t you say something. This can also be called victim blaming. Most of society thinks focusing on the victims of an abusive…show more content…
Woman stay in in abusive relationships for a variety of reason, some are strictly economic and some woman feel they can’t survive in the world on their own (Ford, 2001, pg. 39). We as women fear the shame from society, the courts, and even our own families. In 2008, my abusive relationship came to a destructive end. My father, my daughter and I were attacked by my ex-husband. We went through the process of making victim impact statements, testifying in court, and he still managed to walk away with fines and a restraining order. Within 24 hours of the restraining order being issued, he violated it. He came into my trailer park and attacked the neighbors that helped me call the police. I remember feeling terrified when I found this out because I thought I would be safe. Incidents like this are why many women refuse/debate testifying against their abusers. While some battered women will want prosecution to the fullest extent of the law, many do not. Because of the existing or past relationship, the victim knows that the batterer will see the prosecution as a hostile attack by the victim; he will retaliate against her in some fashion. And despite the best intentions of police and prosecutors; in the battered woman’s eyes, the system will not be able to protect her from this retaliation. (McGuire, 1999) In conclusion, we as a society need not focus on the victim of an abusive relationship but on her abuser. The abuser chose to make her the victim,
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